I feel my toes over the edge of my comfort level, but oh okay..
I'm in the minority - but fortunate from my perspective - who started pausing at 41 and completely stopped at 43. This was great from my viewpoint. I watched my mother go on for what seemed like forever. It did, however, make my BF at the time crazy.He was making me take pregnancy tests every couple of months! Mostly, I am very happy to be where I am.I didn't intend to have more children, I don't have to have feminine products on hand all the time to name a few.
I am also very lucky that, again unlike my mother, my 'flashes' are more like watching a thermometer rise - one starts from somewhere inside, goes up my neck and pretty soon my face is so red it looks like I could implode (so I've been told). Embarrasing, but still better than dripping sweat anyday.A couple guys I work with asked me about it one day so I told them all about them! lol..One day, before having to make a presentation to some execs, talking with my manager about it, he says, 'Teri, you always do a great job at presentations, and you always dress appropriately. Just don't wear red, cuz if you have "one of those things", no one will be able to tell where your blouse ends and your neck begins." roflmao
The weight gain is real. It seems no matter what I do, it just doesn't come off. I fear I will never see my preferred size 8 again. But I keep trying. I could do more there I guess.
So all that said, here's my advice:
1) Reduce sugar
2) Reduce caffeine
3) Increase calcium
4) Reduce stress
5) Exercise daily
I have found when my sugar and/or caffeine intake is up, then the flashes are worse. Anything you do to reduce stress will help the flashes as well. We women always need calcium, but more is important in this stage of life.The pills are gigantic!I eat the chewables. 20-30 mins a day exercise doesn't seem to help tremendously, but I do it anyway. God knows what I'd be without it! But it also reduces stress.