I think most of those 12 are categorical opposites of Dr. John Gottmans 4 Horsemen which he basically describes as:
The first horseman in a relationship is criticism
The second horseman is contempt
The third horseman is defensiveness
The fourth horseman is stonewalling
According to Gottman, the presence of any two is almost a sure sign of impending divorce while the presence of all 4 means the relationship is too far gone to repair. The exception is that if #'s 3 and 4 are the only two, often times a committed couple can work things out.