My ex left me. Not for a woman (younger or otherwise), not for a man, but for "finding himself." That and his meds for diabetes and cholesterol killed his mojo. He has this endearing habit of trying to do the best thing for everybody. I think he thought he was doing me a favour by going. He thought I was strong (I am) so that I didn't need him any more. How wrong could he be? What makes us strong is the people who love us.
I doubt he'll "find" himself. He didn't get a job when he left, he just lived on the divorce proceeds and continued to spend the same way we did when we were married. He's caught up in another of his big plans to get rich, which is depleting his bank balance at a steady and inexhorable rate. His health is also deteriorating. When the money runs out, I do fear he might try to come back to me. I sure hope I've got a new husband by then.
Jesus Christ, what a story Katie, it's difficult to say a word, i feel it might be not enough to say how affected I am by it!. All my thoughts go with you!!!...
Bassically, Angwhatever your name you choosed...i only tell you this: I thought that terrorism on the planet did teach you something, but that's not true, it is so easy to spread it here..so easy which is significant with the huge issue you are suffering from, your continuous provocations here deserve the right and clear word for you: you have a rapist personnality, exactly the same of the ex of Katie's...First thing! Second thing, the effect by coming here venting your hate against some woman is like another trauma you spread to her, and vividly getting it back here...Hundo told you, go get counselling and stop immediatelly to even show yourself on here, hiding behind the screen!
Angyson write: Your suggestion is a good one. I've already answered his stupid question about what I did to deserve being killed. He's just playing bumwad games and saying he hasn't seen it.
I've seen it. What are you doing marrying a drugie and crying to us after? You made your bed. Now sleep in it.
It's not "droojee," you fool. It's druggie, if you're determined to wallow in 70's slang.
If you saw the last one, you bonehead, then you saw the post where I said my husband didn't start spending all our money until he began being buddies with the drug dealer guy a couple of years after we married. I never said he was a junkie, I said he HUNG OUT WITH ONE! Do you have a reading comprehension disability?
Your narcissistic character has rendered you void of any compassion for anyone. With an overblown self-esteem such as yours, you'll have to PAY for sex for the rest of your life. Change your attitude or start a Procurred Sex Savings Plan today.
You made YOUR bed in the MM forum. Time to move on. There's no one for you here anymore.
(This post is going to sound sooo weird when you change your photo!!!)
Hope, I feel weird trying to explain it! I didn't post that photo as my profile pic! MM did it!
Last year I took a picture of my new little toe rings and sent them to my sister. Then, just for fun, I put them in my MM album. But one of the MM members emailed me and said, "Cute sandals, Katie!" I wondered why she said that so I logged onto MM and there was my sandal pic up for all to see, instead of my headshot!
What's MM messing around with my photos for? Unless somebody ELSE put them up, (although I can't imagine how they would be able to do it).
GrapesOfGoodHope write: Thanks, Katie. Between you, me, the door post and all others who read the forums: I prefer the "Hope" abbreviation, because as they say in German (roughly translated): Hope is what dies last! I believe you would understand this, in your circumstances ...
I thought we had already all agreed that you were to be called Hope. Isn't there several posts about that on your thread on the Men forum when you first changed your name? Hope springs eteranal.
Angyson write: Katie would do me a favor by ignoring my posts. Take the advice.
I'm trying to ignore YOU but you keep on with your stupid campaign to out-idiot the FrogFace. I think, after your un-chivalrous and swine-like behaviour towards me and the other MM women, it should be no wonder why I would be disinclined to acquiesce to your request.
That means: you asking me to do you a favour is the limit of nerve.
GrapesOfGoodHope write: Dear Katie, by now, everyone on the forums must have realised that poor Angyson is in urgent need of professional medical help and I do not believe that you have to justify or defend yourself any longer. What I've gleaned from the forums, ante Angyson, was that you were highly respected by all, and now, post Angy, you are even more loved and respected than before. Why do we not release him from his participation in the forums by ignoring him from now on?
I never thought of it like that Hope.
(I call you Hope now because there's a crotchety old sportscaster here in my town and his nickname is Grapes. And you don't look a thing like him. Must be the beauty.)
Your suggestion is a good one. I've already answered his stupid question about what I did to deserve being killed. He's just playing bumwad games and saying he hasn't seen it.
PeggySue1961 write: Katie, thank you for sharing your story. I was also abused and have a deep understanding of what you have gone through. I admire your financial accomplishment and what you are striving for and accomplishing. I bring that up because it shows the healthy level you are at. Anyone who survives abuse is not a whimp but a very strong person. Anyone who goes on to accomplish the goals you have is even stronger.
PeggySue, how are you doing now?
While it was happening, when I was married, it didn't occur to me that it was scary, horrible, frightening, etc. It was just ... life at the time. I didn't leave him because I was expecting him to stop it. NOW though, I would NEVER put up with a man touching me in anger.
I guess the experience either beats you or makes you tougher. Are you better now from going through it?
All I know is that Katie has been by far the most abusive person on MM. Now a husband does not try to kill his wife for no reason. Who knows how long she was abusing him? What did she say or do to trigger such violence? Only she knows for sure.
Angy, just remember ...
YOU drew first blood.
You started all those dozens of posts that, when anyone clicks on one, there is your smug smirk and about three to nine words, belittling women and not even a paragraph more of opinion. Just one smartass remark after another after another after another after another.
All I did was say, "Stop posting crap and create a true post with ... like ... PARAGRAPHS. And I said you were being antagonistic in your vulgar, snipes.
YOU are the one that started the trash-talk, calling filthy names and insulting. And you knew I was going to call you out on your bad manners and garbage-mouth rants. Of course I would!
You repeat and repeat and repeat and repeat and repeat the same stupid phrase over and over 20 times on the same thread!! Do you know how excrutiatingly boring that is to have to scroll through?
-- "What did Katie do to make her husband mad? What did Katie do to deserve it? What did Katie do to tick her husband off? What did she do to push him over the edge? What did Katie do? I didn't do it, Katie did! Go jump in the lake. Go jump in the lake. Go jump in the lake. Go jump in the lake. Why don't you jump in the lake?"
You've hogged the forum for over a month now! You insult everybody and then cry because some of us lash back at you for it??? What do you expect? Nobody is going to sit around and let you call them names and say they deserve to be killed and not fight back!!!!
It's lunacy to accuse me of being abusive when YOU STARTED IT! You were looking to start trouble, and you got it. Suck it up and get over it, Angy.
So why did you marry the bastard? Were you abused as a child?
Angy, I've never experienced abuse, but I do understand. Your question shows you are obtuse with respect to any form of mental or physical abuse. It often doesn't show up until the person feels they have their significant other 'hook, line & sinker'. By then the abused spouse is afraid, and also struggles with the feelings from the past that drew them to the abusive person in the first place. After a person abuses another, they are usually sooo apologetic and loving, begging their spouse not to leave...promising never to do it again. It's a pattern, one that can be very difficult to break out of when one is thinking more with their heart than their mind. When love is concerned, it's often very difficult to think with the latter.
So why did you marry the bastard? Were you abused as a child?
Are you asking as a smartass or as someone who sincerely is interested in knowing?
Actually, I married the "bastard" because I loved him, and before we got married, he only put his best foot forward, and he hadn't met the nose candy man yet.
I was never abused as a child. My dad was one of those loving fathers who never spoiled us but was proud as punch of his girls.
I thought my husband was a good guy, but my dad had a severe stroke before I got engaged and he was paralysed and unable to speak afterwards, so perhaps he would have told me I was mistaken about my choice of a husband.
My husband was a 100% Mama's boy. She hated me from day 1 for taking her boy away from her. Can't compete with Mommy.
Thank you for your support, everyone. I don't like to tell that stuff ordinarily because it's so much that some people don't believe it. Even after it happened, my situation made counselors and social workers cry. lol Sometimes it was ME who had my arm around THEIR shoulders. But when you're living it ... it's just life. You know?
And I don't want you to think I was a wimp. The second time my husband tried to choke me, I grabbed his shirt and pulled him down into a somersault over me (a trick I learned play-fighting with the neighbourhood boys when I was 10) and he landed on a full laundry basket and flattened it. I told him I'd shave my head and go to the police without hesitation if he ever did it again.
Things were great for about a month and then he bolted. Divorce has a way of bringing out the absolute worst in some people. He did his best to be the worst.
And Hondo, if you lived closer, I'd be running really slow. lol
Katie is a wonderful lady and for you to say such is beneath contempt, not just about Katie, but anyone. She is intelligent, talented, creative and one of the funniest ladies I've ever been around. She is also a lovely lady that any man in his right mind would love to be seen with. Were I closer I would be chasing her all over town. I have said this on more than one occasion.
I made my living being violent for a long time. It was however against men that were equal to the challenge, fully trained and armed. I have a great deal of respect for those men. Too bad I can't say the same for you. You may be sitting there thinking how funny this all is that you got everyone excited and elicited such responses, but this is in no way funny. It's just sick. You really should seek professional help.