IT IS OK TO MARRY A MAN 36 YEARS OLDER THAN THE WOMAN. THE QUESTION, WILL IT LAST, AND THAT DEPENDS, SPECIFICALLY ON WHAT THE TWO HAVE IN COMMON.
SEX WILL ONLY HOLD A MAN OR WOMAN IN A MARRIAGE FOR SO LONG, THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING ELSE THAT WILL KEEP YOUR MATE FROM LEAVING OR CHEATING.
I had a friend marry a guy 20 years older and it went like this:
25 - 45 All was good
35 - 55 All was still pretty good
45 - 65 Things started down hill fast
50 - 70 She was the caretaker of an invalid old man
55 - 75 He was dead and she inherited $7mil but that last 10 years was a hard 10 that she says she'd not do again.
Personally, if I truly loved someone that much younger than me, there's no way I'd put them through that and essentially rob them of 10 years of their life!
To marry a person 36yrs years older than you really takes deep love or a lot of money. Either way you will need both. Sex, TRUST, health, night life, relatives, and the age difference will be a challenge.
I agree. When one dates someone more than 10 years their junior they tend to run into a problem of communicating on an even level playing field. Are we that shallow that we will except having a piece of eye candy next to us instead of someone who will help gain and maintain a sense of functions we were giving to grow old together?
I married a girl who was 26 yrs younger and we were very happy for 4 years . The problems are not physical ( if you have taken care of yourself you can be 19 forever) but in perception . Not on the part of the older partner but the younger. Mature men and women have a better sense of themselves and are far less subject to "greener grass" syndrome or the questioning of having missed something.
Statistically, the odds are stacked against the relationship lasting with that big an age difference. But I don't think it is the age... it is the attitude, behaviors, and beliefs that prevent us from making it work.
Angel kleo you have to weigh the immediate feelings to the future challenges which could be minor or major, you never can tell, if you know your now love will be able to carry you through to the end, why not.
Well, It doesn't matter what the age gap is. Just make sure that there's love with what you're feeling then go!
the reason why you are going to marry him. And if the intention is good -- then why not! Love has no bounderies anyway..
I think its fine. My parents are 38 years apart and still married 35 years.The only downside is when he gets older, he's not going to be as physically fit- and he will have health issues. Hopefully minor. But then you will end up being his caretaker and the Romance is gone. You guys will develope a different level of love and is very sweet. Hope this helps. Follow what your heart tells you.Good luck.
Do you have to ask others if it is 'ok' to marry him or not?
Do you have to rely on our opinion?
Trust your instincts, your heart and your brain.
If I am sure I want to marry someone I would not hesitate by asking others, I would shout out loud by saying 'YES'.
The fact that you are asking strangers for permission or affirmation is revealing however, I am not one to judge. I do not know your economic background or personal history. If you were my daughter I would say no way.
Perhaps he may be able to help you through life. It would simply be a mutually beneficial arrangement.
You might run into problems when you
Your interests and point of view on
life could change as you mature, not
that you aren't mature now, but love
and what people think love is often
I think it would be important to step
away from how your heart feels and look
at some of the realistic factors that
could easily happen.
Chances are you will be widowed,and the
rate of divorce is high with people
that have such a broad range of age
Also, would you be ready to take care of
your man when you were in your 40's and
50's?? He will be in his 70's and 80's.
Of course, your relationship could work.
There are celebrities that marry ones
they love a lot younger or older.
Billy Joel pops into my mind.
However, I would urge you to look at
the future and what lies ahead before you
jump into any decisions!