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Posted on Sun, Jul 14, 2013 12:10

Does everybody deals with friends walking away after you get divorce?.  
I experienced that after I divorced most of my "friends" don't call or invite me to their acitivities anymore.



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Posted on Tue, Jul 16, 2013 21:34

Angieme,

 

It is very common. Don't let it bother you. Forget them! And make new friends. Friends are supposed to be with you through thick and thin and if they can't be by you, you are better off without them.

 

They could be feeling torn between you and your ex as well....so make it easy on them, reduce the awkwardness by just walking away.

 

Some women feel threatened by their newly single friends....they watch over their husbands like hawks and because you are now single, their husband who was hitherto safe with you when you were married is no longer safe with you, so they distance themselves from you and their husband will be well-advised by them to do as they are told or there will be consequences!

 

Relax, find new single friends and secure married ones and have a blast. Enjoy your single days.

 

I suffered the same fate...mine was actually worse as my kids' lives were hanging in the balance and friends just made it a tad worse......

 

Source: Happily Divorced Single woman!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Sun, Jul 14, 2013 21:10

WELCOME to the Forum ANGIEME---

I found out YEARS later from one of my BFF's that SHE felt betrayed by me, as I had not shared with her my marriage was in trouble... She told me she used her husband being upset I had left my husband, (they were friends,) but in reality, SHE was the one who felt I hadn't confided in her about our issues. (I was one to bottle things up and not talk about it.) 

If you have any issues and miss your friends, it may be as simple as being able to sit down and communicate w/ them.. 

Additionally, when married, we tend to have "married" friends, whereas our lives have changed. If we once went to the movies as a 4-some, now the newly single is just the 3rd wheel... 

Wishing you the best!
~~Hoping~~



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Posted on Sun, Jul 14, 2013 12:44

I believe this is fairly common.  After my divorce, I did remove myself from the community of the other couples we met with on a regular basis.  Most of them consisted of the long time homestead farmers in this area. 
I was not raised this way but married into it, for me it was easy to walk away from this group but if they were close friends...I feel for you.  It will get better with time, new friendships will be formed and the others will be a good memory.
My best to you.



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