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Posted on Thu, May 29, 2008 18:47

When rape is actually rape can be a trickier question than just saying, "It's when someone says no."

If you think of all the different situations when people have sex, it raises an interesting question. Say one person usually likes forcible sex, but one particular time, her statement of no actually means it, yet the man thinks she's just going through her normal routine. Is it rape or a misunderstanding? What if a guy says he's do something for a girl if she sleeps with him. Is that a form of rape because she agreed? What if fear is involved in the equation? What if the girl is afraid of a particular consequence unless she sleeps with a guy? There would never be the word no actually come from her mouth. But she's sleeping with him for some other reason than she actually wants to. What if alcohol and drugs are involved and the person doesn't really know what they're doing? What if someone takes advantage of someone that isn't psychologically capable of making the sound decision of yes.

I don't think when it comes to the subject of rape people, both male and female can be careful enough. People will say that girls should be allowed to dress any way they want without worrying about getting raped because of it, and although it sounds great in theory, that's just not how it is. People make impressions based on appearances all the time. Girls need to be more careful to protect themselves and not make themselves vulnerable. Guys need to protect themselves and not assume anything. It's not as romantic to talk about sex prior to having it, but it's better than being slapped with a law suit the next day. People need to take precaution measures rather than trying to fix something after the fact.

I'm not saying that's the end all for the subject. People rape for multitudes of different reasons. There is not a mold to fit all cases. That's what makes it so hard to define, so hard to charge, so hard to prove, and so hard to treat.

No means no, but being silent or agreeing due to underlying circumstances doesn't always mean yes either.



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Posted on Fri, Dec 07, 2007 22:55

Who ever thinks rape is just bad timing doesn't get it..

When it happens to them wonder what they would say. Guess what happened to me?? I doubt it..

How do you console someone who has been beaten and raped, when they feel their world has ended from all the trauma, they have been plunged into a world of darkness or the parents who daughter committed suicide because the rape was so demeaning,the trauma was more than they could handle..Or the rapist got carried away and killed them so they could not testify against them.

How about a rape of a child?.. did they ask for it? did they know what it meant? They don't understand why someone hurt them badly when they were trusting them...How do you help them understand what has happened to them or do you tell them that it was just nothing..

No means No,, and a child pleading NO should mean more..

And those who cry rape just because they can shame on them. It hurts the rest that has lived through it.



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Posted on Fri, May 25, 2007 01:30

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Posted on Thu, May 03, 2007 19:14

do you know toledo is spanish name. i live in madrid .spain europe and toledo is near madrid. is a beautiful citi. old old citi.
i just want to say that. and saludos.ana toro.
from spain.



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Posted on Sat, Feb 24, 2007 09:44

They were such sweethearts so you did not report them! Sounds to me like you were seduced...saying no, but really meaning 'yes, yes' and let them have their way with you. That is definitely not rape!



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Posted on Wed, Feb 21, 2007 22:07

Rape - simple - it is when one person says NO! and the other does not want to HEAR and then forces the situation.

Why is it so difficult to understand what 'NO!' means?