I have come to realize like you that in order to have a really successful partnership between a man and a woman, that both need to feel valued and contributing to the relationship. In a lopsided situation, it is very difficult.
Finding your best match is tricky - this is why we are here right?
If I could easily find a man who is both a treasure and compatible, this would be heaven. I have met nice, kind, intelligent and sensitive men - unfortunately many without much income or strength in their successes, so I found myself needing to provide alot of emotional support to overcome the differences. I hope to find the man who feels strength in who he is and wants to share that with a woman who is balanced, knows how to have a good life, and brings her own strengths.
Golfstar...although I do see where you are coming from I do believe it works both ways. It's not only women that are like that but many men are like that as well as I have posted on other topics. It takes two in any relationship..open communication, common interests, a want AND need to love and be loved..so many things that are important in any relationship in order for it to work:). Don't get me wrong..I am not saying that one should work at a relationship (im confusing my own self here lol) because a relationship should not be work it should be where two people can share the good and the bad times..WHICH YOU ALREADY KNOW by reading your post.
I have faith that you will find that special someone who fills your like with love and enrichment as you will hers..just don't give up hope. She's out there.
As for the person who made the post that a Woman's number #1 job is to take care of her man..I'm sure that is why you are single. A relationship takes two people..not one while the other caters. A mutual loving relationship is a healthy one
Yes it sums most of us up in one category or another. We all have issues. Do we now have to hide our issues and never let you know who we are? I am a strong woman taking care of myself but lonely. I too am new to this site and can not afford the gold membership. I thought I might be able to meet someone interesting. I hope this isn't a taste of what is out there now. Bitter need not apply.
Sounds like a guy I would be interested in but he sounds like there he is very narrow minded and has crossed women off his list. Love is give and take and he does not express his desire or ability to love a woman and maker her happy. He sounds like all other guys; selfish. Women have to take care of their needs and happiness because males refuse to grow up and make women happy; males have not learned how to be UNselfish. A mature loving, giving male says; what can I do today to maker HER LIFE easier, happier, better, more fulfilling.
Very well written; shows a Man who has been through a lot: happiness, pain, and pretty much all thats in between. I like what you wrote about the Women you have met, pretty much sums us all up in one catagory or another. However visa-versa. So to let you know, I am new to this site not a Gold Member (cant afford to waste $$) lol, unless of course it works. If you read this write me/I work 8-6 M-F and 3hrs on Sunday. So I dont have alot of time to play on the PC. Found out thru my nephew about this site and thought My Prayers Have been answered! lol
Specially to you "metisse99"
(But also to all the other great ladies who did show up with there opinion in this forum)
After reading through this forum, I am pretty sure that "golfstar" is already taken. lol
Do not fall into tears because of that! I know that "we" still are some honest and marry minded gents out there who will be more than delighted to meet one of you! (including myself! lol)Could i ask you to check out my profile, and then let us take it from there??
belle4bete write: I think in general too many people have forgotten what it means to be a partner with someone. WE have become a society of me me me... In my own life i live very simply. Material things have enver beena part of my life nor a big need of mine to have a life. But what I do miss and need in my life is someone who NEEDS me. I was raised in the US south. I guess I still believe a lady's 1st job is to please her man, to be there to boost him up and to care of him and to make him look good. And to laugh and to cry and to share life as it passes by.
wow, you look like bete midler, i love her and sing like her, but you look like her, i hope that doesn't get you mad, i love bete midler..