1hot-"I would absolutely move to be with you, but you have to ROCK MY WORLD in every possible way!!"
I have been thinking about that phrase ever since I had a woman say she could rock my world.
I was afraid I would get seasick, so I turned her down, but now I am thinking I might have passed up a good thing. I could have taken some seasick pills.
Anyone know how I can to learn to do that Rocking Robin stuff. I think I need to learn. Sing along here............................
Seriously, I know what you mean. There is absolutely no sense in settling for less than you want unless you are the type that just needs to be married for the sake of the marriage institution, and not necesarily because of the person you are marrying. One of my friends just did that and may have lucked out-but too soon to tell. I would be scared to death to do such a thing (just because of a great need to be married). Did you notice the stuttering and cold shakes when I said the M word???
I agree with everyone. Don't base all your decisions on your kids. Ultimately if you are happy then so are they. I would absolutely move for love, but it would have to be special, true love! The kind that you can't stop thinking about or want to be with the other person. Since I do have kids, moving would be a BIG sacrifice, so it would have to be the kind of love that lasts forever. I just haven't found that yet. :-( When I do, then it wouldn't matter if I had to move to the end of the earth to be with that person!
So take note men of MM.....I would absolutely move to be with you, but you have to ROCK MY WORLD in every possible way!! This second time around, I am not settling. I want the love of a lifetime. :-)
I am contributing a bit late to this... as I was away... but just to say that I would be more than willing to relocate and I am not running away from anything!! My mind would never had gone there actually....!
www---- I wish it was that easy. My kids are 13 and 5. If I found love and wanted to move, my ex would have a HUGE problem with that. He would take my kids away from me. In upstate NY I must always live with in, I think it is, 1-2 hours of him. Until my kids reach 18. I probably could fight him in court and win but my kids especial my oldest would be very upset if we did move away from his dad. I must always think of my kids first then myself second when finding love.
Never decide where you need to live based upon your kids. Kids move, get transfered, want to see the world themselves, marry and go where the jobs are, or the fun is.
They can always come and visit, whereever you are. If you follow them around, you might be buying and selling a lot, and which kid do you follow to the ends of the earth anyway. Mine live 2000 miles apart and I wouldn't like living either place.
Wow... sometimes I can be so naive... lol... I never would have thought that someone wanting to relocate could mean that they wanted to run away from something... wow... Must be because I'm not one to run away...
"someone who is willing to relocate is suspect....'
Perhaps there is a grain of truth in that, but then again there may be an adventurous side to a person that says, "the world is my oyster and there is nowhere I wouldn't go!"
Despite the feelings of trepidation re: a new locale with new faces, new rules, etc... I appreciate the variety of places and cultures that exist.
Had I not been willing to travel the road less traveled, willing to take a risk, a lot of my personal and spiritual growth would have never transpired.
Some folks may be willing to relocate in an effort to run from something, but don't discount the fact that there are those who are willing to take a chance to gain something, either.
On a final note, if I thought there was a chance, just a small chance, that I might one day reestablish a relationship like the one I lost, I would walk thru hell and back, leaving everything I had behind, for just the chance, to try to make that magic happen again.
Granted, my kids are grown and on their own.
If they were younger, I would undoubtedly harbor different sentiments in this regard.
Maybe the best comment I could make to someone who was suspicous of another's motives would be the same advise I raised my kids with.
"Trust your instincts, they may not always be right, but they are rarely wrong."
However, it would be wrong to just automatically assume the worst.
Thank you Bob...your comments give me great hope.....I was reading another link where the guy was stating that anybody who would pick up and go whereever was suspect...I was pretty isolated after my divorce and I made several moves quickly (within 2 years) to help me financially and for improving the quality of life for my son, neighborhood wise....however...this last move was great for investments, good for my son, but terrible for me and my social life...its the land of couples and endless suburbia...and I would move again in a minute.....for the best of all reasons
My sister met a guy in Chicago she dated for two years...they would drive to Detroit to meet every weekend then he asked to marry her and she said get lost. She had a guy she dated for a year from Florida they would fly to see each other every month or two. Now she is seeing some guy from Ohio. We live near Toronto. One of my employees just married a guy from Columbia, Maryland. All of the above from web dating. To hell with them. Where's my love?
More on this subject...I suppose the real question is...how many people actually start.... and can sustain ....a long distance relationship to GET to the point where one would make a long distance leap...?
Computers have not really changed much for us out here in cyber-space ,has it?
We can look far and wide and be tantalized with all the wonderful possibilities and then ..we are still religated to that boy or girl next door...or within the convenient 50 mile radius....sigh
I am new in this town and it has not been hard to make a friend or two...but I am not finding this town a good fit for me......can anyone relate?
What a great question! ..and I'm so glad to see that I am not the only one who would re-locate for love.....actually, .I actually am hoping for it...a change of scenery would be wonderful....I've got a serious case of wunderlust.......besides, I've lived in places I preferred over this part of Florida ....enough to know that I haven't found my happy home yet......