I'm an honest fun successful person who is discouraged A few women who met me last year would vouch that my profile is honest if understated. My e-mails are never returned even if a women has intiated contact. I hate wasting time but there seem to be a lot of terrific women who have similar beliefs to my own. so I would give it one more shot to see if there were any suggestion to my problem.. I hope there are. Mattw17(marc)
How are you today? My name is Nancy and I read your profile and this posting. I understand completely what you are saying about matches/friends that don't reply or if they do, they're not playing with a full deck or trying to scam you. If you'd like to chat sometime, let me know... Thank you for reading my posting.
Etiquette is almost non-existent in our society today. I will write a message to a "gentleman" and most of the time, I won't get a reply back. I feel that if I initiated the "conversation" as a paying member to let a non-paying (or paying) member know that I am interested, they should at least write a short reply back to say that they aren't interested. Suggestion for non-repliers - create a WORD document with several different reply backs and edit as needed. I've done that before for another dating site I was on and it works wonderfully. It was a real time saver.
I used to make it a point to answer each and every email. But, it's frustrating when I try to be honest and polite by saying I don't think we're a match just to have the guy email me back wanting to know exactly why...lol. Then I'm forced to ignore him, and I feel guilty. I've even had men write back calling me every rude name in the book because I wasn't interested. You can't let these things ruin it for you.....keep plugging.
sharp1 write: aplainjane...I continue to email non-members and they are able to reply. Unless I initiated the contact prior to MM making some significant changes and it doesn't effect previous emails...If you hit reply you should be able to email them back. If you are not hearing back from them, it could be they have chosen to discontinue contact. If you really want to reply to someone's email, I suggest you pay for the service. Then you can enjoy emailing whomever you choose at your leisure.
Once again I agree with Mary Tyler Moore.....Love Yah
I think this is a big problem on this site. as a nonpaying member i can get e-mails from members but can't respond. So they must think i am very rude, but thats not the case at all. I would love to be able to respond to an e-mail from BlackDreamLover to let him know i am interested. But all he will get is a wink as a responce. Thats the best i can do. Maybe another gold member will e-mail him and let him know. I will check back at this form. thanks
It totally depends on what the e-mail says as to if I respond or not. If someone just replys... "Hey there sexy" or "I'm interested in meeting you" then I'm likely not to respond. If there is a lot of thought in their e-mails and I can tell their are interested in getting to know me as a person the I often to reply. Lets say I'm scared of a scam and am here to first meet a friend and perhaps later take it to the next level. Jumping right into anything is not the best decision and for those of you that e-mail me right away expecting me to be on the next flight out to meet you it's not going to happen. Sorry. Nothing personal just a safety girl first. =)
i totally agree with all the given comments...i personally dont reply to emails like "hey good looking" or "just thought id say hey" originality is definatley the key to captivating your audience lol :)
so maybe if your really interested..that little extra time will show at the other end of the email..
In addition to all that has been mentioned, I suspect that the initial chemistry that was felt, is gone and they don't know how to express it or they know it will be another rejection for you. I have one male friend on match who tells me to ignore emails where there's no chemistry. Another friend told me, do what your heart tells you to do. So I answer some, acknowledge some and ignore others. I ignore those where I can clearly tell they have not read my profile, or only have a phrase or uninteresting one liners. I have regretted acknowledging some because the acknowledgement is taken as interest, even though I clearly typed that I thought we were not a good match.
I've only sent out 3 emails and got two responses. I assume that when I don't get an answer, there's no interest and I move on. I'm thankful that I'm not going to waste my valuable time. I think a 'no' means that I'm getting closer to the right 'yes'.
Hang in there.
People do not reply for many reasons.. they get scared at the reality of really having to respond.. when it is so easy to hide away behind a computer and browse/window shop.... or sometimes people just don't check out sites for months, so they have no idea there is a message...
Your ad look ok,, I dont think that is a recent picture.
I never answer every email,, i dont have time.. and if I asnwer I get answer back 90% of the time,, I dont like emails from people who are trying to be funny :(, complaying about their luck,, or negative comments. I hate when the email looks like a copy of something that has been set to other 100 people.. at least put the name (screen name) of the person who you are sending it!! well.. good luck with your stuff,, Erika
I get a reasonable percentage of responses to my e-mails and I acknowledge every one that I get. I suspect the problem lies with many people are very inactive; but their profiles remain on the site, especially true for the non paying members. I also think MM loses a lot of stuff in cyber space. I am not ready to accept the premise that most people are rude. At least not yet.
I guess there are a few of us that are experiencing this annoyance. I am really new to the whole experience and find it very frustrating. If somone in person said "hello" to me, I would never be so rude as to turn the other way. I would atleast acknowledge (with a postive or negative smile-lol) but I would acknowledge it. I am begining to find out that the norm seems to be to ignore......I personally choose not to be rude....and will continue with my way!
I get the same thing. I initiate a lot of IM and e-mails, but get nothing in return. I was thinking something was wrong (technically) with my profile, but it's good to hear that might not be the case. I personally feel if you are not interested in someone, who might have tried contacting you, the least you can do is reply with a simple but yet kind reply. I feel I am very confident and outgoing and have no issues starting up a conversation. If you don't want to talk to me, just let me know and I'll leave you alone!