There is a danger in long distance relationships that I was not really aware of until I "been there, done that". Essentially, both parties are on their best behavor when both have taken the time from their normal duties and job to have fun togather. Since our daily grind is usually not just about fun, but rather about work, stress, running erands, paying bills, etc. These getaway days are not reflective of our daily lives. You have to somehow spend time together when you are not on a "honeymoon" to see how you get along in a day to day situtation. Of course this same thing can happen if you live in the same town and just see each other at "fun times".
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or wild wonderful wonder woman wanted.
Anyone notice how long distance can sometimes equate to short sightedness? Please, anyone who is involved in a LDR, even with the advanced technological advantages, make sure you act like they are next door or even in your own home.
Keep those communication lines open, it's the only way it is going to work. Although we miss our partner terribly when not together, enjoy the "time" you do have together by frequently using the technology available to converse. Don't make them worry about you for some reason that could have been avoided. Make the effort.
The above is what I have learned. The above is what I will avoid at all costs. Communication in all it's forms is so important.
Good post, katiegirl... haha... "I don't hear the voices anymore"... lol
Well I'm still in a debate with me, myself, I and MOI, about LDR's. True my daughters are ready to leave soon too. True, I can do my job anywhere. I think "MOI" is going to win the debate as far as relocating, but I think I would stick to the East Coast.
BUT I'm getting there in the reasoning part... aren't I???? Aren't you guys proud of me???
long distance will work ,but u have to be in love, determined, committed & patient...keeping the lines of communication open at all times too.people forget when they get on these sites that not always easy for other person to make the move cuz of job or family.so if u cant make a move always let that person know u are searching with-in ur area & ask questions of would they would ever move if they were attracted to someone. it's a give & take situation & isnt easy but i have seen it done. anything or anybody worth having is worth the extra effort. after all...love knows no boundries!
My ex lived 80 miles from me in a little hick town on the Trans Canada Highway. He moved to Ottawa to attend college with his brother. He was (and remains) 6' 8" and he had all these plans when we met and married, but five years later, my mother-in-law talked him into moving back to his home town .... with everything but me.
Okay, bad example of a good long distance relationship.....
Talking back and forth on the Internet is great. You can get to know anybody, no matter where they live on the planet and it's usually enough to just chat with new friends until you start to become fond of a cyber-buddy.
The key component in a romance that spans great distances is ... somebody's going to have to move!
In my case .... I am very portable. I'm a perfect candidate for a rendez-vous with someone living far away. One of the reasons I joined MM is because I wanted to meet men who could afford to fly out and visit me some day and not have to mortgage their home to get the money! Ultimately though, as I don't OWN my own home, I assume I would have the least to lose relocating to a strange town. I'm resigned to the task, willingly. (As long as you don't live in Amityville).
Good news is ... there are many foxy women on this Forum who are willing to pull up stakes and set their sites on the horizon, to move where their man lives.... good news for the remote location men, that is!
I'm single, with a child all grown up, not tied to where I live, free of std's and virtually drug-free and I don't even hear the voices as much anymore ... oh, shut up! ... NO! You shut up! ....... HEY! .... Knock it off!! .....
ahem ..... sorry about that.
So, I assume this raises my value?
(well, except for the voices...)
Ive seen many Long Distance Relationships work....The Key is..."To be totally InLove with each other and someone you can't live without"...If you are, then distance is just a Geographical problem that is fixable. The Perfect situation is to find someone in your area, but im not ignorant enough to think that my Soulmate...the man that Im meant to be with for all of my life...is just in my own backyard, He could be anywhere....which is why im on this website.....
Everyone has their own personal reasons for being on a Dating Website....some are here because they travel an just want someone to sleep with...some are on here to make friends...an some are on here to find their one True Love....and i think less are on here for the latter reason.....which in my case SUXX...LOL....In My Opinion...hehe....Have a Wonderful Day!!
I met a guy who lives on the coast. I'm crazy about him and he came to my city to visit me once. That's when I found out he was married. He's everything I've ever wanted in a man, - handsome, caring, protective, gives delicious hugs, is financially stable and has a solid job. But I can't have him. When he goes back home, not only is it far away from me, and hurts to be apart from him, but even if I moved to be closer to him... I'd screw things up for him with his wife. So ... I had to get over him. I'm still looking.
As to whether I would move or not ... my sisters live in different cities from me, my daughter is going to college in a different city soon, and I work freelance. There's NOTHING holding me here, in fact, this town owes me nothing and I deserve to try some place new. So, if any man is interested ... and if we hit it off ... I'd consider moving to be with him. (If there are palm trees and warm breezes in his neighbourhood!)
Committed long-distance relationship, with exclusivity? No way that can work. If you really BURN for someone then you're miserable when you're apart. And relocation? Most people, when they reach a certain age, have roots, with family, friends, job, mortgage, and their own local infrastructure. And the people who don't have those roots, and who will relocate in a heartbeat? Be cautious about them, they may have a hidden agenda. So that brings you back to local dating, and if your local pool is extremely small...I guess that's just life.