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Posted on Sun, Sep 10, 2006 10:27

Hi Erica Anne....good question. I personally feel that if you are married or engaged or in a serious relationship, you should not be blatantly flirting with other women, either on line or in person. I know there are married men here on MM, jlogan comes to mind. But I honestly do not see him flirting with women, he just writes good, thought provoking blogs. But I am sure there are other married men on here that hide the fact that they are really not available. I have no respect for men who are supposedly in a relationship, yet continue on their merry way as if they weren't. Having been in the position of the wife who has been cheated on, I would never want to inflict that upon another woman. And I would sure never want to be involved again with a man who was not faithful, in every respect. And respect is what is boils down to. Respect for your partner, your relationship, your committment. If you don't respect it, then end it. Don't keep living a lie. That's just my opinion. I could be wrong.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 15, 2006 17:11

JL...I have been noticing your posts and comments recently...you seem to get it...you seem to have great insight into what women need and want...I can't imagine why you are single....I get asked this all of the time...thought I would try it on you....* wink* Erica Anne @)----------


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Posted on Sun, Oct 15, 2006 16:25

We all flirt a little...It is when it becomes demeaning ..or when it begans to create doubt or worry another that flirting can become harmful...


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Posted on Sun, Oct 01, 2006 06:43

Back to the beginning of this blog.....Modified suggested definition of true love is, "When someone else's happiness and well-being is MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR OWN...."


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Posted on Sat, Sep 16, 2006 08:51

Flirting is a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest in the other person. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated. Flirting is sometimes used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship. In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else. People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. One way they accomplish this is to communicate a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used. Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs, some of which are also part of foreplay. source wikipedie encyclopedia I guess it is all a matter of perception of what one is comfortable with... It can be quite fun and harmless..yet the double edge sword of it is it can be awfully damaging as well. Erica @)----------


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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 15:07

Lori Anne I don't think you are a prude..there is just a time and place for everything... Hey Jessica..I am honored you have posted...thanks..*wink* erica anne @}--------


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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 15:04

Hey Crazy Beautiful...how are you...I agree with you but it isn't just men ..women can be just as bad...and it doesn't seem to matter anymore if someone is wearing a ring...in fact it just may stimulate that challenge...Sometimes I just think it is all about ego.... Nice to see you again... erica anne@}-----


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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 12:04

People do get hurt... I don't think we can always tell what one is thinking or know their intentions ....It can depend on the circumstance ..the mood...how self confident one is..but in some instances it may create doubt..questions of the heart..or watching someone that you care about flirt with the opposite sex..may throw one back to a past unpleasant memory ...I just feel if one is out on a date ...with their significant other actually it doesn't matter say it is a first date...second fifth or twenty fifth date..why not treat that person with respect and consideration...We are only talking about a few hours...I have talked with friends who have shared really sad experiences with me..they have told me that they feel almost invisible..and feel great discomfort....because their date is too busy checking out everyone else...I think we should just be aware ..that people have feelings...what messages are we sending out...why take a chance on hurting someone's feelings when instead we can make them feel they are very special to us and deserving of our full attention...accounting of course for normal distractions...


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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2006 15:20

I would have to say, in some regards, that sometimes a little subtle flirting is healthy. Then there might be other times when a little flirting could go the other way. I feel it is a judgment call you make as to knowing the needs of your partner and what fulfills his or her needs. As we all need to feel good about ourselves. Most of the time hearing, seeing, and feeling these things from your partner is all that is needed. Then there is times when we all feel the need to have reassurance from others when we tend to become routine in a relationship. It is human nature to make assumptions that your loved one knows how you feel and therefore we tend to get relaxed and not tend to exonerate the same tenacity towards showing them how wonderful and good looking and what a treasure they are to have in our lives. That is when most of us start questioning ourselves. But that is where, most of us that have had relationships have to recognize these things and not give way to insecurity but take proactive steps to renewing those things which brought you together to begin with.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2006 05:14

Michael I have NEVER cheated in my life. Nor has any man I've ever been with. I've also never had a 3 some. But I do encourage flirting in my relationships. And the line is drawn were we are both comfortable. Talking,winking, a hand on the back. . those kind of gestures dont offend me at all. Sexual contact, buying a drink. . . yes that would offend me. Funny, its never really been an issue in my relationships. I also like it when my bf has gone out with the guys for the night and comes home and tells me about a girl that was hitting on him. I think its hot. Sorry if that makes me weird.


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2006 17:02

Chances are I can agree with you ..one's perception of what is flirting and what is not is...key...I understand your words and feelings completely... Erica Anne@}--------


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2006 15:36

On balance, there are people who are insanely jealous, and I've been with a couple of them. It got to be that I couldn't have a polite or friendly conversation without being accused of trying to pick someone up! I do think we need to be respectful of one another's feelings. Sometimes the other person might interpret "respectful" as keeping your eyes to the ground and your mouth speaking nothing.


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2006 11:53

Its incredibely sexy to know that my man is wanted by another woman. A little flirting is a huge turn on to me. Michael I 100% disagree. I was in a VERY stable relationship and that was the relationship were we were most comfortable flirting with other people. It was all in good fun and we only took it to the limit that we knew our partner would be comfortable with. It was a huge turn on for both of us and at the end of the day he is coming home to me!


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2006 06:54

Crazybeautiful To quote Will.."..I , of course never look anywhere except at her (prevents eye strain), and she is supposed to be my world (at least for that hour or so). " It shouldn' matter if one is in a relationship or not..I have to agree with you it is about respect and considration. What does it cost for anyone to show their partner for the evening a little respectand consideration.. paying attention ..being there.. all this can do is make your partner for the evening feel oh so very special..this is a good thing.. Thank you for Posting.. Erica Anne@}--------


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Posted on Sun, Sep 10, 2006 11:08

If I'm in a relationship and the other calls a waitress 'honey', no big deal. But when the eyes and the smile get involved in it, I want to kill! I hate flirts! I guess in a way, you start to feel inadequate. In some way. And you never know which way. So you're screwed! I've decided that if someone I am with flirts, then what's good for the goose.....


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