I personally would like to meet in person than chat all day for days, messaging, I have found that many men sound so good, and are just good writers and know what to say, but then I meet them and we just dont hit it it off. I think you can get to know if you are compatible with someone by meeting them over coffee for an hour a lot better and faster than through messages.
lol. They say they who can not trust can not be trusted. Good or bad if you look for something specific in someone you will find it. Regardless if something is true or not an individual will find evidence to support their beliefs every day of the week.