It's simple...the relationship between two people is superficial if they cannot make love without sex. Fewer make it from sex to love... more often it's love to sex that seems to test time.
Deep bonds an important key in developing connections without sex. We should ask...do woman have brothers, uncles, cousins? Do brothers have sisters, aunts, cousins?
In the case of relationships that are animistic bonds we cannot control magnetism energy that draws us to theses bonds... however, we can develop the will to go against our natural desires accordingly. Just as we do with addictions.
This idea that we cannot help who we love is a lame excuse when it comes to engaging in sex unless we buy into this idea that sex is love & respect. Then we must consider the fact that the love of a mother most revered by everyone? While the love of a child, then a pet come a close second, third respectfully.
I do believe there are some men that can be true friends. I am fortunate enough to have had a male friend for over 25yrs. He is my best friend and we have been through a lot together. We do everything together...except have sex.
I really like having male friends as men see through a different lens then females. Most are very easy to talk to and aren't ultra sensitive also. However, I must admit that most of my male friends have admitted to being attracted to me beyond friendship, and have blatantly stated if I wasn't married to so and so I'd be trying to marry you. (Blushing) It's sweet but I'm sure there's a reason they've made it to the "friend" zone. Hmmm, did I answer the question.
I also believe that men can be friends with Females, as well I believe that women can be friends wit males..! Not everyone in life that we meet we have to have a sexual connection just because it's the opposite sex. My personal opition only.
I personally think that men and women can be only friends, depending on each parties feelings towards one another. I know for me, I have a few men that are my friends and that's all that they are: friends. It's possible, but it's just depending on both parties to set where the line is drawn from not being "just friends."
I do agree to a point. i have had many guy friends who have fell under this theory. But I also have 2 guy friends who are just that, friends! It's hard because even if they are not physically attracted to you, emotions often get into the way. It's hard to find a great guy who just wants to be your friend. But I feel it is possible.
It’s always a gray area.. I would many time prefer a guy friend over a girlfriend, but I know to my heart that it’s not really possible. And it’s not just annoying to taking care of " the boundaries", but it’s due to the fact that a good guy-friend ends up being married to a girl who would probably band the kind of relations, or after his new endeavor, he finds the relation is over. Then you would think, “were he a friend anyway’ or just on the wait list?
I have to say I find this quite ridiculus, you are basically saying that guys only have/want female friends who they are attracted to... rubbish. I have a number of very good female friends, some of whom I am not physically attracted to and would never sleep with, but they are still friends! Btw I wouldn't sleep with the others either! It's all about respect, something that some here seem to lack big time!
I have a male friend we have been friends for over 10 years, i have no doubt there is mutual respect and we are not attracted to each other its a great friendship and very unique i feel very lucky and fortunate :) ..however a little strange when he suggests friends for me to date! I would love to see him happy and I know he wants the best for me to, hes like a brother and yes he is sraight however he likes very very tiny girls, tanned and blonde and girl next door look, and I myself am more curvy brunette exotic looking and have a milky complection.
Females can have male friends. The only difference is that men have testosterone so of course they'd bang their female friend. LOL! I have guy friends that I am sure would never sleep with me and I have some that I am sure would. Guys see sex so differently than women. It's usually the woman who has to put up the boundaries. My guy friends' know very well I would not sleep with them. But I am a woman who can set and maintain boundaries.
Think about your own group of friends...are they all female or all male? Likely not, I'm sure everyone has both. Question answered :)
I have many male friends who are just friends. Most of them I've known since middle school or high school. Where I encounter problems, however, is from their wives and/or girlfriends because apparently they believe as you do - that men and women can't be just friends. Because I don't want to cause any trouble for my friends and I don't want to be the source of drama in anyone's life, I rarely see those friends anymore. I think it's sad and foolish of those women (because let's face it, I've known those guys for such a long time that if something was going to happen it would have already) but I can understand (sort of) so I keep my distance unless the wives/girlfriends are going to be there too.