I have a dilemma about false advertising. A number of women I have dated do NOT look anything like their photo(s). When I meet them it is disappointing. Suffice it to say they were much LESS attractive than their photos. Does anybody have any advice on how to verify WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get)?
Hmmm...I have not had it happen to me, although I focus much less on a man's appearance as it is the personality, sophistication and confidence that I seek as a huge turn on. It upsets me that people do that though!
Men say I do not look like my pics, but I got lucky in that it is a good surprise since I don't photograph too well:/
I agree, Skype or iphone if nothing else!
Ask if they can verify their photo by either getting a reference or see if they've got a personal page, . If they're all professional pics ask for a candid shot right away. Shouldn't take but a few seconds to produce. You are also able to google people's pictures and tell if they've been "stolen".
I Have to say I agree with u 110% I think that I am a very sexy woman who has beautiful eyes but I do have reservations about my body (which yes I am the only one that can fix this) however why not just go ahead and post your real pics that way if they dont like what they see u will never have to worry about the dissapointment when u meet if you are strait forward from the begining and not try to pretend to be something tha u are ot then u know for sure they are interested in you not some fake image that u congered up just to try and get them. I must also say the women on this site and many of the others have amazing bodies and that really messes with me :( It may just be time for me to get off these sites and just try and go about my life as normal :)
How can people look different than their pics, airbrushing, photoshopping, I need to know because I am new, and NEVER tried online dating before so of course I am nervous on top of it, let me know, lol!
PS thanks for showing me you can actually change fonts in messages :)
I run into the false pictures a whole lot less on this site than I have on others but still, it does happen on occasion.
I used to just sit down with my cup of coffee (I never, ever, ever do drinks or dinner for a first meet because of this very thing) and try to hear their story but what I learned is this: There is no story, they are simply insecure and manipulative people who care more about their own gratification than building something meaningful.
Now, I do this: I show up on time and looking like my pics. If they're more than 15 minutes late I leave. If they don't look like their pics I say this "Thanks for coming out but you look nothing like your pictures and since you didn't respect me enough to be honest, you leave no room for even a friendship." and I walk away.
You'd be amazed at how often they update their photos or delete their profiles.
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If you don't want to webcam.. then just ASK!
"How old are your pictures? I ask due to meeting several women previously who placed old photos on their profile and I didn't even recognize them!"
If a woman can't place photos within a few months, she is probably hiding something...
AND.. if she doesn't show her full shot.. She is probably hiding something worse!
I think, the sooner you meet the person, the sooner you will find out if you like him or not. If you develop relationships only via internet and build your feelings and opinions based only on photos and letters or webcam, you are more likely will be disappointed to meet that person after months of distant communication. It's something like if you have read a book, liked it very much and the heroes. After you se the movie based on this book and it always a big disappointment. Why?
According to photos - some people are more photogenic some not. Photocamera liey a lot.
But personality of a person is more important and you find it only face to face. How he moves, how he speaks, how he eats, dance, sings, doing sports, something else attractive or not.
And for men – look more into the eyes of a woman, not at her boobs or bottom . You can read from the eyes many things, of course, if you are looking for serious longlasting relationships.
I utilize webcam often as I want to know a person is not fraudulent before I invest too much into it... I recently dated a guy who had a picture on a site he said was taken within a year.. He had FARRR less hair by time I met him... and he also saif he had athletic build.. he was about 30 lbs over weight.. He asked me if he looked like his ONE picture.. I said.. NO...Then I told him he had athletic build and athlete was not what I would say...
I also dated one guy who when speaking over phone, sounded like a girl.. BUT... I chose to see past that... After I dated him a few times though we BBQ at his home.. I found a pink toothbrush I thought was another womans?? Turns out PINK was his fave color.. It was just more than I could handle.. He was very handsome.. a model in fact... But all the pink in his closet and the toothbrush and the voice.. I in no way felt he was "gay".. but it didn't sit well for me personally.. I like more a roughed man...
If a man raises his voice to me.. I want to cringe .. not plug my ears due to high frequency!! LOL
I could write a book !!! One reason I always insisted the pics I send be dated. I think it should become the standard.
And yes, Smiles, web cams are a great idea, and should also be a standard. I've had several ladies say that web cams don't cpature their real persona, but I'd have to hope I am bright enough to know that even a live cam only gives what it gives. It certainly can't capture how you smile at a child, or react to a beautiful natural scene, or how you treat a waiter. But it does give a great, accurate, CURRENT picture of your speech, looks, style, body (sometimes....sometimes not):) and wit. I can see where in a local setting, a web cam could seem like overkill, but for any long distance meet, I think it should be required !!!
Firstly, I have heard many stories from men here who have experienced the same issue, so this seems to be a fairly common problem. It is far too easy to fake many things including appearance on the internet and unfortunately many do without thinking of the consequences of meeting in reality. Although the internet is a great platform in providing a tool to communicate with people, there is however a blind element to it and we are dependable on how truthful others are.
The only suggestion I can make is to avail of communicating through webcam, I think that a webcam provides a better indication of what the individual will look like in reality. Also by hearing them speak and laugh, looking it there gestures etc gives a better insight into their character than a mere picture will never provide. Anybody who has nothing to hide should have no objections to communicating to others through this medium.