I agree with Minerva415! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Many models or actresses like down to earth men I would think. How odd for people to be bringing up fashion for Brad when many of the people giving advice to him have some kind of plain shirt or T-shirt on. Did he ask for advice to change his fashion style? I haven't read a word. What is wrong with a simple dresser? Please just leave Mr. Brad alone so he can find the one who deserves him. Focusing on our own pictures should be our own agenda. Trying to "help" someone that never directly asked for it is being a busy body. I say let us help our selves first.
I do bellieve Brad didn't ask for any advice on his picture. Now it seems everyone is giving him advice on how to improve himself. If we were all perfect we still wouldn't be in the right to judge his picture. It is amazing that people think thier pictures are so great, therefore, they can give unwarranted advice. Brad was just saying he was looking for a model or actress. He is who he is and wants what he wants. If he gets it, great, if not, then I am sure he will find someone for who he is.
I agree with lastone instock, Why should I have to look like everyone else with bald heads and gotees if that is still popular. Its so hard to keep up the fashion scene. Also I dont knoiw how you can judge someone on one bad picture.
Brad, you seemed so disheartened in the post that I was responding to:
"sorry I'm just not the best looking guy and that is one of the problems i have finding love."
And I meant it, Brad. You're not a TROLL! You're not even "not the best looking guy." If you aren't getting many dates, it's not the end for you! Change some things that will make you think you're not a bad looking dude at all! That's all I mean.
You're a great guy. You deserve your dream girl. Will you be happy just "settling" for a "regular" girl? Do what will make you most happy. I'm sorry if I came across as too harsh. I meant it as encouragement but text is not the best way to express feelings.
Go for the castles in the air! They're doable!
I agree Lastone, Two months at the gym could turn him into the typical muscle bound guy with no brains who could never have anything of substance to offer a model or actress. After all, you have a beauty like sharp1 who came to your defense. Stay the way you are! That makes three of us who feel that way.
Come on Brad! This sympathy approach isn?t going to work with most women. Why sit there and continue to put yourself down. Confidence Rules! Start with the little things first. I agree with Katie. Take yourself to the local Haircrafters and get yourself a stylish haircut, $12.00. Head off to your local department store and find some stylish clothes, it?s clearance time at most places so your not spending hundreds, new outfit, $50.00. You get home, put the clothes on, look at yourself in the mirror, new Brad, priceless! You will look at yourself in that mirror and feel more confident. Once you feel that way, you can do anything!
Brad, honey .... you're not a troll.
So it may encourage you to know ....... ANYBODY can clean up and look 100% better than they ever did before.
Have you ever watched that insipid reality show, "The Swan?" Some of those chicks were definitely "two-baggers." (That's when they have to wear 2 bags over their head in case the first bag breaks.) And look what they were turned into!
You can't tell me that with 24 hours of TLC from the Fab Five on Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, you couldn't be transformed from "Lonely Brad, with the walrus mustache, glasses from the 80's and an old T-shirt on" to "Superstud Brad with the hot professional haircut, trimmed or missing mustache, maybe a bleach treatment at the dentist, two months at the gym and a totally GQ wardrobe," you couldn't get any model or actress that you ever wanted.
Dreams may be "castles in the sky," but you can still reach them if you build the ladder to get there.
Oh, brother......... I've become Oprah.............
Magnumra, you started a good thought. Kathiegirl, you were able to see a great deal of meaning to it. I rarely say this but I was very touched by and impressed with your thoughts. Surely, you have been there and if not, then your words show great depth. Someone once said to me that there are plenty of jobs, no one has to be homeless. Yet, when was it the last time they tried to SURVIVE on the wages paid for selling hamburgers. The homeless people.... They have no home, no address to put on an application. No place for an employer to respond IF they were going to. No place to wash except for sinks in public restrooms. Once, I worked temporary work at McGlynn's Bakery. They put bakery goods in the lunchroom for the employees to eat. A bus load of homeless were brought in to work and they took everything. People were angry, they didn't realize that for the homeless, it was God sent. The working poor. Orange juice or a pound of hamburger? Which would it be? Kathygirl, you hit everything right on the head. Society's true reaction, everything. For this, you have my admiration.
You've brought up a good point, Mag Man.
If you grow up in poverty, it's possible to love and be loved, because having nothing has been a part of your life since the beginning and you don't know anything better. But if you've ever known a more affluent existence and are suddenly cast into impoverishment, it's such a shock to your sense of security, to your health, your lifestyle, your ability to provide for your family and provide for the necessities of life, it eliminates all luxury, forces you to make do with the bare minimum, creates animosity among family and friends, assaults your sense of self-worth, and effects the way others perceive and interact with you. With all this foreign adversity bombarding you from every direction .... love is an extravagance. It's not affordable and not readily available from people who want to distance themselves from you as a reminder of what could happen to them ..."but for the grace of God.".
If the definition of "giving up everything," means to have to place all your Porches in storage, hand over your country club membership, lose your chairmanship of the board, and close your summer home, ...... that's not as much a tragic dilemma to endure as, say, being fired and then evicted, having only $1.09 in your pocket, not being able to go anywhere in the city unless you can walk there, hearing your friends say they're having some cash flow problems too ever since they had a completely new Blue Grass lawn installed in the summer..... having to wash your only pair of underwear every night and eating plain macaroni you picked up from the Food Bank. Hate of everything fills every corner of your life and sense of self so that love doesn't stand a chance.
If anyone ever insisted you give up everything for your love for them, they're definitely asking too much.
Its always been my dream of mine and since life is short and we never know what tomorrow will bring. Since I found this site I figured I might as well go for my dreams and give it all cause sometimes dreams can come true.