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Posted on Mon, Feb 01, 2010 20:31

my ex-bf is dating a chinese girl and plan to marry her in this summer. American men start to like chinese girls?



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Posted on Sat, May 28, 2011 21:16

Quoting nikki119777:

Yes, many of us do. Frankly, as has been discussed in other posts on here, its all about attitude. Many american women tend to walk around with a giant chip on their shoulders. A good portion of them seem to have a major feeling of entitlement, and dont want to put into the relationship what they want out of it. All too often american women will lash out at their men, and routinely complain their men to their girlfriends. Chinese women on the other hand, would be embarrased to publicly ridicule thier men because it would reflect badly on them as a mate. Chinese women understand that they have a major role in making a relationship work, and seem to actually put in the effort that is required to maintain a healthy relationship. It really all boils down to a cultural difference, and how they were raised.
The stereotype that chinese women a submissive is very inaccurate. The fact that they may wait to discuss problems at an appropriate time, and will not typically bitch about, or at their mate in public, does not make them a doormat. They will make themselves known, and speak their minds to correct whatever the situation may be.

I make these generalizations about chinese born women with the full understanding that they are generalizations and not the rule. It is sad these statements do not apply to all women, but American women really are the ones doing it to themselves. As for Chinese women, I hope they continue to uphold their values, but I am not overly optimistic. As western culture continues to spread to China, undoubtedly so will the attitude of American women. It to some degree is already showing up in the more urban communities, particularly in the southeastern part of China.

I have spent a great deal of time in China, and fluently speak Mandarin and Cantonese. I feel that I have a pretty good idea of what American men see in Chinese women both because I am an American man, and I am an admirer of Chinese women. One major downside of Chinese women for American men is the language barrier can make effective communication somewhat problematic, and since we all know that communication is key to a successful relationship, many men will realistically stick with American women while admiring the attitudes, petite frames, and general beauty (inside and out) of Chinese born women. The fact that many Chinese women do not speak english is not an issue for me, so why not.

As for the American women, if you are somehow concerned about your prospective mates looking overseas for love, only have the tools to fix that problem. We will surely love you if there is a COMPLETE package to be attracted too.

Just my two pennies.



Or American men could find Chinese or Asian women in America who speak very fluent English.



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Posted on Thu, May 19, 2011 22:08

Quoting bluelulu:

as  a chinese girl, I'll have to say.. Its no longer just a personal preference  anymore. Its more of a ... hmm.. how do it put it... a trend. a phynomina

and we are not submissive. (what is submissive anyway?)

but we have our ways. :)

 

at the end of the day, this is how i see it.

In about 50 years time, there aren't going to be any "race" base on skin color. Everyone''s going to be beige. And far more beautiful, far less genetic desease, far more healthy.

I think, that's what God's intention is. Everyone, black, white, green, pink, red, yellow. All mixed as we are all just god's children



Well, said ;)



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Posted on Wed, May 18, 2011 08:22

as  a chinese girl, I'll have to say.. Its no longer just a personal preference  anymore. Its more of a ... hmm.. how do it put it... a trend. a phynomina

and we are not submissive. (what is submissive anyway?)

but we have our ways. :)

 

at the end of the day, this is how i see it.

In about 50 years time, there aren't going to be any "race" base on skin color. Everyone''s going to be beige. And far more beautiful, far less genetic desease, far more healthy.

I think, that's what God's intention is. Everyone, black, white, green, pink, red, yellow. All mixed as we are all just god's children



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Posted on Sun, May 15, 2011 00:32

Yes, many of us do. Frankly, as has been discussed in other posts on here, its all about attitude. Many american women tend to walk around with a giant chip on their shoulders. A good portion of them seem to have a major feeling of entitlement, and dont want to put into the relationship what they want out of it. All too often american women will lash out at their men, and routinely complain their men to their girlfriends. Chinese women on the other hand, would be embarrased to publicly ridicule thier men because it would reflect badly on them as a mate. Chinese women understand that they have a major role in making a relationship work, and seem to actually put in the effort that is required to maintain a healthy relationship. It really all boils down to a cultural difference, and how they were raised.
The stereotype that chinese women a submissive is very inaccurate. The fact that they may wait to discuss problems at an appropriate time, and will not typically bitch about, or at their mate in public, does not make them a doormat. They will make themselves known, and speak their minds to correct whatever the situation may be.

I make these generalizations about chinese born women with the full understanding that they are generalizations and not the rule. It is sad these statements do not apply to all women, but American women really are the ones doing it to themselves. As for Chinese women, I hope they continue to uphold their values, but I am not overly optimistic. As western culture continues to spread to China, undoubtedly so will the attitude of American women. It to some degree is already showing up in the more urban communities, particularly in the southeastern part of China.

I have spent a great deal of time in China, and fluently speak Mandarin and Cantonese. I feel that I have a pretty good idea of what American men see in Chinese women both because I am an American man, and I am an admirer of Chinese women. One major downside of Chinese women for American men is the language barrier can make effective communication somewhat problematic, and since we all know that communication is key to a successful relationship, many men will realistically stick with American women while admiring the attitudes, petite frames, and general beauty (inside and out) of Chinese born women. The fact that many Chinese women do not speak english is not an issue for me, so why not.

As for the American women, if you are somehow concerned about your prospective mates looking overseas for love, only have the tools to fix that problem. We will surely love you if there is a COMPLETE package to be attracted too.

Just my two pennies.



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Posted on Thu, Apr 21, 2011 06:23

Most Asian women I have met are very polite, morally sound, intelligent, kind, respectful and loyal to their man. They have many good qualities that a man is seeking, especially if he is seeking a wife. Of course that is a generalized statement and possibility a stereotype, but stereotypes came into existence for a reason. I think American women lost some of this in the beginning 1970's. But to be perfectly fair, I don't think there are many "REAL" and good men left in America. JMHO I personally would rather have a good American woman (born and raise American not race specific). My reasoning for this is solely base on like culture and communication. I am a huge communicator and when I express in words how I feel, I want her to absorb and understand completely.



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Posted on Fri, Jan 28, 2011 01:15

This is a copy from the site Fred  on Everything. 

 

Why White Men Prefer Asian Women



The View From A Sushi Bar



There is near me an Asian sushi-beer-and-dinner establishment that I'll call the Asia Spot. The region is urban, so the clientele is a mix of some of just about everything, but the waitresses are all Asian, principally Japanese, Indonesian, Vietnamese, and Thai.

The Spot is a neighborhood bar. A large after-work crowd, many of them regulars, gather at happy hour. The social dynamics are curious. It would be an exaggeration to say, as someone did, that the black guys come to pick up white women, and the white men come to get away from them – but it would be an exaggeration of an underlying truth. The waitresses are a large part of the Spot's appeal.

A common subject of conversation among male customers is how very attractive these women are when compared to American women. It is not a thought safe to utter in mixed company. It is a very common thought. American women know it.

Why are the Asians attractive? What, to huge numbers of men, makes almost any Asian more appealing than almost any American? The question is much discussed by men at the Spot. (I should say here that when I say "women," I mean the majority of women, the mainstream, the center of gravity. Yes, there are exceptions and degrees.)

American women of my acquaintance offer several explanations, all of them wrong. For example, they say that Asian women are sexually easy. No. American women are sexually easy. The waitresses at the Spot are not available. They date, but they cannot be picked up.

Another explanation popular among American women is that men want submissive women, which Asians are believed to be. Again, no. For one thing, submissive people are bland and boring. In any event the waitresses aren't submissive. Many compete successfully in tough professions. Among Asian waitresses I know I count an electrical engineer who does wide-area networks, and a woman with a masters in biochemistry who, upon finding that research required a Ph.D and didn't pay, went back to school and became a dentist. Both of these wait tables to help out in the family restaurant.

At the Spot I know a woman waitressing her way through a degree in computer security, a bright Japansese college graduate making a career in the restaurant business, and the manager of the Spot – not a light-weight job. Submissiveness has nothing to do with their attractiveness.

Why, then, are they so very appealing?

To begin with, look at the American women in the Spot. Perhaps a third of them are stylishly dressed. The rest of the gringas run from undistinguished to dumpster-casual: baggy jeans, oversize shirts -- often male shirts -- with the tails out. They seem to affect a sort of homeless chic, actually to want to look bad, and do it with more than a touch of androgyny. A high proportion are at least somewhat overweight. (So are the men, but that's another subject.) The Asians, without exception, are sleek, well-groomed, and dressed with an understated sexiness that never pushes trashy.

Further, the Asians are what were once called "ladies," a thought repellant to feminists but very so refreshing to men. Listen to the American women at neighboring tables, and you will frequently hear phrases like, "He's a fucking piece of shit." In what appears to be a determined attempt to be men, they have adopted the mode of discourse of a male locker room and made it their normal language. The Asians, classier, better students of men, do not have foul mouths. They presumably know about body parts and bathroom functions, but do not believe that a woman raises her stature by referring to them constantly in mixed company.

Men at the Spot, I have noticed, instantly understand that cloacal commentqry is not wanted, and don't engage in it: In the presence of the civilized, men adopt the standards of civilization. Men also tend to think of women as women think of themselves. The Asians, without displaying vanity, clearly think well of themselves. And ought to.

All in all, they give the impression that they do not want to be one of the guys. They want to be one of the girls. Here we come to the core of their appeal. Let me elaborate.

The default position of American women is what men refer to as "the chip," a veiled truculence, mixed with a not-very-veiled hostility toward men and a shaky sense of sexual identity. The result is a touchiness reminiscent of hungover ferrets. There is a bandsaw edge to them, a watching for any slight so that they can show that they aren't going to take it. They are poised to lash out in aggressive defense of their manhood.

As best as I can tell, they don't like being women. Here is the entire problem in five words.

The Asians at the Spot show every indication that they do like being women. They do not seem to have anything to prove. Being happy with what they are allows them to be comfortable with what they are not – men. They are not competing to be what they can't be with people who can't be anything else. They don't have to establish their masculinity because they don't want it. They do not assume, as American women tend to, that femaleness is a diseased condition to be treated by male clothes, gutter language, and bad temper.

I've spent many dozens of hours chatting with the gals at the Spot, and never seen a sign of the chip. For a man, the experience is wonderful beyond description – smart, pretty, classy women, who are women, and are not the enemy. As long as American women carry the chip, the Asian gals will eat them alive in the dating market.

Note that the espousal of hostile obnoxiousness as a guiding philosophy appears to be an almost uniquely American horror. It certainly isn't requisite to independence oe self-respect. I recently met a quite attractive blonde who, among other things, was smart, a long-haul motorcyclist, a student of the martial arts out of sheer athletic enjoyment of it, and an excellent marksman. She was also heterosexual, feminine, delightful company, and had no trace of "the chip." I was astonished. How was this possible, I wondered?

She was Canadian.

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Now my opinion

I have met an Indonesian woman and plan to marry her. I also think Asian women would make better partners because it is in their culture to serve their family and their partner. They tend to value their man more and think less about what he can do for her.  An American man like myself would prefer to have a woman who doesn't think about what I can do  for her but what she can do for me. I AM THINKING about what I can do for her.  Not what she can do for me.  If we are both focusd on eachother this makes for a very dynamic love affair but just doesnt happen often with whi



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Posted on Sun, Jan 16, 2011 17:24

I love women of any race creed or color and it has nothing to do with either, it has to do with their heart ! 



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Posted on Sun, Jan 16, 2011 09:29

When I look around I see the majority of white men with white women.  The fact that some white men (a minority)  like asian women, doesn't translate to the majority of white men preferring asian women. 



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Posted on Tue, Jan 11, 2011 15:33

Having met girls in many countries there is one thing that stands out more than anything.

Asian girls are not afraid of being approached and rejecting the guy's advances. They are friendly not aggressive about it. I have often engaged asian women in pure conversation and no attempt is made to pick up from either side. It is friendly banter and parting of the ways afterwards. Sur guys hit on the girls but as stated in an earlier post the attitude of many women today is an aggresive defence. Nobody wants to just chat. Sure we hit on the ladies with intentons but it has got to the stage now where many women are so aggresively defensive that men will no longer approach. I am losing count of the guys who say that they are happier on their own and that runs right through the 30s,40s,50s and 60s age groups.

Its as if women are engaging in a war. Why get dressed up to look good if you dont want to attract attention. When the attention comes they snub it as if they are superior beings and dont want to be picked up. Take dating sites in general. I personally have emailed hundreds just to be ignored or deleted. Result is that men will bombard emails to all and sundry without even checking the profiles as they might get lucky. The women on the other hand get out of control by the ego boosting quality of hundreds of emails and think they can have the pick of them all. Of course so many of the guys are totally unsuitable and wouldn't last seconds on a date or relationship.

Ihave my theories of what happens as women get older but will keep those to myself. They do however go through a period of blanking men and go through a frenzy of activity pursuits which are often dangerous and were once the domain of men. (maybe they were protectedny men from doing them) . They lose some of the femininity of being a woman. As said in an earlier post they seem to be changing into men.

One word that may describe asian women is more demure. Happier being women and not trying to be what they are definitely not. Yes have equal rights but with that goes responsibility. the responsibility of being polite, being flexible and being friendly.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 09, 2011 04:29

It comes down to what it always comes down to, personal preference. 



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Posted on Sun, Jul 18, 2010 14:14

I can only speak for myself.  I like all ethnic groups.  I believe in the Martin Luther King, Jr. philosopy where people should "not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character."  So character first, but it does help if she is pretty.



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Posted on Sat, Mar 27, 2010 08:35

element1232000 I'm going to answer your question with a question and give you the benefit of the doubt.

Why wouldn't American guys like Chinese girls?

lol and "Geisha" is Japanese just an FYI to contessa2006

I'm going to assume that by "American guys" you are talking about Caucasians?  Because not all "Americans" are white.  I know several born and raised American men that also happen to be Asian. :)   And I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that you wouldn't think an American Asian man getting married to an Asain woman was weird...So I don't think it's a reach to assume that you are talking strictly about WHITE men liking Chinese women..?  And if you are not talking about white men perhaps you are talking about black men?  Either way, I have a feeling you are talking about one racing liking another race...If not then please correct me!

So your question then is more like: Do White American Males like Chinese females?

Asking that question insinuates a hint of either your lack of understanding because you think on some level, big or small, that it's inherenantly wrong, or that maybe you just feel jilted that he didn't end up with you and you're innocently trying to understand why?

My suggestion, is not to focus on the fact that she is Chinese because it's completely irrelevant, but to focus on what you can do to be a better person inside and out because the quicker that happens the quicker someone will fall in love with you.  :)

I'm sure he fell in love with her and asked her to marry him based on much deeper qualities than her race...  she's probably a really a great girl that happens to be Asian.

Hope that helps!

Karen



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Posted on Fri, Mar 26, 2010 19:46

I know some men who prefer Asian women. Their egos and assumptions are that these women are submissive or fall into the geisha stereo types. It's a guy thing. It's a bit warped but not all men are into that mindset.



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