Real Talk: Are You Afraid Of Being Alone? Long Term Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Feb 18, 2012 at 00:46


    Quoting mahoganyangel:

    I overheard this discussion on the train between two people last week, where two women were discussing being alone, dating, etc.

    One woman said, "Me being a widow, I'm not so much afraid of being alone because I have my children and grandchildren. My husband's love was so deep for me and there was never a doubt in my mind how deep his love was. If his love was a ocean I could sail forever, If his love were money I would be the richest women in the world, If his love was life I would live forever...I am the luckiest person in the world to have been loved so much by one person yet sometimes the saddest person because I can never again tell him how much I love him & thank him for loving me..."
    She went on to say, " ...the love I recieved from my late husband will be enough to carry me on throughout my life! I may seek companionship yes, but probably not another love like the one I once had..."


    I dwelt on that woman's words for the remainder of my train ride. I'd like to know how many of you have experienced a love that will carry you through for the rest of your life and are now looking for companionship?



    I think this woman is truly blessed. Too have so much love inside that continue to carry her through out her life is very rare.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2012 at 17:48


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  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2012 at 17:45


    Hello, how are you doing hope you are fine how was your day hope its cool, im new in this site and i really like your profile pics and your profile its very attractive and i want to be your friend if you don't mind...

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  • View author's info posted on Feb 07, 2012 at 11:56


    You can be with someone and feel alone, and be alone and feel fulfilled…

    Sad is when I hear friends telling me that, they are unhappy in their marriage and will have a child to love and fill-in their loneliness….

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  • View author's info Recommended posted on Dec 16, 2011 at 17:48


    I am also a widow and feel the same as the lady on the train.  My husband of 29 years gave me such joy and happiness.  He made me laugh every single day.  He loved to dance (no matter where we were) and told me he loved me every day.  
    He has been gone for 3 years now.....I am ready to love again.  There is no feeling like it in the world.  It is hard to date (at my age) but I am going to give it 100 % because I know there is a special man out there for me.
  • View author's info Recommended posted on Dec 15, 2011 at 16:29


    I'm not afraid of being alone.  I'd rather be with someone else, however.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 15, 2008 at 12:43


    I love my alone time, it gives be a chance to do things I enjoy, paint, walking on the beach, listening to the birds sing, exc...
    I hope to one day find a man who can do these things with me "at times", but will also give me the space to be my own person and not feel treatened by my independence.
  • View author's info posted on Mar 09, 2008 at 15:11


    Honestly, yes...

    I know that I am not alone. I am not even really afraid. Its just that I have never been in a relationship (a healthy one anyways).

    I was only in 1 really bad relationship, which has never stopped me from wanted companionship from a REAL man, but I still haven't experienced that.

    The only kind of guys that seem to approach me are the ones that have no drive, motivation, goals or either I get the playas.

    After the good guys are already taken I always get the " Well, you are so beautiful I would have thought you were in a relationship"... Which sucks because I get that a lot which leaves me single and lonely :(.

    Shontia
  • View author's info posted on Feb 28, 2008 at 15:26


    regarding the 1st message that is the base of this discussion, i think that was a very lucky woman! to have found true love in her life...a love that still caries on even after the loved one is gone forever. the feeling of knowing they were soul mates, believing in the other one no matter what!she knew how to receive everything good in her life and responded back! she knows their love is eternal and nothing and no one can ever replace that feeling. i admire her!
  • View author's info posted on Nov 24, 2007 at 21:31


    NO, I just do not want to be, but i found myself this past holiday along, sadly along, my children stop by breiftly and went to engagements, I never thought I would be along, like patty labels song on my own, that me, 50 yrs young and much younger at heart the pic i have posted is a sedate pic of me, I'am usually mistake for 36-42 but I'am somewhat of an introvert. 2008 new me.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 30, 2007 at 13:37


    unsnaggedeagle write:
    I for one like being on my own, and I liked sharing it with another person, that is right for me, however, I have grown from each and learned to like both.
    Re:





    I find this the perfect description of being alone and not lonely. Kudos to you, Unsnuggle.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 21, 2007 at 19:35


    I very afraid of being alone now that my son is 1800 miles away. He always wanted me to find someone but I always said no. But now I am getting older and more lonely. I don't want to die alone with no one near. I just want to find the man God wants me to have so he can take of me. Having 2 cats is nice but it just isn't the same.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 26, 2007 at 05:01


    yes i ll admit im afraid of been alone i live with my children but its not the same id love to marry again but has to be with the right man
  • View author's info posted on Jun 13, 2007 at 06:26


    I am not afraid of being alone. Through various life experiences, I have learned how to enjoy life as an individual. I have friends and family and that's basically all I really need.

    I will say, however, that is is my sincere desire to be married again. I would really LUV to have someone in my life who is willing to help me carry the load (or maybe even carry it for me for a while).

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  • View author's info posted on Jun 04, 2007 at 17:29


    i am afraid of being alone too. but i am alone now :(

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  • View author's info posted on Jun 01, 2007 at 01:04


    I think that deep down everyone is a little bit affraid of being alone whether it be a longing to share, society's frowns, security,....otherwise why would people always look for love and relationships or even join this type of site? What does alone mean anyway, you can feel alone while married but it is your heart that feels alone, no one is always totally on their own. Loneliness is the worst feeling I think and it can still be felt even when you are not alone

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  • View author's info posted on Feb 19, 2007 at 07:58


    Being alone is only a problem if you don't like the person you are with.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 18, 2007 at 18:59


    I for one like being on my own, and I liked sharing it with another person, that is right for me, however, I have grown from each and learned to like both.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 12, 2006 at 15:41


    We're never alone .........
    It seems as though sometimes the inner voice is deafening.
    Always nice to share with another spirit.

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  • View author's info posted on Aug 18, 2006 at 14:40


    I am not in the least afraid of being alone. I have been single now for ...uh...20 years. I have experienced deep intense love so I do not feel I have missed out on anything. What I will not do is hook up with anyone just because I might not want to be alone. Having been alone so long, it would take a really great guy to understand that the degree of independence I have developed is something not easily thrown away. I do know though that you can have a very effective meaningful relationship with someone that is REAL and have the benefit of someone who does not dote all over you. Some people like it. Some people don't. Some people like it some. I guess it all depends on who that person is and how well they dote or how not well they dote. :)

    That woman just might have liked to be doted on. Many ways though to show someone you love them and one way is to give them their space and understand that being together does not necessarily mean that you are together every minute.

    Ciao.

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