Men who have been burnt Dating Wealthy Men / Women

  • View author's info posted on Apr 09, 2006 20:07


    whisperinocean write:
    GrapesOfGoodHope write:
    Whisper, Benefactor and Rob!




    Well said about the woman not being in touch with herself.
    Sometimes it just has to be pure animal lust between you and your partner which makes things interesting. No love and gentleness.


    Amen.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 09, 2006 01:30


    Come on SpiritedHellion, that was a very cautious wink, don't be abusive now!
  • View author's info posted on Apr 08, 2006 16:27


    Angyson write:
    If you ladies wonder why we are reluctant to meet you, we don't really know what we want. We do know however what we do not want--our ex-wives,other bad relationships,other men's children.
    So we are here to see what is available,cautiously.


    And yet, you "wink" about wanting contact with a woman who has "other men's" children. Talk about hypocritical.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 08, 2006 15:11


    other mens children is bit of topic in itself no one wants a "new daddy"that shouldnt even come into it.Most women on here are self sufficent anyway so another mans child means????and if you like a woman that much,and want to meet here what do you think i cant because she has child/children????Am sure alot of women on here will agree with what i have said but personally a man like that isnt worth the hassle anyway....
  • View author's info posted on Apr 08, 2006 01:44


    Angyson write:
    I was trying to explain why men are reluctant to meet you and all I get is abuse.


    Awww how rude of me!
  • View author's info posted on Apr 08, 2006 01:38


    Benefactor123 write:
    You've got to take out the old vibrating friend every once in a while and get to know your body. Train your body to experience higher and higher heights of pleasure. Can't just wait for that perfect guy to come along who will both love you till the end of time, be devoted to you, emotionally available, communicative and oh, yes,the most incredible lover who will know exactly how your body works.

    How many men like that exist?

    In my view, women have to "take" their orgasms rather than wait to "receive" them. BTW, I do not believe the same to be the case for men, but men are so much simpler anyway.


    I agree with you there.
    I think the fact that a lot of women don't really know how to be pleased is because they're not trying to find out for themselves what's pleasing to them.
    Or when they did have the courage to try out a vibrating novelty they're disappointed that a guy isnt as magically fast with whatever bodypart.
    I think the reason why a lot of women are sexually unaware comes from the taboo on sex for women.
    Women with a vivid sexdrive, who are upfront about their wants and desires often come across as slutty and easy.
    A good girl keeps her legs together.
    Men learn at an early age about sex, from eachother, from porn, from whatever they can get their hands on and while doing that are still considered cool. A woman is still taught to wait and only 'give her flower' to the special man she's going to marry.

    And I think that a lot of men are intimidated by a sexually demanding woman, suddenly the guy finds out that the thing he was doing with all the ladies before is considered crappy sex.
    Ask a guy whether all the girls in his past have reached orgasm and most likely the answer will be 'YEAH!- of course!'
    Chances of that to be true are slim to none I think.
    Not the guys fault, women should not fake it. But I think they are faking it because the will to please the man in question is greater than the will to find out what she likes sexually. (Which comes from the strange double standard on sex for men and sex for women.)
  • View author's info posted on Apr 07, 2006 15:37


    Benefactor123 write:
    Easily orgasmic women and women who need an hour to climax or who never have, might as well be from different planets.

    To say that it is only about what a man does or that it is the lack of emotional connection etc. is a cop out and simply untrue.

    The simple fact is that a woman who can climax in 5 minutes or less with one man will be able to do so with another man and a woman who needs an hour to climax with one man will not climax in 5 minutes or less with anybody.

    No, I dont agree with you there Benefactor.
    I think Robtest was completely right about the mental and emotional aspects.
    I think it comes down to sexual maturity and the way a woman feels about herself and the partner she s in bed with.
    When a guy is having a good time in the bedroom, the mind of the girl might go: doesnt my tummy look too big when I lay like this.., will he still love me tomorrow.., I wish I had done some more crunches this morning.., is he coming?..., oh- hes touching my legs- lets flex my muscles.., sound- must make some sighs.. OH YES?, is my mascara running.., hope hes coming soon cuz this is getting uncomfortable..., I love him!..., oh yes hes going to come- come on baby!...
    A woman has to feel good about herself naked, good about the man shes with and she must have the nerve to show or point out what she really likes. (And for the latter? she must know what it is that she really likes!) (-->)
  • View author's info posted on Apr 07, 2006 15:26


    SweetAimee write:
    (<--)

    I think all women are able to come in a short period of time,(or able to learn) but it takes a woman who is willing to give herself completely, who feels good about herself and emotionally connected and safe in the arms of the guy shes with.

    Aimee.


    I actually believe that to be true, theoretically. In practice, many, many women will never get to that point and to a large extent it is their own fault.

    You've got to take out the old vibrating friend every once in a while and get to know your body. Train your body to experience higher and higher heights of pleasure. Can't just wait for that perfect guy to come along who will both love you till the end of time, be devoted to you, emotionally available, communicative and oh, yes,the most incredible lover who will know exactly how your body works.

    How many men like that exist?

    In my view, women have to "take" their orgasms rather than wait to "receive" them. BTW, I do not believe the same to be the case for men, but men are so much simpler anyway.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 07, 2006 14:58


    (<--)
    Fact is that there are a lot of guys who are just not very interested in figuring out what it is the lady wants. When a girl hasnt had (m)any good sexual experiences, her expectations for her intimate time with you (for example) won't be very high.
    And since she doesnt know how great it can be, she wont come very fast, or maybe she wont come at all.
    I think all women are able to come in a short period of time,(or able to learn) but it takes a woman who is willing to give herself completely, who feels good about herself and emotionally connected and safe in the arms of the guy shes with.

    Angyson?
    I wasnt wondering at all why you were reluctant to meet me, but fortunately now I know that in case I might ever wonder, I already know the answer ;-)
    Stay cautious,

    Aimee.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 07, 2006 06:40


    Benefactor123 write:
    blondeindian write:

    Angyson write:
    If you ladies wonder why we are reluctant to meet you, we don't really know what we want. We do know however what we do not want--our ex-wives,other bad relationships,other men's children.
    So we are here to see what is available,cautiously.

    at our age, almost everyone has been burnt,you move on babe, and don't blame new love on past mistakes...


    Yeah, right, he who does not learn from past mistakes is both dumb and asking for it to happen again.

    Nobody is blaming anyone new for what somebody in the past has done, all we are saying is that our sensitivity to signs of potential trouble is higher.

    So if we sense you are potentially ultra-high maintenance, or frigid (oh, I forgot, all women on this site are a riot in bed), or you tend towards drama (over pets, over divorce, over kids, over forum discussions on MM) we may suddenly or not so suddenly disappear.

    what????are you testy again dear????? What I meant, which you seemed to over look with that comment, is, that we have to move on and treat each new person as a fresh start, and try to forget and learn from what has happened in our past relationships. I have not been in one for a while, by choice, only because I am very picky and don't throw my love around so easily...It is hard to get burnt, either male or female, it hurts, plain and simple...I meant that a fresh start is not to blame for past regrets and a fresh start can lead to a happy situation, lighten up happy pants,lol....kiss
  • View author's info posted on Apr 06, 2006 22:24


    Benefactor123 write:

    whisperinocean write:
    Benefactor you got a point. This cuts both way though. I have a problem with someone who bases past experience on the new person. At some point one has to deal with issues and move on.
    The frigidity of a woman often happens, due to how her partner treats her. The right strokes and women can respond well to whatever tune you play in bed. This cuts both ways too.





    I have to take issue with that. This is a myth that has been perpetrated by the "we are all sisters" crowd how every woman is equally capable of experiencing sexual pleasure.

    Easily orgasmic women and women who need an hour to climax or who never have, might as well be from different planets.

    To say that it is only about what a man does or that it is the lack of emotional connection etc. is a cop out and simply untrue.

    The simple fact is that a woman who can climax in 5 minutes or less with one man will be able to do so with another man and a woman who needs an hour to climax with one man will not climax in 5 minutes or less with anybody.


    From a pure physical sense, I would tend to agree, but when you factor in the mental and emotional aspects of the potential experience, you might as well throw the numbers out the window. Or such has been my experience...
  • View author's info posted on Apr 06, 2006 19:23


    whisperinocean write:
    Benefactor you got a point. This cuts both way though. I have a problem with someone who bases past experience on the new person. At some point one has to deal with issues and move on.
    The frigidity of a woman often happens, due to how her partner treats her. The right strokes and women can respond well to whatever tune you play in bed. This cuts both ways too.




    I have to take issue with that. This is a myth that has been perpetrated by the "we are all sisters" crowd how every woman is equally capable of experiencing sexual pleasure.

    Easily orgasmic women and women who need an hour to climax or who never have, might as well be from different planets.

    To say that it is only about what a man does or that it is the lack of emotional connection etc. is a cop out and simply untrue.

    The simple fact is that a woman who can climax in 5 minutes or less with one man will be able to do so with another man and a woman who needs an hour to climax with one man will not climax in 5 minutes or less with anybody.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 05, 2006 16:53


    blondeindian write:

    Angyson write:
    If you ladies wonder why we are reluctant to meet you, we don't really know what we want. We do know however what we do not want--our ex-wives,other bad relationships,other men's children.
    So we are here to see what is available,cautiously.

    at our age, almost everyone has been burnt,you move on babe, and don't blame new love on past mistakes...


    Yeah, right, he who does not learn from past mistakes is both dumb and asking for it to happen again.

    Nobody is blaming anyone new for what somebody in the past has done, all we are saying is that our sensitivity to signs of potential trouble is higher.

    So if we sense you are potentially ultra-high maintenance, or frigid (oh, I forgot, all women on this site are a riot in bed), or you tend towards drama (over pets, over divorce, over kids, over forum discussions on MM) we may suddenly or not so suddenly disappear.
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