Just curious why do some white men here snob black women??? Is it that they think they are rich??? money really means nothing you could live in a mansion, miserable and alone? Some of us here are very educated, attractive, successful maybe not millionaires. Equality despite race is more attractive. Just my thought not male bashing here.
I'm a charasmatic, Charming fun girl and looking for someone to Teach me and show me things I havent experience. I love boating, horseback riding. I'm new to Millionaire but have dated wealthy men.Not a gold digger. I just don't want to struggle.
I agree with the tough love approach. If you were my best friend, I'd tell you to stop feeling sorry for yourself. While I personally would say its likely some combination of real and imagined prejudice, you have to decide what is within your realm of control. You can't change your skin color, you can't change that some men wont date you because of your race. So what's left? Change your approach, your view of the situation. If a white man snubs you SPECFICALLY and says it is because you are black, then I would check my program to see if I really want to be involved with that type of person. Focus on you, what you can change. Stop worrying about other people. You cannot control them, and analyzing their behavior will only leave you more exhausted and less successful.
You are stunning! You are young. And then you are intelligent! If you last on this website, and these guys don't snap you up.....I will come to the final conclusion that there is something seriously wrong here!
OK - Just saying....not hitting on you. I like men, LOL!
I agree with the tough love approach. If you were my best friend, I'd tell you to stop feeling sorry for yourself. While I personally would say its likely some combination of real and imagined prejudice, you have to decide what is within your realm of control. You can't change your skin color, you can't change that some men wont date you because of your race. So what's left? Change your approach, your view of the situation. If a white man snubs you SPECFICALLY and says it is because you are black, then I would check my program to see if I really want to be involved with that type of person.
Focus on you, what you can change. Stop worrying about other people. You cannot control them, and analyzing their behavior will only leave you more exhausted and less successful.
There is a site specifically for interracial dating. If you are looking to date outside your race, you will find someone. If you are specifically in search of a "rich" man, you may have trouble on that site.
FYI, there are good men out there who are not wealthy financially, but are truly wealthy in other ways. Men with money are not always the best choice. However, if you find a "good" male who happens to be financially ok, go for it. I must say that the "media" has played a role in
what a "wealthy" lifestyle looks like and unfortunately some people accept that vision.
Good luck to you.
This is a really, really simple question that has three really, really simple answers:
If a guys not attracted to you, he's not attracted... doesn't matter what color you are or what color he is, if he looks at you and thinks "yeah, that's never gonna happen" then it all stops right there.
If a guys not attracted to you, he really just doesn't care how nice/wonderful/smart/sexy etc. you may be. Now you can say anything you want about men being shallow etc. but honestly, women are the same way... just look at how many great guys have emailed you and you've not responded to!
Guys like things simple and if dating you, no matter what color/age/religon you are, will be complicated (no matter what the reason) then he's not going to go there. Example: Maybe he's attracted to you, you're the right age etc. but he works for a boss who's extremely prejudiced and he has a lot of social interaction with that boss and he really needs his job. He may want to date you but doing so means leaving his job, maybe moving to a new city for a new job etc. Tooo many complications to take on just to start a relationship you don't even know will work out (I actually knew a guy that was in that very situation).
I wrote a really nice article in the Dating Tips section under 'rejection' called The Cookie Theory, you should read it!
I have to agree with "Lotus". Although, she does indeed come across quite harsh, it may have been needed. I find it hard to stomach when SOME black women whine that "white" men don't contact them or find them to be what they want. Every post in the interracial section is on this same question. Why complain that a man isn't interested in you? Focus on a man who is interested. Seeking and chasing something/one that doesn't want you is extremely weird and desperate. You are obviously setting yourself up to be used and looked down upon. You can't make or force a man to want you. Obviously, if you aren't being contacted by a certain type of man, it's because YOU aren't what he is attracted to. They are entitled to their preferences. There are men of all races that have no problem going after what they WANT. It doesn't necessarily means its because you're black. I have no problem with white men or any man of any skin tone or social status attempting to be a part of my life for long term. Could it possibly be that the white men on here or elsewhere are attracted to a certain type or style of black women that they ARE contacting? Just like they are attracted to a certain style or look of a woman of any color?
Excuse me if I, myself, have been less than tactful.
I'm honest with her, and I'm sick of the coddling. These women need to hear the truth. If a lot of men don't have black ticked, it doesn't matter, you keep striving for what you want. Just don't complain about it...know your plight is harder but the reward much sweeter.
I have not read all the comments on this post, but I can't help but notice your comment on this post and a similar post by Coconut or something along that line - I don't mean to be judgemental, but I think you should ease up a bit on your overtly harsh criticism! You give good advice, but you need to choose your words carefully so you don't cause great upset to someone who is obviously feeling quite hurt. You talk about tact, but that's just what is missing from your commentaries. From where I am sitting, I think the author feels bad enough and being this harsh isn't going to help. You choice of words such as 'desperate', 'needy', 'unintelligent', 'unattractive' etc to describe this lady is very harsh, condescending, and bothers on insulting. She wrote her blog because that is how she feels. You may not agree with her, you may want to advise her, but do it with class, aplomb, tact and diplomacy! Most of all with love.
I do not necessarily agree with Creegan, but I must confess that I have seen a lot of profiles where all the races are ticked and the Black/African isn't - very many indeed. But that doesn't bother me, everyone has their preference and they should be allowed to - period. There are a lot of certified millionaire white men who absolutely love women of colour
This is an old post and I hope Creegan comes back here to read these responses - I would say, I wish you success in your search Creegan!
Gosh, women like you make life hard for all of us. You seem so desperate and really don't know what the dating game and attraction is about. Take a business strategy course, that'll help. If men aren't interested, then switch things up. You should learn that people do things genuinely out of influence not manipulation or guilt. If I were a man and came accross this type of behavior, I would snob you too because you are not savvy as a woman. Why would a quality man want to waste his precious time with a needy, unintelligent, as well as unattractive woman? A college degree doesn't mean that you're intelligent. It means you follow instructions well and can learn on a basic level. Attractiveness is intellectual as much as it is physical, so learn to be more cognizant with what you say and do.
Look, women and men are on the market like products. You can do three things: either you can learn your target base and offer a product that is sellable; If it's not moving, you can reinvent the wheel and offer something unique and desirable to shoppers; or simply go out of business. You pick which one is best for you but learn to get what you want with with dignity and tactfulness. These things should not ever be compromised.
I DO NOT BELIEVE COLOR HAS TO DO WITH IT. THE AUTHOR OF THIS TOPIC I WOULD AGREE WITH HER. THE MEN ON THIS SITE ARE VERY SNOTTY AND WON'T EVEN GIVE YOU A CHANCE. YET THEY HAVE NO PREFERENCE FOR THIS AND NO PREFERENCE FOR THAT BUT THEY DO NOT INTERACT SO THAT LEADS TO BELIEVE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING EXTRA ON THE SIDE.
You are so right. People have lots of money , but inside they are so miserable. I feel Its not about the color of our skin, its whats in our heads, and the way us as women carry our selves. Times have changed so much with color issues. Diversity is very much needed in our society if we are to survive. nice ????
Rejection is an integral part of love.And in love as in life you are going to get tons of rejections.This I believe has nothing to do with being black,white,chinese,asian and so on.The thing is we are all humans and so free to communicate and fall in love with whom ever we like.Sure enough some of us might have the "oh what would my parents,friends,think?" type of feeling.But in today's Global world i don't think anybody reason's that way anymore.People go for what makes their heart beat keeping aside customs, taboos and so on.It's one life So why waste time on one or two rejections or snobs.There's a lot of guys to choose from ,get past the snobs and pick the next guy that makes your heart beat.
I've been on the site less than 2 weeks and I have received nice comments and contact from white men. Everyone is entitled to their own preference, but I agree with the comments of easymantoloity more than black men from my personal experience.
If a person truly wants a interracial ve. In fact, I find that white men embrace my beauty, thirst for knowledge, and adventurous personalrelationship, or any relationship, it's important to be patient and be yourself. No one is every man's type but there are many men that recognize that beauty is skin deep.
BTW: People want to see who they are interacting with...I know I do so that may be part of the issue as well.
I think it's a person's preference. I like all men all races, colors and creeds. If he's sexy and have respect for me, it's game on.
My sister only prefers middle -eastern men, one sister loves only white men.