when i started to be a lady I started to gain waight and so..yess i tried to go the gym and had a balance diet..but ever since i never told my self that I'am ugly...and i'm always telling my my self that i am as beautifull as any one else...My best friend is also fat like me..but we never considered our selves defferent form the rest of the world..it doest mean your fat your ugly..any way being beautifull doesn't mean you r to be slim or u have to look like cindy crowford or julia roberst..beauty is from the inside.."if you wanna be beautifuyll. Fell beautifull..then the rest will fallow"
For me being heavy is extra sexy..dont you think??
Personality and attitude is all I ever really see in people, cause when i close my eyes i only hear the words and how you express them. Pretty can be ugly, so can skinny. every hear one open their mouth and begin to speak and you Can't wait till they shut up and stop braggin about how great thou art. omg. I have heard this too much.
Its really how you view yourself. Fat is not my vocabulary. I can do anything I put my mind to. so beware of your own charecter flaws before you start pointing out others. Your perfect life is not so perfect. If it was, you would already have a 5 carrot diamond ring and a millionaire snagged around your waist, and you would not have your particulars listed here looking for love. Get it right ms. perfects in the world.
Everyone wants something different, may not be what you like or invision. It is a personal choice. My Big booty might excite someone, however another might want a flat ass. its all irrelevant to me.
Being heavy isn't being ugly. I consider myself a big girl. I haven't always been big, however, because of past medical issues I became large. One thing I remembered and worked on was how I carried myself. I was taught that you hold your head up and be proud of who you are. If there is something you can do about it (in a healty way) then do so. In the meantime love yourself. Learn how to wear the appropriate clothing for your body type - a big mistake many we as big women make.
There is someone out there that loves you for you. Just make sure you're healthy physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Beautiful is beautiful no matter what the shape or size. Take pride in yourself. Know that you were created with beauty, grace and intelligence. Remember to love yourself! People like people that like themselves. Not that they are really the ones that really matter. Make yourself happy. As long as you like what you see in the mirror that's ALL that really matters. :-)
From a medical standpoint, if you're over your ideal weight then you're considered obese. In that case 3 thirds of america are obese and that is a serious problem. Our diet is part of the reason why alot of people are overweight. But, also it could be due to health problems, medications etc.
Everyone in gods eyes is beautiful. It is man who makes the distinction as to what beauty is and that is a shame.
If a man doesn't like you because you're fat. Then HE is the wack one in that deal and he has got to take a step to the left->
This doesn't exclude the women either, alot of women are superficial also and want a man who is "perfect" in their eyes. I know that some physical attraction is necessary for some spark to happen. But come on now,, what happened with society? Has society gone wild with the standards of beauty?
Ladies if a man truly loves you for YOU that means ALL of YOU. Then he is a TRUE MAN to have around.
If he is caught up in the Barbie doll look with the fake breasts and cut nose injected lips and booty then he has a serious problem.
You must learn how to love yourself FIRST before anyone could love you.
star_emelia69 write: when i started to be a lady I started to gain waight and so..yess i tried to go the gym and had a balance diet..but ever since i never told my self that I'am ugly...and i'm always telling my my self that i am as beautifull as any one else...My best friend is also fat like me..but we never considered our selves defferent form the rest of the world..it doest mean your fat your ugly..any way being beautifull doesn't mean you r to be slim or u have to look like cindy crowford or julia roberst..beauty is from the inside.."if you wanna be beautifuyll. Fell beautifull..then the rest will fallow" For me being heavy is extra sexy..dont you think??
I couldn't resist responding to this thread, especially after reading the way Alexa and Sexy Single Mom were going at it. But first and foremost, my goal is to address the concerns of the original poster about whether big girls are sexy too.
When I was in high school, before I hit puberty and filled out, I was built like a 12 year-old boy. I wore juniors sizes and my feet were too small to find high heels in my size. I had no curves at all and desperately wanted some.
I became friends with a girl named Angel. She was Portuguese, tall, voluptuous, and LARGE. She had clouds of long dark hair, full painted lips, a HUGE backside, and monster jugs. She was a plus-size girl even in high school. And she was the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen.
She was an only child and was adored and spoiled within the family unit. Her self-esteem was so high that she NEVER had issues with her self-worth. She was beautiful, she was hot, she was worthy, she could get any guy she wanted, and it SHOWED.
Everytime she stepped out her door, she was DRESSED. She took great pride in the way she looked, and she always looked her best. Her makeup was FLAWLESS, her hair perfect, her shoes shined, her manicure fresh and her attitude in check.
By conventional comparison, she was not the typical idea of what is considered beautiful in America today. But because of the positive feedback she received at home and the amount of self-esteem that that instilled in her, this girl thought she was a supermodel, and carried herself as such.
To this day, I still think that she is one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. And I am so thankful that I had her as an example of what is beautiful as I've gone from a size 0, to a size 6, to a size 10. I know that I am beautiful no matter what my size and I emit that from my pores. And I've never had any lack of male attention despite fluctuations in my weight.
So Emilia, I hope that this gives you the insight you were looking for.
Alexa1985 write: "Like I said, it's not too much you can say that will hurt my feelings!!! I think your little comments are cute."
I didn't feel hurt at all, I was trying to tell you my goal here is not "hurt your feelings" by offending you :) I'm the one here with a waist "HA HA HA" And the baby fat you have now has been there for some years already, if I well read your profile. I think you just let yourself down. And anyway, I think I'm smart enough to hadle feedback. Maybe you are funny too, but I don't want to admitt it :)
So are we saying the same thing??? :-) LOL
You're not offending me and I'm not offending you. Then we're on the same page!
Hey fat is fat, some people lose fast and unhealthy and some people lose slow and healthy. I chose slow. Especially after a c-section! Now unless you've had one of those, you can't comment.
I bet you haven't had any babies, you don't have any room in your belly for them to grow!! LOL (just a joke,really just joking)
Anyway, you didn't offend me because I try not to let anyone's comments offend me. As for the other big girls, you may have drove them into tears (and not from laughter). The worst thing a fat person who's unhappy with themselves can hear is a skinny person calling them fat! That's sincere. That's not a dig or anything like that, it's just probably how they feel.
Alexa, do you wonder why have we've been the only ones exchanging banter? You know other people are reading this forum (especially the big ones), why do you think they haven't commented? Probably because they're scared you might say something to them that will send them spiraling downhill.
That's why I had to say something to you. It was to show them (the big girls) to be proud of who they are (regardless of whether or not they're happy with the weight or lack of). Be proud of the skin you're in. And until it changes, the skin you're in is all you have!
HA Ha, Alexia, you're funny. It's not that I didn't know how to spell your name, it's just that I don't care!!!!
Keep dating the broke artists and leave the rich jerks to me. Here in America we like food, maybe because we have it to eat!!! LOL
Like I said, it's not too much you can say that will hurt my feelings!!! I think your little comments are cute.
I hope star emelia69 learns that the people who think she's unattractive don't count anyway. She'll be a lot happier!!! See you around, Alexia. It's been great talking with your skinny as*. LOL. If you need me to send a burger to Romania, let me know!!! I will!!! LOL
Alexa1985 write: Ha ha ha Better focus on your a**, I'm proud of mine :) Besides, had no complains until now about my looks and I can easily have a Big Mac without having to worry about my weight. I'm lucky about that. My message was for the ones who try to stay fit but not to please anorexic girls, but for the majority of men. Very few Renaissance artists left to fancy chubby females.
Alexia, Renaissance men are usually broke anyway. You can have them and they can have the anorexics. LOL.
Please, by all means eat a Big Mac, it'll do you some good!!! Your man will love the new mellow & FULL Alexia!!
As you can see in the pic above and in my profile, my a** is doing just fine.
Thanks for your concern, but no thanks!! :-)
Alexa1985 write: Hahaha...fat women trying to make each other feel better? I can only say one thing: I would hate to be fat and I would do anything to change that! So I do think girls should work more on that, because competition is very hard nowdays. Lots of slim girls with great personality also. So if yoy already have the inner beauty, why not try to get the proper look, also? I didn't mean to be mean, just telling you what I feel.
Look proper to who, Alexa, you? Well, who made you the judge of all? There are plenty of men out here that totally disagree. You need a burger and maybe you wouldn't be so evil.
See I am who I am, fat or skinny. It's my choice. I work on losing weight but not because of people like you, screw you. I work on losing weight because I like the way I look thinner than fatter.
I advise you to watch what you say before God drops a big fatty on top of your head!! With your skinny, boney, anorexic a** you'll flatten like a pancake.
BTW fat women can lose weight. What are you going to do about those crows feet. CAW CAW CAW!!! Ha Ha Ha
"I didn't mean to be mean, just telling you what I feel."
fullfigurebeauty write: No absolutely not I am a full figured woman and I feel good about myself! it is what you feel about yourself that matters if you feel good and happy then nothing else matters LIVE YOUR LIFE!!
Honestly that's the attitude I love.....and believing in one's self.
Nah, some beautiful people are ugly because of their attitude. I think is more about how you carry yourself and treat others that determine that. Also remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. you need to tell yourself that you are beautiful no matter what size you are.