Long Distance Relationships - your thoughts requested... Friendship

  • View author's info Author posted on Mar 25, 2005 17:02


    A dilemna - when you believe chemistry exists with someone thousands of miles away (obviously based on words, feelings, thoughts, and pictures shared) and there does not appear to be any short-term hope that either person could move close to the other...would you continue to pursue a relationship which may always be unrealistic in terms of being together, or stop pursuing altogether? I'd appreciate your thoughtful and sincere answers.
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  • View author's info posted on Jul 13, 2009 18:24


    Quoting Peasantprince:

    A dilemna - when you believe chemistry exists with someone thousands of miles away (obviously based on words, feelings, thoughts, and pictures shared) and there does not appear to be any short-term hope that either person could move close to the other...would you continue to pursue a relationship which may always be unrealistic in terms of being together, or stop pursuing altogether? I'd appreciate your thoughtful and sincere answers.



    Hello I beleive if its meant to be by Gods hands then you ll be with that person.
  • View author's info posted on Mar 16, 2008 02:18


    Its a very difficult one that. I am in a very similar situation. I am hoping that time will sort it out one way or another. I am not afraid, of the distance, I am more afraid of the two possible outcomes. One is that when we meet and we ARE going to ,If it works What do we do then? It brings to mind the eternal LDR connundrum. Who relocates? Obviously, a lot of water has to flow under the bridge first but its as well to keep an eye on the end game. The alternative is that it becomes too much of a strain and it all ends in tears. Very difficult all round. One thing I know is this. We none of us know whats roung the corner. I wont pass by the chance for love no matter how far away they are Let the chips fall where they may.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 09, 2008 23:40


    I think when two people are in a long distance relationship it can be healthier and more loving. When you have total access to a person physically all the time it can prohibit you from getting to know that person mentally. Getting into a persons mind instead of their bed can create incredible intimacy.If you find your soul mate for sure I believe you will come together eventually. Even if it takes 20 years it is worth the wait.We are all on here seeking a connection that we don't have. Maybe emailing (the new letter writing) is the way to connect to your beautiful soul mate out here in cyber space. When you are connected to the right person you are never lonely that person is always with you.Or I am just hoping that is the way it will be

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  • View author's info posted on May 15, 2006 14:42


    I might carry on some sort of a pen-pal relationship with someone out-of-state, but that's probably as far as it could ever go. I've tried it before, and besides the obvious obstacle of the distance itself and lack of any time spent with them, is how deception-friendly such an arrangement is. The guy turned out to be already living with another woman, but agreed to go find an apartment with me without telling either of us about the other person. Last person I dated lived ACROSS THE STREET from me, and even though we aren't still together, it was much nicer as far as nobody hiding anything important from the other, and being able to spend time with one another pretty much whenever we wanted to.
  • View author's info posted on May 07, 2006 20:23


    I've been in several LDRs and some work and some don't. I ended up marrying a guy that I met from online. We were married for 4 years, but it was the worst relationship I've been a part of. I think the more you make time to see each other, the more successful the relationship might be.
    I am currently in a LDR that has been going on for 3 years now. It's been a struggle, but we've managed to keep it together. Will this one last? Who knows.
    LDRs can be emotionally draining and you often question yourself if the time spent waiting on this person is/was well worth it. There are just so many men and women who promise you the world and can't even promise you the shirt off their back. So I think the wise thing to do is be cautious of who you get involved with long distance.
    Lots of people lie about who they are and whether or not they are married and have children. That's the last thing I want is to be caught up in a love triangle, especially one that involves children.
  • View author's info posted on May 07, 2006 02:06


    So many words could expressed my feelings for you, but these few words say it best i care for you,
    hillary

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  • View author's info posted on Apr 21, 2006 08:27


    i think anytime you can give and receive love that space and time are of no consequence. Love is all we really have at the end of our day/lives. you can always find me at flyingheart2 at the major mail dudes. cya.. talk soon
  • View author's info posted on Mar 18, 2006 10:34


    Met a man named Pocono Slim,
    went all the way to Philly,
    to reel him in,
    Got to California,
    and things went sour,
    took a year to undo,
    what started in an hour.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 20, 2006 07:19


    Long Distance does not work unless one or both are willing to compromise to come together.

    Plus, if either person loved each other as much as they claim then they would make it happen and none of the stuff like 'Im not ready to move' and yada yada would enter your mind, so if the relationship was all you claim it to be then you both would be together with no 'Ands, If's or But's"

    And if you continue such long distance relationship then you may be neglecting yourself from seeing a good opportunity right in your own backyard.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 19, 2006 09:35


    I have met and had long term relationships over the past few years. They are great but there is nothing better then having that person close by. Someone you can talk to snuggle up with on a long cold night. Even though they have not worked out so far I would do it all over again. I have met a couple whom I am very good friends with. So how can it be bad? I am a very lucky woman to have added more friends to my life.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 17, 2006 21:32


    I have factual data about long distance relationships. I reside in TX, and I met a great guy in Idaho. we called, and web cammed each other to death, and even flew once a month. He decided to move down here, and then it fell apart. This was a great guy, but because he was hurt in the past, he had a jealousy and trust issue. I would have gladly married him, but I can't deal with such situations. To answer your question, sure, anything is possible if BOTH persons WANT it to happen, it cannot be one sided. Love is a wonderful pain.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 14, 2005 01:20


    Hello,
    Just to let you know that I just joined today and found your picture of you and your kids very beautiful. I read your question and all the answers that everyone had to say. I can tell you that I would say that long-distance has in goods and bads. I currently reside in Chandler, AZ. If you are interested...email me. I winked!

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  • View author's info posted on Nov 27, 2005 18:25


    OKAY YOU CAN BE MY FRIEND. I WANT YOU TO E-MAIL ME.
  • View author's info posted on Nov 23, 2005 21:13


    If she's all that you say.. work it out.. get over whatever obsticles get in your way.. make a 2-5yr plan if you have to.. atleast your making some kind of progress with a forseable and positive end.
    If both of you can't work it out, I recommend backing off for your own emotional good. LDR's are difficult when all you want is to BE with that person. Good luck.
  • View author's info posted on Nov 17, 2005 11:05


    Ford8366 write:
    I've been in this situation before. I corresponded and developed feelings for a woman that lives 3 states away. She came out to me a few times and we really hit it off. We were "together" for a while until the distance started to pose a problem. Flying back and forth wasn't enough and each of us wanted the other to be there full time. Though, neither of us were able to leave the area where we reside. Ultimately we realized that no matter how much we felt for each other, it wasn't going to work out, so we ended it. In my opinion, it's not a good idea to become involved with someone that lives miles away from you even if both are the soulmate of the other, especially if you or she is unable to relocate. Take it from a guy that's been there...it's not worth the heartbreak.


    I generally agree with you, but on the other hand some people have the means and the time to see each other whenever they want to, for as long as they want to and any place that they want to. In that situation living in different cities really doesn't matter.
  • View author's info Recommended posted on Nov 17, 2005 09:51


    I've been in this situation before. I corresponded and developed feelings for a woman that lives 3 states away. She came out to me a few times and we really hit it off. We were "together" for a while until the distance started to pose a problem. Flying back and forth wasn't enough and each of us wanted the other to be there full time. Though, neither of us were able to leave the area where we reside. Ultimately we realized that no matter how much we felt for each other, it wasn't going to work out, so we ended it. In my opinion, it's not a good idea to become involved with someone that lives miles away from you even if both are the soulmate of the other, especially if you or she is unable to relocate. Take it from a guy that's been there...it's not worth the heartbreak.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 21, 2005 07:05


    Hey,

    This is an interesting topic to me. I had a LTR from PA to Utah (not a mormon!) He'd fly out, and flew me in. In the summer he flew me and my three kids in for weeks at a time. It was great. Very doable, and worth the love. It just wound up that we weren't exactly suited for each other, but I consider each relationship a stepping stone. I still care about him, and hope for the best for him. And having friends all over gives you a reason to travel. Also, I'd just like to say that I know what I'm worth, so I never batted an eye at the extremes he went to to get us together. A man who recognizes what's good will not let anything stop him, and neither would I.
    Hey,

    This is an interesting topic to me. I had a LTR from PA to Utah (not a mormon!) He'd fly out, and flew me in. In the summer he flew me and my three kids in for weeks at a time. It was great. Very doable, and worth the love. It just wound up that we weren't exactly suited for each other, but I consider each relationship a stepping stone. I still care about him, and hope for the best for him. And having friends all over gives you a reason to travel. Also, I'd just like to say that I know what I'm worth, so I never batted an eye at the extremes he went to to get us together. A man who recognizes what's good will not let anything stop him, and neither would I.

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  • View author's info posted on Oct 19, 2005 22:04


    well after a year on here and being disappointed with guys on here, i met one maybe thinking twice about? i am in fla, he is in calli, omg, here we go, but you know what this guy seems different,he is funny, caring, and means what he says. he even offered to help me during this hurricane coming, wow, he is in calli...bummer, but if it hits off, i will live in calli, love is stronger than distance in my book
    well after a year on here and being disappointed with guys on here, i met one maybe thinking twice about? i am in fla, he is in calli, omg, here we go, but you know what this guy seems different,he is funny, caring, and means what he says. he even offered to help me during this hurricane coming, wow, he is in calli...bummer, but if it hits off, i will live in calli, love is stronger than distance in my book
  • View author's info posted on Oct 17, 2005 03:52


    I haven't tried long distance but am very curious.
    I guess that it all depends on how committed you are and if you want it to work.
    I mean I'm in a relationship at the moment and at times I wish he was distant! LOL!!!!
    Well hey there's always room for more!

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