I am new here, however, I wish to add my thoughts.
I think that most people have misconceptions of what they are going to find, but there is also good reason. There are a lot of men pretending to something they are not just as much as women. I don't think either sex is free from this type of behaviour on the internet. I think all one can do is try and filter out who is real and who isn't. Having been on a couple of dating sites, I find that the majority of men are just looking for sex. They don't seem to have much substance to offer no matter how much or how little money they may make. I am not interested in paychecks, but rather finding someone that I click with in all ways. It is sad that so much filtering must occur, but I guess that is part of the norm given the format.
I wish you all the best and hope that you find who you are looking for eventually .
I read Latin1975's comment about men's profiles that give no info other than how much money they make. I can't count the number of profiles I have clicked on that stated the man's income and listed everything else as "no preference." Who's interested in "no preference?" That's a great point Latin1975. Thanks for bringing it up.