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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 21:08

OK, this may sound CRAZY, to some... But to all of you that have grown up really wealthy, you know exactly what I'm talking about... Initiative, is very hard to come by. Everyone asks, Why do you work ? Then, life seems so pointless, you shop relentlessly, looking for that one thing, that gives you that feel good rush... but only to find that fades only too quickly, and then you're off in search of it again. No, I'm not referring to drugs, but to some, Money is a drug... And, you can lose your family over it, don't let them learn to live, without you... seeing their ballgames or special events in their lives...or Someday, when you can make it, you may not get invited. And then there are your kids... Of course, they have had nothing but the best, But, Do they appreciate anything ??? or are they just a chip off the old block, sitting in their frustration, wondering what game to buy next, not appreciating what's right in front of them... What are the answers ??? For me, It was God... but he did carry me a bit of the way... I was lost, and now... I am found! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Angelface 10


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Posted on Fri, Oct 19, 2007 23:07

Vida... Thank you for your insightful comments.. You are very wise, and have found peace within yourself... very difficult sometimes to attain... I think this was one of my first blogs, this was a lesson I learned the hard way... and wanted to share, hoping it would ring a bell, and save others, the rough path I took... It's funny, everyone had lost faith in me, but God. Through his faith in me, I found faith in myself, and did the impossible... to everyone's amazement ! Now, I plan to do it again, that is... If " HE is up for it ! " ; )


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Posted on Wed, Apr 25, 2007 18:51

AGR8..Starfinder... You are right, kids are totally unprepared for the real world, not to mention marriage & family. Who teaches those values, if you don't get them at home.. You & starfinder, were extremely lucky, to have had a father, that established guidelines and rewards. Have you ever watched The Nanny, those kids, are little Tyrants on there, at 3 yrs. old... They have learned how to push Mommy & Daddy's buttons already, to get their way.. WOW< can you imagine, that child at 16, reform school is Full of them... Schools should sponsor a CAREER DAY, once a month, Fathers from different businesses, can mentor young children, this would prevent those less fortunate, without the good fathers, a chance to see different, interesting careers, to focus on their progress, during their formulative years, let them have their dreams.. Somewhere inside, they are looking for a better road, than their lot in life.. But, without a Father figure, to inspire, motivate & support them, they become casualties of the system... Church groups have this sort of thing, but the families that really need this, don't attend church, so left alone, they are going to grow up, just like his old man...or for a girl, her mother... No child left behind, should have been Goal & Future oriented, to make a difference. My son was lost for a while after the Divorce, you can imagine, how I tried... to be everything for him, but, I can't be a Dad.. It's not in my make-up... Luckily, his Kung Fu instructor, befriended him, and he went Very far... He even instructed lower belts, ran the school for him, and he even put on a tournament in Indpls..and wanted him to start a school in Bloomington...Which he didn't do, but he's a senior Honors student, that learned the needed discipline to get him that far... Where would he have been if this Master, hadn't come along...Probably, 10lbs... heavier, watching TV...with no real goals in life. Even if the kids didn't get into their mentors designated field, Hey... somebody cares about my future... And isn't just watching some dumb sitcom, and drinkin a beer... and could care less.. But, it would have to be part of the curriculum, to be effective. A LIFE MENTORING PROGRAM ... What do you think ?


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Posted on Wed, Apr 25, 2007 07:02

Kids are not taught the theory of exchange. From an early age, my father taught that NOTHING I received came without exchange. The food and shelter he prepared was exchanged for my obedience, academics and chores. Later, my car, watch, etc. were each clearly exchanged for something I had to do or give. It taught me the value of things and importance of earning.


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Posted on Tue, Apr 24, 2007 21:54

Morning angel.. Us angels sure think alike ! Yes, I think the hardest thing for me is saying No... You don't need that... You see, my Dad, would have said yes.... So it's going against the grain, yet I know it's the right thing to do. Funny story... : ) Kid's can be very selfish, very me oriented, and boy ! you better get a handle on that early !!! So, my daughter's little girl, she's five, was over visiting, and it was close to Christmas, and I was telling her, a lot of kids are too poor to get presents, would you like to go shopping for them, she looked at me kinda funny, then said yes, let's buy them lots of presents... The test came, when she liked, all the presents... too. She kinda looked sad, and I said, What's wrong, Well, I sure would like to have that for Christmas myself... Well, ask Santa Claus, and maybe he'll have an extra... We took the toys to the Drop Off Station, where I had her put them in the huge container with all the other toys, and you know, she remembered Christmas morning, she said I wonder if those kids are opening the presents we got them, I said, WOW I'll bet they are, you sure made their Christmas happy ! She just Beamed ! But the funny thing, came later, it was her Daddy's birthday, and we went shopping to buy him a present... Well, she remembered when it was her friend's birthday at school, we bought her a present, and of course she wanted something as well... And I said, No, it was her day today, let's not be selfish and want something ourself... So, on her Daddy's birthday, we had just gotten to the store, and we were walking past these really cute summer tops, on the way to the men's department, and I stop to take a peak... GA GA < You don't want to be selfish, She said, rather loudly.. I cracked up !!!laughing ! OK.. let's go find Daddy's present.. Kid's are priceless gems, and we need to sculpt them just a bit, and boy, do they show their brilliance !


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Posted on Tue, Apr 24, 2007 20:54

Honey... I would have loved that... but there are 5 located fairly close, so... figured not to compete... But, if I had stayed married, it would have been nice to do it for abused or abandoned children.I would love to see them smile...


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Posted on Tue, Apr 24, 2007 20:25

Mike.. I think most of our generation, have spoiled their kids.. But, the cream always rises to the top, and I'll bet eventually, they'll be just like, Dear old Dad... What's so strange...is that junk yard dog syndrome, the worse the kid's are treated, the more they idolize the abuser... Pauline Maria, where are you... that's what makes me mad ! But, all you young parents out there... ATTention !!! DO NOT ! I REPEAT, DO NOT LET YOUR KIDS TALK BACK, AND DISRESPECT YOU... STOP THEM ! MAKE THEM FEEL LIke IT"S VERY SERIOUS, & MAKE THEM APOLOGIZE > or I PROMISE YOU, YOU WILL LIVE TO REGRET IT... It COMPOUNDS *** FROM THERE ! I have felt so embarassed, for these kid's fathers, and mother's, when their lil golden child, will boss them around, and tell them, what THEY ARE GOING TO DO... Tell them when... they're going to leave, put their parents down, and tell them, what they're going to do...later. It's painful to watch ... I love to give those kid's lessons, for once, lil Miss Prissy, has to listen, and be respectful ! and she's so smart, she knows I'm on to her, and she idolizes me, for it... Then, I'll say, how can treat your father that way, you have no idea, how lucky you are, and I tell her how disappointed I am in her... She's thinks it over, then changes... Like training my horses, they love boundaries, it makes them feel secure, but the whole key to making this work is Praise... Kids, animals, everyone likes recognition.. Give them tons of praise, they become energized, motivated, and can take on the world. If you believe in them, they will believe in themselves.. If you don't or have doubts, they will be much harder on themselves, than you ever thought.. So many kids, slip through the cracks, because they can't make the bar,,, Dad or Mom, set it too high... Then, they give up. Who's fault is it ? Just remember, it's never too late, to praise your ...


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Posted on Tue, Apr 24, 2007 16:47

I have spoilt my kids and it is disgusting. Their values and totally screwed up. sorry end of discussion ....it is what it is


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Posted on Mon, Apr 23, 2007 11:02

Angelface: I've always had to be a working lady, but on top of that doing volunteer work gave me that "feel good rush" that you speak about. I brought karaoke to two senior homes and did art and crafts and cooking with them too. Since I do photography, I framed a group of pictures for silent auctions for charity and did pro bono photography promo advertising for a senior home. You have horses, I believe. There has been great success using horse riding with language impaired and physically impaired special needs students. If you have a very gentle horses, you might want to invite some local children's center to your stable a few hours a week with their own therapists and have them cover it under their insurance policy. That is something you could do with your children that is a gift few people can offer.

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Posted on Sat, Apr 21, 2007 21:51

ArgonautOmega... Well, actually I think my father died quite worried about me... that was my impression, anyway.. Needless to say, I was hardly prepared for what I went through... But I think he's up there smiling now, he was always my best supporter, always believed in me, even when I disagreed with him, and he challenged me... I think from our talks, you know that side of me.. : ) But, its that fighter in me, that makes me who I am, and firm in my religious beliefs, and in my convictions, no matter how inappropriate, they may be for the occasion, or for the company I'm with... Yet, I would NEVER offend anyone purposely.. but defend my beliefs if questioned, to the end... regardless of the circumstances...But, you are a very wise man, and although we may not agree on certain things, it's an Honor... to have met you. Not often have I enjoyed, such cerebral conversations... But, Now, my brain seems to be stuck in Warp Drive, and most of the world, would rather DO, than Think... Understandably... : )


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Posted on Sat, Apr 21, 2007 21:18

genie... What is sooo interesting to me, is how, when everything is on the line, and everyone turns their backs, or are helpless at that point, that's when God comes around... Could it be the sincerity in our voices ? or does he lend a hand, like a Father, when he sees his child in trouble. But, one thing I do know, we never forget... Do we... and once someone gets close to God, like that, they never go back to their old ways... That closeness, that comforting Love, He shows, when all is lost, is nothing short of miraculous.. I wish everyone could experience it, just once... before eternity.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 14:42

From what you have written, your father was a man. Not many around like that anymore.Interesting person....knew the meaning of life! I'll bet he died in peace with himself. There is just so much a man can do and I think he did the best to his ability....can't ask for more than that....Money? it's just a "tool" nothing more, nothing less. It has no "intrinsic value". People seem to place "the highest value on the cheapest of Human commodities"....words from Capt Nemo...."20,000 Leagues under the Sea"....1956 film by Walt Disney. Don't you just feel good when you can effect a little change for the better with it in someone's life? When you see the "light in their eyes" which you caused.....well, you just have to "capture the moment" and "savor it"....it is like a "sunset" or "sunrise". The other "side of the coin" is that you don't "cast your Pearls before swine"....but that's another story. People know a lot about Religion....they know all the words and want to get something in return from their prayers..... but few understand religion's meaning or wisdom. "virtue is its own reward"


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 14:28

From what you have written, your father was a man. Not many around like that anymore.Interesting person.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 23:34

Everyone, I really loved your comments, how fortunate for you to have realized this early in life... Hey guys ! Here are the the Good Women ... Oh, Sepelo 7, not one person called me beautiful, covered in dust or worse! When my father passed away, and the money was all tied up, I nearly lost everything... Calloused from cleaning stalls, sweat dripping down my face, in fact, I'd say hello, can I help you, and sometimes, they would walk right by... That is when I thought of Jesus... What he endured ! This is a walk in the park... I remember calling out to him one night ! How much more! I cried ??? That is when he carried me... People started helping, walking in and buying horses... asking how, they could help... I just looked up and smiled, and said Thank you, God... ~~~~~~~~ Angelface 10


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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 22:46

Thanks !!! All of you, for your comments... I wanted so much to help those "lost" souls, like I was.. buried in a materialistic fantasy, actually reality, that was as my ex-husband called it, " a big sugar pill he had to swallow!" That last comment of his .. is partially why I thought this dating site, may be where I might find someone who can understand, and not be so judgemental, or sensitive about my having money, especially, if they have more than me... But, you asked about where God came into the picture... It was when my Father died... He was, Everything, to me... My mother had died about 10 years earlier, and the man I was with, was not Mr. Right... and I never felt more alone. My Father was a big philanthropist, and Loved doing It ! He put on a wing at the hospital, bought all the tickets to the Colts game, so it was sold-out, so the shut-ins could see the game televised. His employees loved him ! He really felt like they were our extended family, about 500 in number, and would take the time to talk with any of them, be it the janitor, or the cook at the cafeteria, were they happy with their job, and how can I make it better for you... That man lived his religion... He knew that day he died, I was going to have it tough...Tears in his eyes, I told him on his deathbed, I'll be OK... Don't worry about me. Then I left the room, minutes later, he was gone... He gave most of his millions to charity.. He always said, It's harder for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God... so he joked, You are going to have to work, to get there. Little did I know, the full impact of those words ! But, now having survived 12 grueling years, on my own.. breaking to ride anything on four legs, from Arabians, Belgians, Percherons, Quarters, Thoroughbreds, haven't broke a Zebra yet, All to keep my TARA...my Dad bought me...


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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 14:08

yeah yeah and its hard being gorgeous too and having men knock down your door. They never see me for who I am. I have this fabulous personality but all I ever hear is "youre so amazingly beautiful". I just wish I was ugly and poor. . .then life would be perfect.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 13:09

With great wealth comes greater expectations and greater responsiblities. What you have said is very true. I know a couple who had the best that the best could afford.. and simply wished for a mother and father who would spend some real quality time with them simply loving them. Let's take it from a child's point of view.. all those expectations and lessons. Did I appreciate it? As a child no. As an adult.. ABSOLUTELY. What you are saying is so correct too. I grew up with a father who had always had everything handed to him on a silver platter. Ever problem he had was taken care of by his father. Even the ones that I feel should have landed him in jail (or at least a mental hospital for a short time ) with an incredible kick in the ass, was merely taken care of by his parents and brushed under the table. To this day he has the hardest time handling responsiblity. He always craves for more and more. Did he appreciate what he was given? No not really. Perhaps He and I differ in that my mother always made sure I faced the consiquences of my actions. I started working at a very young age to earn the money to buy the things I wanted (though I didn't really have to, it just gave me a high to know I'd done it myself) I know of a few whom money is more of a high then anything else. Working and neglecting even their own health merely for the millions that one deal can produce. When is enough enough? For one boss of mine it was that goal of reaching a net worth of 500 Million Pounds. He hit just shy of 300 million and spent a good year in and out of the hosptial for it. He has 2 ex wives and two children (one with each) and hasn't seen his oldest since he was 5 years old (now almost 20) and his daughter since she was 7 months old (now 4years). Perhaps he needs to find God as his ancestors knew him. For me.. I found out how good it felt to help and make other's happy. God and church played a role in it too (opened my eyes at a youth confrence when I was a teen). I definately appreciate the tools I was given though in my growing up. Okay so maybe the years of horseback riding lessons weren't needed. *L* Great blog angelface. Curious as to what others shall say too. Leigh


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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 09:59

Hi Angelface, Loved your blog..I grew up poor and even though I went to a "polished" high school in Dallas-I did not let my peers know that during lunch I was in the back washing dishes for 60cents an hr.! I have worked my whole life and proud of it. I agree with what you are saying. We should appreciate the simple things a little more..for me, I get as much pleasure watching a bug crawl up a tree or watching a child laugh as I do out "fine dining" with friends etc. I've noticed that most men on here are up front looking for their "barbie" and I feel sorry for them..It's because of money that I feel that they have lost what is most important in life..


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