I joined this site hoping that men closer to my age would be interested in an intelligent successful, funny beautiful woman, looking for the real deal and willing to relocate if it becomes necessary. It seems that all of them within a 5 - 7 year bracket of my age only want the very young girls in their early 20s. It is really frustrating so I thought why not check it out cause I am tired of the 21 year olds hitting on me all the time... There's more of course but that's all I have for now.
I joined this dating site (my first) because I want to meet someone that has ambition, intellect and wont take me for a ride financially. It is important to me to know that they aren't after my money so thought this may be the site for me.
I tend to fall in love with guys that are unworthy and yes generally are not as well off as me so thought at least I can take out the concern of someone being after my money. I really want to find my soul mate and have finally realised that I can't just expect him to fall out of the sky and I have to do something about finding them myself.
By the way I am an heiress, and I work extremely hard in my family business. I guess there may be other heirs out their that also work hard? Maybe we just hear about the jetsetting crowd that makes us think heirs to fortunes do not work???
I just joined. My reason is because I would enjoy meeting a gentleman who can read my profile and consider what I am saying without the intellect of a 5 year old. I want to be appreciated and loved, not conquered and detained. In other words, a guy that thinks "look at what I got" and not a guy who yells "LOOK AT WHAT I GOT" appeals to me. In one word "maturity" or "class"... take your pick. I know plenty of men with money who don't appeal to me because they do have that "entitled" attitude. I also know some that are great guys... with wives though and I like them too. Plus i am not a home wrecker. I actually got the idea from reading about Keanu Reeves. THAT is my kind of man. Not so much because he is good looking or wealthy; but because he is carefree, charitable and less than desperate. Looks and money can disappear but a free spirited, good hearted person can make me happy.
All the wealthy men I've dated have been wealthy because their talents and skills have allowed them draw a high salary, and those skills usually also imply is a certain intelligence, interest in the world and ambition.
I joined because i assumed I'd meet men those qualities - I'd go so far as to say I'd avoid a millionaire whose money is inherited, as my experience shows them to be lazy and imbued with a sense of entitlement.
Being a millionaire today is not really a big deal because I am one. But one would hope that a man who is, has got his life somewhat together, has some intellect and personality for getting things done, at least. I am tired of always being the more successful one. I do not want someone else's money but I am getting tired of working so hard. I decided I would look for a man who has made at least as much money as I have, someone I could look up to because that is the biggest challenge in finding a good man: finding a man I can respect.
Frankly, I am use to a certain type of lifestyle and thats what i had before my recent divorce of my marriage of 13 years. He was the bread winner and I stayed home to raise our son. Now that we have divorced...its been an extremely humbliing experience. I am living a much simpler lifestyle now and thats fine but I prefer to have it better, especially for my son. I already went thru the years of struggle and paid my dues, its time now to find my that man that I can grow old with, raise my son together and enjoy life.
I am a breast cancer survivor so living life to its fullest is what I want.
Hello everyone, I'm new and its nice to meet you all!
I joined this site because it seem to have ambitious and hard working people who are looking for a real relationship but who are not looking to have to take care of someone elses bills and responsibilities. I am not a gold digger. I have a career and own my home. I take care of myself and Im looking for someone who wants to take care of each other in more ways then money. I thought I would find a professional man on this site and thats what im after not money.
I'm new here, but not to the dating world. I like the questions you ask, but the first one is missing some content. You say,"certain people join this site." What kind of certian kind of person are you asking bout? As for the rest..... I was raised to open the door for any woman, and pay the bill, etc. But times have changed, and in this world we live in, where women want to show that they can do just as much as a man, well...?
My friend once said to me, just like you, "Where are all the men that open doors for women?" And I said, "Where are all the women worth opening the doors for?"
To answer your last question, Yes, those men do really exist.
1.) I am tired of the young ones chasing cougars and thinking I will support them or teach them a few tricks. I just can't deal with a guy who's car is still on his parents insurance and instructing him in the sac. I will however say the younger the more eager to please. Plus the six pack abs, youthful skin and full head of hair do not hurt the eyes like wrinkles and receding hair lines do. But if looks were what it took to achieve happiness I never would have divorced my husband.
2.) Guys near to my age are divorced from young gals that took them for a ride...now they are broke...NOT my problem
Money is NOT everything and those who have money are not all that. I hope to find a mate who is as good with money as I am and is headed in the same direction as I am.
We need not be financial equals but I have a substantial contribution in physical assets as well as intellectual assets and so should he. I'll share if he is worthy and I expect him to do the same. I am actually more interested in making, saving, investing money together to enhance our life style while together way more so than spending money foolishly just because we can. Remember...we never get richer...we just live better.
Though money, sex and physical attraction go a long way, it is not long enough. Staying with someone 30 years and asking them if they had the chance to do it differently, knowing they would say NO means the world to me.
Attraction is the cause to knock on the door. Answering the door is MUTUAL attraction. Visiting again is the beginning of chemistry and being able to live and live a happy life even with the other persons faws (we all have them) and personality quirks, lets us know that MUTAL CHEMISTRY has been achieved.
So...that's why I am here...to find out if my equal exists, if we will ever find each other and if we will know we finally found our perfect match.