sdlawprofessor write: I'm a professor of law and spent 18 years in the trenches as a business litigator with major law firms. Based on my experience, several comments in this thread seem to me particularly useful: 1. Being a "millionaire" doesn't mean being a big spender or having a lot of money to spend. The big spenders don't remain big spenders for long unless they are exceedingly fortunate. So-called "millionaires" whose money is tied up in highly leveraged real estate have paper profits but little cash and often-punishing mortgage payments, and could be wiped out easily if the real estate "bubble" bursts. 2. "Millionaire" is not synonymous with "manners" or "mindfulness." Lots of crude, rude, and not particularly intelligent people become millionaires. One can be a millionaire due to inheritance, luck, or a good lawyer. 3. Lots of millionaires behave like ordinary folks, dress in an ordinary fashion, and spend their money wisely. It is legendary that Sam Walton, founder of Wal-Mart, didn't even have an office, he occupied a cubicle like everyone else. 4. A gentleman pays for the phone calls, the travel expenses, the dinners, and whatever other costs are involved in developing a relationship. Men on this site who claim to be millionaires but are unwilling to incur these expenses are not worthy of your attention. I realize this is a traditional attitude and is not "politically correct," but gentlemanliness is itself a traditional attitude, and there is value in tradition. Regards to all, Arnie
Well said Arnie, from one law professor to another! It's not just the money, it's the quality of the man.
silverT write: Its not the money you have, but how you use it. I have the means to spoil a pamper a woman, but would rather have a meaningful relationship where both contribute to the relationship.
Stated differently, "it's not having what you want, it's wanting what you have"
Its not the money you have, but how you use it. I have the means to spoil a pamper a woman, but would rather have a meaningful relationship where both contribute to the relationship.
StarVoyager write: I know of two females on here that are definitely "certified millionaires" and I know several women on here that are just "certifiable". Myself, I'm certified several times over but when filling out my profile , when it came to how much I make, it just seemed extremely pretentious to put down seven figures.That's more zeroes than I had on my third grade report card. :)
4. A gentleman pays for the phone calls, the travel expenses, the dinners, and whatever other costs are involved in developing a relationship. Men on this site who claim to be millionaires but are unwilling to incur these expenses are not worthy of your attention. I realize this is a traditional attitude and is not "politically correct," but gentlemanliness is itself a traditional attitude, and there is value in tradition. Regards to all, Arnie
Well said Arnie, from one law professor to another! It's not just the money, it's the quality of the man.
Thanks for quoting this BlueEyz. I would have missed it. It is well said.
This last quote "but gentlemanliness is itself a traditional attitude, and there is value in tradition."
It's nice to hear a man say this. I was discussing it with another lady today. Who should pay for a ticket? I felt the man should also, but at the same time she & I felt it can leave a woman feeling indebted to the man. But if he is a true gentleman, he will not expect anything other than to meet her, hopefully it will be the start of a blossoming & neverending, loving relationship.
And yes, there are some millionaires who flaunt, and others who you would pass in the street and never know. I prefer to be in the latter.
Well said...you would think that these values would be obvious...I have money myself...lot's of "millionaire" friends, as well as non-millionaire friends. From what I see going on in some of my millionaire friends homes and families...I could easily assume money makes you stupid. That is mean I know...but I see just as many pathetic sad family struggles...in some ways almost worse than..."poor folk". I guess sometimes you want to give children everything because maybe you didn't have everything...but most of what I see in these cases are spoiled lazy people who don't have or take time to tend to they're children the way children need to be tended to...with your time and guidence.
Just thought I'd share that...:)
sdlawprofessor write: I'm a professor of law and spent 18 years in the trenches as a business litigator with major law firms. Based on my experience, several comments in this thread seem to me particularly useful: 1. Being a "millionaire" doesn't mean being a big spender or having a lot of money to spend. The big spenders don't remain big spenders for long unless they are exceedingly fortunate. So-called "millionaires" whose money is tied up in highly leveraged real estate have paper profits but little cash and often-punishing mortgage payments, and could be wiped out easily if the real estate "bubble" bursts. 2. "Millionaire" is not synonymous with "manners" or "mindfulness." Lots of crude, rude, and not particularly intelligent people become millionaires. One can be a millionaire due to inheritance, luck, or a good lawyer. 3. Lots of millionaires behave like ordinary folks, dress in an ordinary fashion, and spend their money wisely. It is legendary that Sam Walton, founder of Wal-Mart, didn't even have an office, he occupied a cubicle like everyone else. 4. A gentleman pays for the phone calls, the travel expenses, the dinners, and whatever other costs are involved in developing a relationship. Men on this site who claim to be millionaires but are unwilling to incur these expenses are not worthy of your attention. I realize this is a traditional attitude and is not "politically correct," but gentlemanliness is itself a traditional attitude, and there is value in tradition. Regards to all, Arnie
Well said Arnie, from one law professor to another! It's not just the money, it's the quality of the man.
wwwww is right.it's all in where you live.some of youre power billsalone would pay all my household bills.i built ten years ago it cost me 65000 land inclued .my bills are less than 15% of my income.grant it its 40 miles to walmart but hey
its kinda sad...to hear that other ppl start 2 like sum 1 else from the outside just cuz of their money...happend to me in the past had bad experiences...well it was just 2 months ago ended my 2 year relationship..my dad owns a steel industry i know he got money but in my entire life i have always lived an avg persons life..nothing big maybe 1 or 2 but nothing too special like till Now! i sleep on the floor on a matress i donno i just cant sleep on a bed on top..:\ well i hope to find good ppl around here i guess
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