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  • View author's info posted on Sep 25, 2005 22:36



    californiabunny write:

    ScrippsRanchMel write:

    ready2BwithU write:

    sweetdeanne write:
    I have people look at my profile but now response? Why? I am also emailing but no responses. Hmmm...



    I know why. This one is easy to figure out. Because the first sentence in your "about me" section says that you are a single mom to a two year old. Not many men want a girl with baggage. They would rather have a girl without children or one who's children are grown and out of the house.



    Oh my! I can't believe someone that thinks children are baggage. My daughter is THE BEST THING that has happened in my life. I suggest ready2BwithU that you reevaluate your life.

    Here is my angel and I am very proud that she is my daughter.



    I wouldn't date a guy that has kids. Kids are baggage to somebody that has none. I plan on having my own kids. I'm not taking care of his kids. My kids come first. His come last. Men know this and this is why most men and woman will not date other people with kids. They even specify it in their profile that they do not want somebody with kids or baggage. Not many single woman without kids would date a guy with kids. Smart men know that woman without children do not want a man with children unless she has children herself and want to combine the families.

    ITS CAROL BRADY!!!!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 25, 2005 16:30


    SweetDeanne, do not change anything in your profile. I believe children are a blessing. I have no children and I love the idea of being a stepmom. The more children a man has, the better. I know most women do not feel that way but I certainly do. I have a lot of love to share. You are only being honest about your child. You cannot hide your son from anyone you would be dating. I'm only 4'6" and I put it in my profile because I think any one I dated would notice that. Hang in there because not many men wink at me or send e-mails to me either. The few that do are very worthwhile people and I am having a great time in these forums. You will too.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 25, 2005 09:02



    californiabunny write:

    I wouldn't date a guy that has kids. Kids are baggage to somebody that has none. I plan on having my own kids. I'm not taking care of his kids. My kids come first. His come last.




    Wow, that is pretty harsh. I think statements like this tell you alot more about a person's character, maturity, and compassion than a 10 page self written profile.

    I have no problem with people who prefer to date someone without children as there are certainly alot of logical and practical reasons for that preference. But to refer to children as "baggage" shows an apalling lack of compassion and sensitivity and to say that, in a melded family, "my kids come first, his kids come last" ......well, I would pity ANY child who would have a parent/step-parent with that kind of attitude.

    When some people reach a certain age, after decades of being concerned and occupied with only their own personal needs (me, me, me syndrome) I think it's best just to keep the formula simple by not adding any distracting inconveniences (ie: CHILDREN) that might negatively impact their preferred focus (themselves).

    As a father of one grown child, allow me to say this: Helping to raise and nurture a child (whether or not it is your own biological child)and seeing that child become a wonderful and productive adult is THE most important, rewarding, and fufilling thing you will EVER do. PERIOD!

    Sweetdeanne, don't let the naysayers (especially the troll from Beverly Hills - yeah right!) get you down. If any guy has issues with you having a child he is definitely not the one for you and certainly not somebody you want anywhere near your child. Just remember your priorities and be patient. Good things will come...
  • View author's info posted on Sep 23, 2005 14:13


    Mel...your back!!!! Great to see you!!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 22, 2005 16:46


    dont worry darling, it's probably none of that.. you know what.. i havent really had any hits on here either.. there is a lot of women on here (as if you couldnt tell by all the female posters) and it's hard to find someone.. just give it time.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 22, 2005 13:21


    If they can't handle the fact that I have a son, then I don't need them. I don't consider having a kid "baggage". I am not looking for a daddie for him on this site, he has one. Ugh!
    Someone should want to be with me because of Me.
    Also,I am not willing to relocate.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 21, 2005 23:39


    Hi-
    This is my first post. I checked out your profile, and it seems fine. I do have two suggestions (not criticisms :-))
    1) I would change the sentence "I do take very well care of myself" to "I take very good care of myself."
    2) Is it possible, if you met Mr.Right, that you would be willing to relocate? If not, certainly don't lie about it. But if you think you could, state that in your profile. It might open up some other possibilities.
    Anyway, other than that you seem nice and normal, so just hang in there! Something will happen. Good luck...
  • View author's info posted on Sep 21, 2005 23:08



    ready2BwithU write:

    sweetdeanne write:
    I have people look at my profile but now response? Why? I am also emailing but no responses. Hmmm...



    I know why. This one is easy to figure out. Because the first sentence in your "about me" section says that you are a single mom to a two year old. Not many men want a girl with baggage. They would rather have a girl without children or one who's children are grown and out of the house.



    I don't think this is true at all. There are probably more men that enjoy children than not.
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