"Dream the impossible" huh? Thats something that is said in the movies, For some the impossible is just that, The Impossible. Like finding a wealthy guy to see deeper than skin, or appearances. I am a very pretty woman but no one on here seems to think so, So before you go telling people to "dream the impossible" remember that that is just a huge let down for some like myself. Cause the "wealthy Beautiful"people don't go for average full figured women like me, I have been on this site for a month or more and have chatted with two men from here, and both looked at my pics and only saw the face pics but when they asked for the full head to toe pics, and saw that I am not thin, but more so full figured, they quickly moved on making sure to have never spoken to me again,and thats the let down!
Forgive me for being so out spoken but that exactly how I feel everytime I come across a profilethat reads "funloving women wanted " or something close to. I hope that everyone on here finds exactly what you are looking for and it works out perfectly for you, I suppose we all find someone someday just for some of us it's not what we want., and for some it's exactly what we are looking for in a relationship. Looks Brains, great personality, and anything else we expect our perfect mate or companion is supposed to be like. For those that are still looking I hope that you find him/her and he/she makes you happy. Have a blessed Day and a Blessed Life ladies and Gentlmen
pureheartedlady write: ..relationships are like lessons. You learn from the mistakes and realize what you dont want the next time around. Dont settle to be someones trophy...
Wonderfully put ladies!!!
Relationships are lessons?? So true, so true! Before I went on my "dating hiatus", I thought I had always ended a relationship, relecting about what I learned. It wasn't until two and half years ago I went even deeper in myself and asked some pretty tough questions. "Why do keep ending up with these jerks???" Well guess what I learned...I MADE BAD CHOICES! No only did I make bad choices but it was the SAME BAD CHOICE OVER AND OVER AND OVER...!
That led me to realize I had a self-esteem problem. ME OF ALL PEOPLE!!! I always dated guys who were dependent on me, I was always the breadwinner, I was essentially seeking those to take care of because I thought if I took care of them and they needed me they would never leave me. It wasn't THEM it was ME.
I didn't believe it at first but then I remembered dating this guy back in 2000 and he was sweet, romantic, intelligent and had a great career. I had just started a new job in New York and what I had considered a great salary. Well, one day me and this guy were talking over the phone and I discovered he made more money than me...waayyyyyyyyy more. I dumped him in a week!
When I thought about this, I realized at the time I felt like a peasant girl compared to this guy and didn't feel comfortable going out with him unless I paid. I couldn't keep up so he had to go. What a shock I had when I remembered this. I knew I had a lot of work to do on myself.
What did I do? I tapped into my SELF and started loving me all over again. Well, for the past two and half years, I've been dating myself and LOVING it!!!
I've mended my brokenness, and NOW I'm ready to venture out, having learned the lesson of choices and being aware of the true wealth that lies inside me.
(Hey Jazz - "Steel Magnolias" is my favorite movie! Only second to "Beaches"....)
Lana, go to a mirror, lift your head up and reacquaint yourself with Lana...I think you'll fall in love with her!
LanaG says: ..Like finding a wealthy guy to see deeper than skin, or appearances..
Lana everybody has a starter point in what they are looking for...as in your quote above! You are looking for a wealthy guy (nothing wrong in that) but that means that you will miss out on all the non-wealthy guys that would like a chance with you! Its the same with the guys who are looking for skinny chicks...when it may be a fuller figured women that may be their ideal partner!
My starting point in my search is a good sense of humour...mainly because I KNOW I couldnt live with a man who couldnt share my quirky sort of personality! If I could find a man who was similar to me then I know we could deal with anything life threw at us and still come up smiling! I walked away from a 26 yr marriage with NOTHING!...but have never laughed so much or been happier in my life!!!
So...would finding a rich guy make you happy? No matter what his personality? Dig deep into your thoughts Lana...what sort of man would you want by your side if everything around you fell apart?