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Posted on Thu, Jun 01, 2006 09:46

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katiegrlK2B write:
I think everyone (women) should cut and paste and print out this post by Lombard. I think it's probably the best answer to the question ever posted! (Unless some of you other super-studs have a difference of opinion, or want to expand on it.


Yes, it was well said! I agree with the first part of it, however not the part of the not wanting forever. It seems my past few relationship got to a certain level but it was the females that didn't want to deepen it. They were happy with semi-frequent interaction and "good sex"...

Perhaps I only feel that way because I have never reached the depth I desire. What is the old MBA saying about "everyone reaching their own level of incompetance" ???


I'm glad you expanded with your ideas Rob. It's hard to "guess" or theorize about the opposite gender, when you've never been there. (Past incarnations don't count if you can't remember them).

It's a shame that the people who desire a loving, permanent relationship are so few and far between, or just really darn hard to find. I'm of a mind now that permanence is not as important to me as just having the love. (AND great sex).



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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 13:11

katiegrlK2B write:
Lombard write:
I can't imagine that any two men want exactly the same thing, but I will let women in on a few gender secrets.

The good news for women:
Men are simple folk. We all want a beautiful woman who wants us. Now, we all define beauty in a different way. Some things are fairly constant. In general, high cheekbones, a strong jaw line and expressive eyes are apealing. Also, we don't know why, but we like breasts. Some men like hard bodies, others like softer curves.

Just like women, we respond to good smells.

Emotionally, we are less complicated then women. We make decisions and stay fairly consistent. If a man seems complicated, it is because he is drifting away and wants to leave a relationship, but doesn't want to hurt you. Dump him like a hot potato. You'll both be happier.

Most intelligent men like intelctually challenging women. If your guy doesn't want you to have opinions, dump him. You deserve better.

Most secure smart men like women who know their own physical needs and act on them. If your man is intimidated by sexual aggresiveness, dump him. Either he's a weenie or doesn't find you appealing. In both cases, dumpable offenses.

Here is the bad news:
We want smart, funny, secure, beautiful women who want us, but it is terrifying to us that it might have to be the same person for the rest of our lives. We don't like it, but it's true. There is some chemical/neural thing that reduces the attractiveness of even the most alluring woman, over time. It really sucks.

Now, I know some men will say that they are the exception to this. It's possible, but not probable.

However, that doesn't mean that lifetime committment isn't possible. It's just really hard, and all those things men want, i.e. beauty, brains, humor and great sex, have to be replaced by shared dreams, hopes, values and hard work at the job of having a relationship.


I think everyone (women) should cut and paste and print out this post by Lombard. I think it's probably the best answer to the question ever posted! (Unless some of you other super-studs have a difference of opinion, or want to expand on it.


Yes, it was well said! I agree with the first part of it, however not the part of the not wanting forever. It seems my past few relationship got to a certain level but it was the females that didn't want to deepen it. They were happy with semi-frequent interaction and "good sex"...

Perhaps I only feel that way because I have never reached the depth I desire. What is the old MBA saying about "everyone reaching their own level of incompetance" ???



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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 22:41

Lombard write:
I can't imagine that any two men want exactly the same thing, but I will let women in on a few gender secrets.

The good news for women:
Men are simple folk. We all want a beautiful woman who wants us. Now, we all define beauty in a different way. Some things are fairly constant. In general, high cheekbones, a strong jaw line and expressive eyes are apealing. Also, we don't know why, but we like breasts. Some men like hard bodies, others like softer curves.

Just like women, we respond to good smells.

Emotionally, we are less complicated then women. We make decisions and stay fairly consistent. If a man seems complicated, it is because he is drifting away and wants to leave a relationship, but doesn't want to hurt you. Dump him like a hot potato. You'll both be happier.

Most intelligent men like intelctually challenging women. If your guy doesn't want you to have opinions, dump him. You deserve better.

Most secure smart men like women who know their own physical needs and act on them. If your man is intimidated by sexual aggresiveness, dump him. Either he's a weenie or doesn't find you appealing. In both cases, dumpable offenses.

Here is the bad news:
We want smart, funny, secure, beautiful women who want us, but it is terrifying to us that it might have to be the same person for the rest of our lives. We don't like it, but it's true. There is some chemical/neural thing that reduces the attractiveness of even the most alluring woman, over time. It really sucks.

Now, I know some men will say that they are the exception to this. It's possible, but not probable.

However, that doesn't mean that lifetime committment isn't possible. It's just really hard, and all those things men want, i.e. beauty, brains, humor and great sex, have to be replaced by shared dreams, hopes, values and hard work at the job of having a relationship.


I think everyone (women) should cut and paste and print out this post by Lombard. I think it's probably the best answer to the question ever posted! (Unless some of you other super-studs have a difference of opinion, or want to expand on it.

  


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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 17:38

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Brother Rob, Actually I am being serious. If men want to be more like women and women more like men it is true, but it is the differences that are intriguing. The discovery of who that other person is is exciting. It's nothing to be flummoxed about. Why should a woman change into something a man wants? It would be, at best, temporary.

To your recipe, I would add an equal or greater portion of love.


While being somewhat jovial, I am quite serious too! I don't want women to be more like men or visa versa. What I want is an even playing field, withOUT silly rules/ritual (ie. things that have been done so long that it isn't remembered why they are done, but still done nonetheless) imposed by society.

In that world, "the discovery of who that other person being exciting" would be based on the individuals themselves, not on stereotypes or flummoxes.

If it was easier to understand what the other wanted, it would be much less infinitely fascinating to discuss, but would be a somewhat easier goal to accomplish...

BTW IMHO, LOVE is the ultimate "great reward". Often sought, but rarely truely found... :o)



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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 08:39


But since we are well past Y2K, in a time when both men and women should be equals, "Isn't it a man's perogative to change his mind!!!" Or do we still live in a world of double standards??? :o)


Absolutely, change your mind minute by minute if you like. What men want remains, as always, undefined though infinitely fascinating to discuss.


ROFLMAO... I guess that in itself would make the sexes peers!!!

Relationships = hard work with great rewards, composed of communication, negotiation, and compromise (but never settle) ...



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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 05:13

Lombard write:
I can't imagine that any two men want exactly the same thing, but I will let women in on a few gender secrets.

The good news for women:
Men are simple folk. We all want a beautiful woman who wants us. Now, we all define beauty in a different way. Some things are fairly constant. In general, high cheekbones, a strong jaw line and expressive eyes are apealing. Also, we don't know why, but we like breasts. Some men like hard bodies, others like softer curves.

Just like women, we respond to good smells.

Emotionally, we are less complicated then women. We make decisions and stay fairly consistent. If a man seems complicated, it is because he is drifting away and wants to leave a relationship, but doesn't want to hurt you. Dump him like a hot potato. You'll both be happier.

Most intelligent men like intelctually challenging women. If your guy doesn't want you to have opinions, dump him. You deserve better.

Most secure smart men like women who know their own physical needs and act on them. If your man is intimidated by sexual aggresiveness, dump him. Either he's a weenie or doesn't find you appealing. In both cases, dumpable offenses.

Here is the bad news:
We want smart, funny, secure, beautiful women who want us, but it is terrifying to us that it might have to be the same person for the rest of our lives. We don't like it, but it's true. There is some chemical/neural thing that reduces the attractiveness of even the most alluring woman, over time. It really sucks.

Now, I know some men will say that they are the exception to this. It's possible, but not probable.

However, that doesn't mean that lifetime committment isn't possible. It's just really hard, and all those things men want, i.e. beauty, brains, humor and great sex, have to be replaced by shared dreams, hopes, values and hard work at the job of having a relationship.


I think the idea of staying with one person for a lifetime is a daunting thought for many women too. As far as the chemical/neural thing reducing the attractiveness of a women...its called the aging process and men are susceptible to it too. Brains and humor may not be affected by aging, sexual drive my decrease as both partners age, or may not. While some aspects of physical beauty may change a bit with age, in a committed relationship it's often other attributes that keep partners together even in the short run.I think its more probable that a mature man will remain attracted to a women he loves for her laugh, intelligent conversation and banter, charming quirks,the confidence she exudes, the spark in her eye, providing a safe place for him to fall,sharing in adventures, hopes and dreams. We don't replace beauty, brains, good sex,and humor with shared dreams, hopes and values...these aspects are added to the equation. Hard work? You bet!



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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 02:23

robtest write:
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Men don't give it any thought. They have a good idea of what they don't want, but as far as what they want, they think they will know it when they see it.

Exceptions, yes. My friend has a list of 130 criterion written in pen on a paper napkin. (Would think that much effort would be in a more permanent form...) After reading it I asked, and what do you have to offer oh great detailed one!


But since we are well past Y2K, in a time when both men and women should be equals, "Isn't it a man's perogative to change his mind!!!" Or do we still live in a world of double standards??? :o)


..................... Angyson?

  


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Posted on Wed, May 24, 2006 05:25

seattlesunshine write:
Men don't give it any thought. They have a good idea of what they don't want, but as far as what they want, they think they will know it when they see it.

Exceptions, yes. My friend has a list of 130 criterion written in pen on a paper napkin. (Would think that much effort would be in a more permanent form...) After reading it I asked, and what do you have to offer oh great detailed one!


But since we are well past Y2K, in a time when both men and women should be equals, "Isn't it a man's perogative to change his mind!!!" Or do we still live in a world of double standards??? :o)



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Posted on Wed, May 24, 2006 02:00

I think Lombard is correct....at least in the important areas....

I myself would love to have a mate right now, I miss the lovemaking, comfort and companionship.

I feel as well that you must both have those shared common goals, to last you through the difficult times in the relationship. Both must be commit ed to making the relationship go forward...
Otherwise I fear that when the goin' got tough....the relationship would crumble.....

Attraction...common goals...trust and commitment....for both...AS much as I would love a mate...these cannot be compromised.

As to what else men want....I think the same things as women...

  


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Posted on Sat, May 13, 2006 03:36

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mamacitarica write:
They want everything

you said it girl! i believe you...

So true....and yet they don't even know what it is they want honestly....even when it is right under their noses.. Go figure.



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Posted on Thu, May 11, 2006 19:45

As varied as the responses are from the women here, so would be the responses of the men. Each would have their own list of desires and wishes for a partnership, and there would be a myriad of possibilities. The challenge in life is finding someone we are comfortable negotiating that with...

For the record Scorp, many men are of the opinion that all women are crazy from the age of 20 on... LOL, j/k...



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Posted on Sun, May 07, 2006 23:44

bombshelldiva write:
It has most certainly been turned around. Men are unpredictable and most of the time I don't think they even know what they want. A lot of men enter a relationship with a good woman, but they still think that there's something better out there and they screw it up, and then later they realize that she's the one they wanted, so the next girl gets to reap the benefits.


Diva .... just once I'd like to be "the next girl." Do you think it's just luck, like buying a lottery ticket? (Only, with the ticket, you get a couple of chances to play and often win at least your dollar back!) LOL



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Posted on Thu, Apr 27, 2006 21:02

graziegirl write:
what do men really want?


It used to be easy to guess. S.E.X. But last year I dated an online guy three times, and when he drove me home the 3rd time, he was still acting kind of shy so I kissed him goodnight.

Well, he called me the next day and told me he was really arroused by the kiss the night before and he thought maybe we wouldn't work out because he wanted to take it more slowly. YA ... he was a man!!!!

I suppose I wasn't spot on about what HE wanted. I guess it takes all kinds. But I understand your confusion. What DO you want, boys?
LOL



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Posted on Thu, Apr 27, 2006 01:13

Men want what we all want.
Happy Moments
Memorable Moments
What makes some different from us is that they are INSATIABLE!!
I would not change a thing about them if anything I envy there sense of thirst to live to the fullest.
If you want to please a man. Please yourself he will feel he has something in common with you.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 26, 2006 11:48

It has most certainly been turned around. Men are unpredictable and most of the time I don't think they even know what they want. A lot of men enter a relationship with a good woman, but they still think that there's something better out there and they screw it up, and then later they realize that she's the one they wanted, so the next girl gets to reap the benefits.



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Posted on Tue, Apr 25, 2006 10:32

men want....
.. to have fun
...fancy cars
...good food and drinks
...to have money
...to have power

... oh, sorry I forgot about romance!



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Posted on Mon, Apr 24, 2006 11:54

Your guess is as good as mine.



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