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guitargirl40
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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 15:08

I am contemplating taking a job in another city that is an hour or so direct flight from my home. My thought is to buy a condo in the city I am working in, stay there Mon through Thurs p.m., and fly back to my main home (where my children are) on weekends. A couple times a month I would expect to return home for extra long weekends as well. To anyone out there who has had this kind of life, how well did it work? Did you feel too rootless? What are some of the unexpected hassles (besides the sheer travelling)? Pleasures? How quickly did you tire of it, if at all? Thanks for any input


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Posted on Mon, Oct 30, 2006 17:24

I'm not too sure that I could do that sort of arrangement with children involved. In your case though the children could be older and you have shared custody perhaps. I've done something very simular to that years ago. I was dating a lawyer in NYC and commuting back and forth from NYC to Toronto daily. I wasn't married (obviously *L*) and I was still rather young. We often spent weekends at my condo too. It takes it's tole on you though. I would think that you shall have to have it all orchestrated out completely to make it work. Considering that you plan to fly home on the weekends it won't be nearly as bad. Just need to make sure that you leave plenty of time just in case of delays on the flight back to work. When I'm faced with situations like this I do a simple chart up.. know this might sound silly.. but a Pro/Con chart sometimes really helps me to see the overall picture. I'm in a situation not too different then you are. My children are settled but they know that someday in the furture I'll be returning to a job in Europe and we'll simply pack up and move over there. They don't fear it though, actually the opposite. I am merely waiting for the Boss man to finish recovering from a bit of a meltdown (physical more then emotional) and to accomplish some long put off personal goals..then it's back to the office and insanity. I've had time to plan and a chance to really talk over with my children how we can deal with this so that everyone will be happy long run. Children are far more resiliant then we give them credit for. They truly enjoy happy parents. A happy parent is far more likely to give into a request for that new Xbox game after all. *L* When you try a pro/con get the kids involved too. Do the worse case senarios even. Hey one perk.. there is always some other city for them to visit on holidays right??? Children love adventures. A new city to explore and live in can be a real adventure for even the stuburniest (that IS a word right *L*) teen. In the end you need to do what is best for you and all the advice and questions we raise here isn't going to make your decission up.. Good luck on this and in your heart you know you'll make the best choice. Leigh


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Posted on Wed, Oct 11, 2006 19:33

Thx for the input Puck and SStar. I'm not sure what the future holds for me on the job front but in many ways I am 'lucky' to have options of this nature. SS, you are right about thinking about my kids. Its really all I've been thinking about for the last few months, which has made my job problems even more difficult b/c for some time i have felt trapped in a position that was unbearable at work and yet not wanting to disrupt my children's lives anymore than the recent divorce has by contemplating any job changes, let alone changes that might take me out of town. . . The last thing I would want to do, now that my children are finally really settling well into their new post divorce routine and schools, etc., is to rock the boat. And, worse stil from my own selfish perspective, I would not want to contemplate dragging them with me to some new place to take a job when I know it would mean taking them away from the only city they have known, their father (who tho a lousy husband at the end is still a good dad) and all their extended family. Anyway,too much info to share in this forum but suffice to say, that my current job issues that are compelling me to consider other employment are very difficult or else I wouldnt be contemplating this change. In the last couple weeks however I have had some amazing revelations. First, and quite ironically, my children who are witnessing first hand much of what has been so troubling for me at my current job, are becoming my biggest supporters about this possible change. Some of this is b/c they have seen how terribly difficult my job has been and the stress of it all. Even more ironically, I have discoered one of the hidden 'pluses' of my recent divorce where my kids are concerned. Quite amazingly to me, the concept of my being in another city 4 nights a week is not troubling my children as much as I feared given that they already spend 3 nights a week with their dad! That had never occurred to me, that they wouldnt think my being away 4 nights a week was a problem?! ... Anyway, in their view, one more night per week apart from me(should I take a job in another city) is not something they are overly concerned with (tho I will of course miss them terribly and also miss the after school functions) Nothing is certain in life as I have learned full well the last couple years, esp in the way people you count on can let you down, whether its in your home life or professionally. I havent yet decided about what course my career is going to take at this juncture but I am working hard to see all the blessings I have even in this difficult time. I am blessed to have these options/choices frankly. I am blessed to have my good health. I am blessed to have the support of my family (my children esp) who believe I will make the best choice for all concerned. I hope I have the wisdom when the time comes to make a good decision. Thanks for your prayers on that in the weeks ahead! Speaking of prayers, Puck, I hope yours are being answered as you continue your treatment. You certainly have a wonderful cadre of supporters here and do keep up the good info on your progress. Ciao-GG


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Posted on Fri, Oct 06, 2006 17:22

You said children...My first question would be is how would this effect your children..they should always be the first priority....


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