Single mama! Family / Marriage

  • View author's info Author posted on Jul 18, 2012 at 18:09


    Hi, I'm a single mom.  I am having a problem with dating because of it!  Just an hour ago I was having a chat with a guy who seemed really nice until he said "oh, you already have a kid... sorry I'm not interested."  What a douche.  Oh well, not all men are like that but I need to know where to look to find men who are not!!
    I am young (22 years old) and my son is 5!  We are so happy, except I'm kinda lonely.  I barely look like I've had a child, and I am a lot of fun.  I live a healthy lifestyle, and I'm mature.  Men seem to be looking for that, but they rule me out because I have a small family member... Their loss!
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  • View author's info posted on Feb 10, 2013 at 11:51


    I can see the disappointment of hearing an early 20ish have a kid. That doesn't necessarily register in the mind of a man in his early 20s nor in the mind of an older man who's trying to live out his fantasy of dating a much younger woman. Your age is viewed as youthful, carefree, full of energy, having that spark before life changes your views, innocent, freedom to travel at any moment, late night booty calls, etc. A child sort of ruins the fantasy that some guys have about dating a young woman.
    It's always best to make that one of the first things that you disclose after making communication. If he can't accept that you have a kid, then it's nothing lost. Your kid comes first. Men may come and go, but your child will always be your child. Don't let douches get you down or distract your ultimate goal which is to find a man who will appreciate you as a woman and mother.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 14, 2012 at 23:59


    Quoting Orlando__:

    There are guys who don't have issues with children.  In fact, I look for women who have had kids because it shows they are other centered.  If somebody rejects you because of your child... screw them.  They are not deserving of you and your child deserve better as well.

    Agreed, I love my son so much that I'm a proud mother. If men those men aren't into it, they aren't the right ones.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 31, 2012 at 02:50


    I am new on here so just came across this post.
    Yes I agree if you are a mom that is who you are and should be celebrated our children are gifts.   Some of my best relationships friends started from the friends in my children's life so I am thankful for that.  Any relationship worth having should be accepting of who you are and what you already have and remembering deserving and not settling for.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 19, 2012 at 21:39


    There are guys who don't have issues with children.  In fact, I look for women who have had kids because it shows they are other centered.  If somebody rejects you because of your child... screw them.  They are not deserving of you and your child deserve better as well.
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