I'll admit I'm too shy for words, but others don't see that, infact they don't see me at all. Those who do speak to me aren't exactly friendly to me. I feel as though friends are hard to come by. . . how do you find a good friend?
Darling Katie, Have you saved enough money for that plane ticket yet? They cannot hold our reservation forever.
To clue you in. I am the shy sweet innocent type.
As far as your comment about not dating until 20, "Liar Liar Pants on Fire." You're so gorgeous girl that I KNOW you had boys lining up around the block just to ask you out.
Sunnee, my daughter is shy like me. I encourage her each and every moment to speak up for what she desires. I want her to be a very loving and strong, confident woman.
My advice, spoil yourself. Treat yourself kindly. Dress well. Smile because life is wonderful. Take a chance once a week. Say Hi to someone you don't even know. It could be at the grocery store, work, Starbucks (if they have them in your neighboorhood).
Sunnee ... Mel is NOT shy! He's a nutman and a laugh a minute.
Honey, when I was little, my mother hated conceited people. She used to always tell me, "Don't be thinking you're so special, because you're not! You're no better than anyone else in this house! " And, of course, when you become a teenager, you can't take your eyes off a mirror and I would get chastized with, "Stop staring in that mirror all the time! That's conceit! And a show off!"
Well, is it a wonder I grew up shy? I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 20! My mother used to tell me that drawing pictures and writing silly stories was not a JOB. That I shouldn't think I'm better than anyone else, ... because I had a lot I could improve on!
But one day I looked a t my work and my assets and my skills and I thought, "I'm going to make myself the best I can afford. And NOBODY has the skill clusters I do or can do some things better than me. I'm a great person and I deserve to spend my life having fun, meeting new people and feeling great about myself!"
From that day ... I stopped being shy and started making friends. I think you can do the same and soon the offers of dates will come in. Just beware of wolves in sheeps' clothing. Not you Mel! lol
Good luck sweet.
Sunnee, Mel is absolutely right, even if he can't spell acquaintance, LOL....to put it short and sweet, in order to have friends, you have to be one. Being shy is very hard, though, my youngest was painfully shy most of her life.....so just be there for people and you'll find some real friends.
For me it's simple. I treat everyone kindly. I'll be there in case you need me. I expect you to be there for me when I need you.
I have a lot of very good friends. On the other hand, I have many, many more acquantances. The acquantances (i hope i spelled it correctly) are fun and I like being with them. But I don't expect them to be there for me.