First, there are just as many mentally unstable women.
Second, the main reason people care so much about the shallow stuff is that it is easier to verify.
Usually in a first date you can easily tell if someone is tall/short, fat/thin, wealthy/poor, old/young, white/asian/black, etc.
But trying to figure out if someone is honest, persistent, nice, ambitious, etc. can take months.
That is the main reason why people end up being shallow.
Imagine what would happen if their was an instant, accurate, online personality test, but that it took months to meet in person. Suddenly nice people would be in huge demand, while the douchebags wondered 'what happened, I used to be so dateable?"
It happens that ladies tell stories about their former husbands or partners, which basicly I don't find very discrete. However hearing these stories I often wonder what qualities they were looking for in those man in the first place, as it happens that they cheat and lie and stuff to them. Why not have a "clear list" in mind at the beginning and go slow through the "checklist" and really check things seriously. Values like: Honesty, integrity, persistence, to be who we really are.....why women often do not seek these values, but rather go for a bank account first and forget about the rest?
5w-123,(see below) there are 6,462,571,933 people one earth, one is normal, quess who?............................
You said: I once asked a shrink friend of mine what percentage of the population had mental or personality disorders. She started listing the percentages. Almost 45 percent of the population had some disorder, to some degree. It shocked me and was scary also.
Dont be sorry you signed up i have met several very! nice men on here.. a lot of men find it hard to commit to actually meeting i find also . but I say thanks for not wasteing my time .. good luck to you .. this has been the best site so far.. however with all dating sites there are many! undesireables.. take care!
ladydynamite write: The man under the profile OOOVIPER249 is definitely disturbed. I've never met him, nor have i ever spoken to him in person. He sent me a link to his profile, and i told him that i wasn't interested. Apparently he can't handle rejections well, becasue he started posting all kinds of bad comments on me. This is to you crazy man: we've never met, so how do you come up with all those ridiculous comments?. The only email phrase you got from me was: I'M NOT INTERESTED. Why would you say that i asked you for money?. I got my own business and i got a lot going on for me. You are just one HAP-LESS man. You are the one who is sad and lonely. I feel bad for you, and i suggest that you seek counseling. You also need lessons on how to speak, talk and treat women. No wonder you are still single. You also have many bad reviews from women who actually talked to you. Not me, because i'm too smart and i recognize a reek like yourself from a mile away. You need to REGENERATE yourself inside and out. Stop your nonsense comments on me, or i will suit you for defamation of character.
When I get a message and I am not interested I just don't send anything back... and believe me, I have no trouble
There is a psychological problem that afflicts mostly about 7 million men in these United States. It is the inability to use a urinal in a public restroom. It is called the "bashful bladder" syndrome. Technically it is known as paruresis. It is not confined to men who have a small one. And it afflicts men in all walks of life.
In most cases it seems to have been caused by some sort of traumatic experience like say you were standing in a stall as a kid and going and some big guy comes up behind you and tickles you as you are trying to go and you spray the stall and yourself. But that is only one example.
I had it for about forty years, I know from experience how socially disabling it can be. I may not be completely cured yet but I think my condition is a lot better.
There is help. You can go on line and type in the word paruresis. There is a book and there are groups all over the country you can attend.
This condition is no joke. Those who have it know.
I agree with what Robotic said and would like to add a little. I once asked a shrink friend of mine what percentage of the population had mental or personality disorders. She started listing the percentages. Almost 45 percent of the population had some disorder, to some degree. It shocked me and was scary also. Many of these people are doing fine with their jobs and careers, running companies, preaching, holding office, or any other job you can think of, but they are still sick, need help, and can cause a lot of damage to other people. I think its important for everyone to gain a little knowledge about personality disorders and mental illness. It can save you a lot of grief and perhaps even save lives.
Physical health is fairly easy to determine. Mental health is something else.
What is mental health?
Just because a person has a lot of ideas with which I do not agree does not make him crazy.
Take a Hindu from India who worships cattle and believes in reincarnation.
I don't believe that but he has been taught that since he was a baby and to be a part of his "tribe" and be accepted he believes it.
I don't believe most of what is preached at every church around the corner, but are the people there mentally unhealthy? Maybe if they didn't believe what they are taught every day of their lives they would be mentally unhealthy.
I would say a person is mentally unhealthy who can't hold a job, who can't establish a relationship, who though young enough and physically healthy enough to do so can't control his urges and kills people, who does not know that what he does is wrong or even that it perhaps is right, he can't tell the difference.
Having a high IQ or even a low IQ does make a person fall into that category. The mentally sick person has a brain that does not work right. But even that is not conclusive. Some people with brains that don't work right in many ways can learn music and play a piano perfectly with no training, they can memorize thousands of books and so forth.
I have a neighbor who told me that he thought the brown spots in his grass was caused by demons dancing across his lawn at night. Yet he is a nice guy. He doesn't bother me. That did make me wonder a little bit, though.
1HotMama write: Ladies....there are some very good guys on this site! Don't let the bad ones give the entire thing a bad name!
I could not agree more..I have been very lucky to have found some really great friends here both male and female..and if I chart them on my map, I should be able to plan a fabulous tour round the US visiting all of them..and indeed have visited and met up with one of them and remain close friends.
All women are not bad. All men are not bad. However, there are lot of sick people in the world, and we have all run into them. They confuse us, they hurt us. The best way to avoid them is to learn about the mentally sick and those with behavior disorders. Please spend a hour or two on the site Mental Health Net and other similar sites on the net. Its a real education and I guarantee it will save you grief, and maybe even help you if you have problems of your own.