Can anyone explain this? Comments and Suggestions

  • View author's info Author posted on Feb 24, 2010 13:40

    I have found things a little strange since joining.

     I get quite a few winks, but when I go to check their profile, I find that most of them have either "hidden their profile" or they "can't be found"

    What's that about? Why would you hide your profile from a person you have just winked at? 

    I thought at first, that maybe someone had just started contacting another member and therfor hid their profile even though they had maybe just winked at a few others before they started the contact.

    But, does this account for most of the people who have winked at me?

    Has anyone else had this issue?

    To be fair, when I get the "hidden profile" message, it does say that I could email the person through the site to ask them to reveal their profile, but I don't think that will have much success, after all, why did they wink at me then hide themselves in the first place?

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  • View author's info posted on Oct 20, 2013 13:48

    You are not the only one and now everyone else feels better because of your courage to come forth and speak the truth.


  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2013 11:46

    Three of the posts here say "This User is not available", including someone that complained about the situation.


    I find that very funny.

  • View author's info Recommended posted on May 14, 2012 07:31

    These profiles could have been removed by MMCounselor because someome reported them as a scammer.  Be glad you did not have to deal with the scammers on this site (and there are many).  This site takes scammers seriously and does a great job of removing them.  Check out the scammer blog and see if his/her photo is on there.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 27, 2011 19:11

    the tons of winks could be: their last few weeks of chance to meet someone.
    ..hidden profile esp on weekends means that they may have made changes, added a note or pic so it is blocked from few till approved..
    xx if tey are asking fro approval, means that the other person filtered it be seen by gold members only , they can wink, but you are not allowed to see their profile unless
  • View author's info posted on Jul 13, 2011 13:35

    Report these people to Customer Support.  They'll investigate.

  • View author's info posted on Mar 24, 2010 19:20

    You're not the only one.  It's happened to me a lot, too.  I don't know why it happens, but I have emailed guys who did this.  Some add me as a favorite to further the conversation (they can sometimes be viewed by people they have "favorited") and others don't respond.  And them sometimes, I know it's disconcerting, but sometimes they have already found someone.  I know it's a generalization, but I have heard many men talk about dating as being a "numbers game."  They throw out a lot of emails and winks and then see what comes back.  They're not necessarily serious when they email or wink.  They figure if they ask out 30 or 40 women, at least 1 will say yes.  And then sometimes they will email or wink women who are way out of their league "just in case."  Like men who are old enough to be your father and even older than that.  Yuck.

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