You aren't ready to be with someone until you are happy with yourself. You have to be able to be alone, for a substantial period of time, months, and not be depressed or freak out. You have to truely be happy with yourself and by yourself before you are ready to enter the dating world. You have to respect yourself first.
...you empty all the junk in your trunk. You need time alone, true, but you also need to get out and help others to really get back the true "giving" side of you that has been lost. Funny - there are givers and takers all over this site and I've yet to read one profile of an acknowledged "taker". Everyone's a giver. You can't truly be a giver until you work through your own baggage. If you want to find that ONE for you, there is no better way than to truly prepare yourself. Finding that ONE is not luck. Good attracts good. get yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, and most importantly emotionally healthy and you will be amazed at the change in quality that you attract. That's how it works...
Before you can be truly happy, you must first accept where you are in your life and relationship. Rather than focusing on the things that your relationship is missing, focus on the things your relationship has.
I half agree with you. I think my problem is because I am so independent, I am TOO OK with being alone. I'd rather be happy by myself than unhappy with someone. That's the lonliest feeling in the world and I was there for a long time WITH someone. I do agree with respecting and being happy with who you are, flaws and all. After all, your future partner is going to find out one way or the other. :)
if ever an excuse was required - what absolute rubbish - there are so so many ways of not being alone, point being you choose to be alone you want to be alone, go join a gym, go join a charity, go help out at a a homeless unit .. there u go - so why be alone..
For me, I am not ready to be with someone, for sure, not right now... cause I haven't even seen or met that perfect someone! I still have to make sure of myself, be ready for the so-called commitment and sacrifice! simply because, commitment is either 100 percent given or nothing at all!!
To The Millionaire, I think you have saidit all. I am a 65 yr old woman who has been on another site for seniors and see so many,many men and women who are not ready to even communicate with themselves. Facing the truths about oneself is harder so some than others,some "just can't handle the truth" I am 20 yrs a widow and only a few years ago began to find myself just a healthy and happy person with or without anyyone around. I don't complain oftenbecause I only aknowlede myself as apart of the solution if there is a problem. If I have nothing to add but complaints and the ant it awful comments I'm a drag. I as an older woman have much to offer the right man. I am loyal to the site for seniors because I see I have much to add there and even if I don't meet the right one it's all about the process that makes it fun and quite an experience in itself learning about who I am ,sofican
Knowing yourself is essential. If you know whom you are, if you know how to handle lonliness, then you are ready for anything that comes along with life. Being happy with yourself is accepting what you have accomplished up to now in your own personal life, and if you can improve it, go ahead. I think that when you are younger, you want to conquer the world and change everything that in your own personal opinion is not right. But life itself will show you on the road, that the most difficult part to change is yourself.
When you are willing to change your bad habits or willing to learn something new, and not staying with the "old ways" of doing things, then you are giving yourself an opportunity to see the world into a different perspective. You are open to new ideas, new ways of seeing Life, new ways of becoming a better person. We still have to learn through out our lives.
Respect yourself and you will respect other people as well. Do to yourself what you are willing to do to others. Because you cannot be too different people, although there are people like that as well. Respect comes from within yourself. You cannot give what you don't have. If you are willing to share your life with someone, you have to be willing to give what you have received first. If you have nurished love you will be able to give love, and so on.
i also agree because whether we admit it or not we all have flaws whether their physical or emotional. people now a days just need to love themselves and stop looking for the perfect per soon. accept people for who they are and you will be happy. i really dislike when people constantly try to change people. but like i said nobodies perfect and love most definitely isn't. just love yourself and god and when your ready love will come.
i completely agree with that... and it makes me wish you werent so far away... but what you said everyone should really think about (email me because i can't email you...)im gonna include a pic if you read my profile you could understand why i dont have one up