I am not sure maturity has a age at all. I know a woman who is 59 who still thinks she is a mankilling cheerleader in college and is ditzy as hell. WhenI was in college I noticed that women in the science fields were far more likely to be mature than others. Same in my professional life. Maybe its all about having a logical mind. If you have graduated college early, as FuzzyGemma has, she obviously is ahead of her peers. I did the same in college and found that most people my age group were thinking more about beer than a career. As a result, I usually dated older women or women in the science field. I cannot say that all older women are mature, nor men either. All my evidence points to the brain/mind, rather than age. Forget the age. Go for the mind.. I am not a good example of maturity -- I think I am a gigolo, but I can't seem to find any customers. Heck, I only charge 10 cents. lol
You don't have to have the same maturity or experience or mindset to date, you just have to like each other and be attracted. Even to marry. There are a lot of reasons people marry, the whole Amerrican standard is not the norm in most parts of the world.
It Latin America, it is very common for a 20 year old to marry a 40-50 year old man, even encouraged by parents if the man is a gentleman and established. They take on a mentor/student father/daughter protector/protected provider-outside/provider-inside relationship in many ways and it works well. It's even seen on the soap operas when the families are poor and trying to marry upward in class.
There are quite a few 20 year olds that could pass for 35 in behavior and 50 year olds that pass for 35-40 in looks so they don't even look out of place.
It's also quite common for men 30-50 in America to marry foreign brides in the 18-25 range and it works out very well sometimes.
I for one know many 20 year old women that are far beyond quite a few clueless 35 year old women and know quite a few 50 year old men that easily pass for under 40, in looks, activity, yet carry their wisdom along too.
Since a lot of women want safety, comfort, and love as marriage objectives and many men want sex, sexy, adoration, and submission, it can work.
At the least, it offers a man the opportunity to perpetuate his youth because he will be around a lot of young people and the young get an accellerated growth, become more worldly, mature, and wise very quickly, as it rubs off compared to hanging out with others their own age, which is the blind with the blind. There is something to be said for what a young woman learns when her man is not all about night clubs, fast cars, and chasing skirts.
There is nothing wrong with it.. Kudos to the man that snags a young woman if she's a diamond and to the young woman who is therefore beating out a lot of women that should have much more to offer.
statuesque4u very good pointers i agree but a women mature much faster than a man there a whole lot of men out there today that r in there 30s and still havent mature yet. maturity come with expriences not so much age. i have dated a 21 man before and a 32 year old man but yet the 21 year old was way more mature than the 32 year old. That somthing to think about
I think I would like to add something about sex and age differences. If lots of sex is your main goal, then go for a woman over 40 and a man under 18. If quality sex is important, and intimacy is important, go with the oldest man or woman that you can stand the looks of. If grammer is important, don't end a sentence with of.