It's very hard to be successful and work the hours I do and have the time to look for a partner. Any suggestions ladies?
I have about 2 years left of these hours and then it's retirement at 40 for me....
Not sure I would take a woman's advice anyhow (just kidding ladies!)... lonelycali, don't even think about looking for a partner until you can find the time for her!
For Starly... retirement doesn't necessarily equate to boredom... been retired 5 years now and can honestly say I've not yet had a moment of boredom... couldn't say that about my working life before that though... its all a question of attitude, and I personally have "learned to be still" :)
lonelycali write: It's very hard to be successful and work the hours I do and have the time to look for a partner. Any suggestions ladies? I have about 2 years left of these hours and then it's retirement at 40 for me....
My, impressive then. Retirement at 40, wow! U asked how to search for a partner when you are too busy? Well, you really can't. You need to find the time off, allocate the time if you wish, make a list of the qualities you are searching for in a lady partner and your subconscious will start looking for her even during office hours.
Id say just dont waste time! think for a moment what is everything you want /dont want? write it down, keep it...when your serching profiles dont settle ! start at the top and work your way down. As y go though this process youll see that what you thught you want isint so important and what you thought you didnt want isisnt so bad...i for one realized that i shouldnt write off me outside of canada...becouse as i get closer to graduation in 6 mo i dont even plan to stay in canada! any how bottom line? one you know exactly what you want it gets easyer...and dont forget to visualze and belive! see her smel her go to bed knowing shes on her way...and before you know it shell be in your arms:)
Maybe you should date a woman that has a similar lifestyle like yourself. There are still some women, who have just as successful careers, and would want to have a mate/companion to do fun things with while getting to really know each other. Just do the things you enjoy doing and if you see a potential lady then start light, like inviting her for coffee or ice cream. Don't try to create or force the "relationship thing", just have fun and be up front. If she is to even be a consideration, then she will understand.
Well if you going to retire in 2 years, and you try to find a woman who his independent is going to be hard after you do retire. Because guess who is going to be the dependent one. It won't be her. Then you will appear needy to the woman. So my suggestion to you is to find time for someone you truely care about.
Yes. Find an independent woman who doesn't need constant attention.
I have many interests and would hate a relationship in which I had to give too much of my time to a man, I think there are many women like me in this respect.
P.S- This is not an advert! (I always find it difficult in this kind of discussion not to make it sound so)
IMHO, Busy shall never be an excuse. When you truely love someone, regardless how busy you are, you never forget to let them know that you care and love, unless u are off on a highly confidential job, that is different and it will be a mutual agreement, understanding between the two... also, compromisation, and never take for granted that 'you know I am busy'... Trust as well, bottom line.. never forget to express your feelings and affections. If you are able to find someone compatible with you, it is all right, otherwise, better wait then...
Why not just focus on your career for the next two years and when you're done, have one long vacation, then focus on having a stable relationship. If you are seeking to find a woman while focused on your career, then it's kind of hard to really be committed to that woman completely.
Retiring at 40 gives you the chance to still enjoy life and find love. You are still young.
well from experience.. i met a man on the site .. we fell in love. He told me he was retiring to spend more time with me. It never happened. I accepted this is who he is. He may love me, but does not show it. He has been alone so long its his life. I think women would understand and be more patient if the answer to this question was always yes. If you had a choice... would you rather be in my arms? If the answer is always yes...your question should now be.. what is my priority? You can lose your money overnight...a good woman in your corner can help you get it back. You just may realize with the love of a good woman.. its not as important as you thought it once was.
I know what you mean, Im 29 and while i do meet girls and have plenty of adventures, its hard to build a relationship as at this stage of my life i have to give my work priority and if that means a few days with no sleep and no reply to sms's etc thats how it has to be. I have messed up a few good opertunities, really would like to find someone
Hello Mister Hardworking Man! When you aren't looking, that's when she'll come along! :) In the meantime, watch the movie "Must Love Dogs!" Her family and friends kept being on the lookout for her! Maybe your friends know a reeeeally nice girl who's in the same boat! Best of luck to you!
I'm going to have to echo the sentiments of these other bright, beautiful women. Unless you are fortunate enough to find someone that works the exact same schedule as you do (or has no schedule at all to follow), you may want to wait until you retire. Relationships, especially in the beginning, take time. You want to truly know someone before you commit to them, right? Know that they're not in it just for the money (if they don't have your physical presence, what else is there?), and that they will be faithful when you're away. How can you do that if you're always at work? How can you create those romantic moments to laugh about and share if you're never there? The only thing your relationship would have going for it, is that she would have plenty of time to miss you (I speak from experience, my friend) but absence doesn't always make the heart grow fonder, sometimes it makes it resentful and anxious. You have to put in time and effort to make a things work. Until you're willing and able to do that, you may be able to say you have a girlfriend, but unforunately you may not have a relationship...