S4U - I loved your "horse pucky" post!!!! That was hilarious!
I think it's easier to analyse love at first sight if you spend time in the dating sites. You scroll through the profiles, only looking at the ones with photos, and every once in a while you go, "Holy horse puckys! There's a hot one!" But you probably don't fall in love with that person. So can you fall for a live person you spot across a crowded room? Well you can mop the drool off your shirt as you gawk longingly at them, but THAT's not love either.
So you probably have to talk to them to discover whether it's love. But what if they think you're a knob? Can it be love at first sight if you're the only one loving?
These are questions as old as time. I bet Adam and Eve even had trouble defining love at first sight. (That was in a time before there was such thing as horse pucky).
I cetainly do believe in love at first site.. I heard a story on t.v where this couple met in church.. and the guy said that he knew she was the one and havn't even talked to her, but he invited her out on a date and he proposed to her that night and they have been married for 20 years :D... So yeah I do believe in love at first site :D
I don't know if there would be a consensus or even a general definition of love because Love exists on so many different levels. I would ask the question "What does being in love consist of?". Oh wait, isn't being in love the combination of ALL the qualities two people have for eachother on the other thread?...hmmmm (to steal a line from that Indy guy.)
Actually, Bob, when I gave birth to my daughter, I wanted to give her back.! I was shocked at my inability to feel an instinctual, maternal, natural love for this tiny, totally dependent thing that, every time she cried I heard, "Stupid first-time mother! Don't you know what I want THIS time???"
In fact I thought there was something wrong with me until, one day, about two months later, I started getting the knack of being a mom and looked on the constantly crying creature as someone who needed me and if not me, then who? THEN I fell in love with her.
I had been working 25 hours straight but I agreed to go with my daughter to the premiere of Lord of the Rings - Fellowship at the Coliseum. I sat there with my giant Diet Coke and Popcorn, fighting unconsciousness, drifting in and out of sleep, catching the thread of the movie as it followed the book....... we're in Rivendell, it's breathtaking, like a dream. Boromir rides in all virile and masculine and fierce and gorgeous .... my eyes flutter closed again and I think, "Wow ...hot knight." The music is lilting, it's part of my trance..... I open my eyes, then they close. I open them wider. I don't realize I'm talking out loud when I cry out in the silence, "OH MY GOD!"
The audience laughs. There, before me ... larger than life, is the painfully beautiful blonde god, the face of an angel, an aura of princely gentleness mixed with elvish bravery and strength. He is Legolas............. and I know it's love at first site.
But it never woulld have worked. I'm a Leprechaun.
If love at first site existed, then why aren't marriages formed in a day? Why, if you knew, did you have to take time "just to make sure" before you took the plunge? I love all your replies and insight. Glad you took the time to share.
I agree with jan_uary and Magnumra. Love is an acquired talent. You can definately be attracted and feel "butterflies" with someone. But love does not always send tinglies. It is a work in progress, it is devotion; it is not a momentary thing that can be changed in an instant. You don't fall out of love instantly and certainly dont fall in love based on a jittery stomach.
I'm with you, champagnepowder, I do get this ecstatic fuzzy butterfly feeling sometimes when I meet someone for the first time and I just know that it's going to be special, whether it's for a short period or a long one. But my most memorable time of that happening was when I was working for a big corporation and I was asking the sales reps for their sales forecasts for the meeting, and so I was backing up in the corridor still talking to them and I bumped into the VP of our biggest supplier who had just come into the office, I turned around to apologize and... OMG!! The most handsome man I had ever met and boy did we both feel Cupid doing his stuff! It was an unbelievable feeling, I was so embarrassed and all warm all over at the same time... it was no less than pure heaven!!
I think that there can be chemistry and attraction at first sight and we may think it could be love but seriously getting to know someone and falling in love would be something that would work for me and possibly last forever!!
Hi to all you lovely people! (but not the gay guy who rips nice folks to bits!!.. you know who you are!! Try at being nice, you might just like it or even find a 'special' someone yourself!!!???)
Yes I totally believe in love at first sight & that there is 'a special' someone somewhere for us all.. It's just finding them that's the hard part! lol
If you search too hard, you'll search forever...? I reckon my soulmate must live somewhere like 'Outta Mongolia' where's there's no PC's!! lol
There's some amazing ladies on this site whose threads are Inspiring, thank you all for sharing ;o)
Be lucky everyone
I agree with Tomi and Tex. As soon as I meet someone I know how long this will last, couple of hours, days, weeks, indefinite.....maybe I just feel how long I could tolerate certain behaviours? LOL
On the other hand, anything I've fell for and jumped into too quickly has gone down in flames badly as well. So can go either way I guess?
Absolutely true, though it hasn't happened to me. But I have many friends that have been married for ages and they knew right away. The few times it's happened to me it's burned real hot and real fast, whew, but didn't last.....damn I hate when that happens....