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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 19:54

Okay, we've all had our less than perfect moments. Sometimes I think we HAVE to have these imperfect moments to keep us humble and to remind us 'there but for the Grace of God . . . ' Anyway, hadnt thought about this in many years but for reasons I wont bore you with, I did today. This is the story of my worst parenting moment (at least, SO FAR - LOL) . . . can anyone top this? . . . I'd just had my second child. Both children were still infants (one was 3 weeks old and the other 14 months) so needless to say I was a mess - exhausted, zombie, going through the motions. I wouldnt be till several months later we would learn why this second child cried so much or was always so sick (terrible allergies, ear infections caused him to be essentially deaf until he was 9 months old so he was always upset unless he was being held) Anyway, one day, after leaving the older child at his parents day out program, I decided to stop by Target on the way home to buy diapers for the infant After we arrived, I went in, did my business, bought the diapers and, much to my suprise, bought NOTHING else. [Usually, when I enter Target with the intention of buying one item, I spend an additional 45 minutes and buy 30 others . . . but not this day. For some reason I stuck to my plan and just bought the diapers.] Anyway, as I am leaving the store and walking across the parking lot, I hear the sound of a baby crying. I think to myself, 'Oh my God, what BIT*** would leave a child alone in a car' . . . as I conintue to walk, with great righteous indignation toward the sound, I realize it is coming from MY CAR. With growing horror I realize I know the cry and it is from my own child. Yes, I'd left my baby in the car, unattended, unlocked, and alone while I went in the store to shop. And for several minutes. I spent the next ten minutes crying in the car because I thought how many horrible things COULD HAVE HAPPENED given my stupidity in that moment when I simply forgot I had the baby with me and left him alone, in an unlocked car, on a hot day (luckily with a window open but still . . .) Only two weeks earlier a child had died in a car from heat. I could have been (and would have deserved to be) cited for child neglect or endangerment. My child could have been taken by a a stranger. I've often thought about that moment and why I 'screwed up' that day - how does a loving parent make a mistake like that? I honestly dont know why I forgot my baby excep that maybe, b/c he wasnt crying when I arrived at the store, I literally forgot he was there (b/c he cried so much otherwise during those early months). Or it could have just been a lesson from the universe to me that we ALL screw up and thats just the way it is . . . Some of us are just lucky enough that, when we screw up, we dont pay a huge price. How about you, any confessions of terrible moments (as a parent or not as a parent). . . ?


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Posted on Sat, Sep 16, 2006 20:09

Candie - that was HYSTERICAL . . . You make me feel a bit better to about my less than stellar moments! You know there is a movie that has just come out about a boy who eats worms to 'show' the school bully - apparently its pretty good flick. I think you should take your boys!


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Posted on Sat, Sep 09, 2006 12:08

Thx CCG, you're a pal - and I know on one level your absolutely correct, you know, its just that 'ugh' feeling when you know the universe let you off easy. Trey, good stories to share. The child in the middle of the road would have frightened me witless (one of my sons slept walked so that was a possibility for us too) but esp the pizza incident. . . your a good dad to recognize your role in that; I've had a similar incident involving a role of scotch tape, an angry moment, and then came to realize the mangled tape was b/c the little one was making ME a card to say how much he loved me . . .God did I feel like a worm. Oh well, these are the moments that save their lives later in life when they DESERVE to get their ^&*^&*^ whipped for naughty behavior. . . save that for another blog!


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Posted on Fri, Sep 08, 2006 07:55

Thanks!! Since kids don't come with instuction manuals, we can only do our best. When those times come when our best isn't good enough... we teach our children forgivenss. When they get older they'll realize that nobody is perfect and that you ALWAYS did your best... And for any mistakes you've made... they'll forgive you.


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Posted on Thu, Sep 07, 2006 09:57

Wow, Beautifly, I think from what you've described you are one WONDERFUL mom to recognize and do whats best for your child. I know as my boys are hitting puberty, I expect they may want to spend more time with their dad than with me (which will probably kill me actually) and which I will be okay with if it seems best for them (I already let them spend one more night with their dad a week than the legal papers required for this very reason) GM, I have to ask, . . . were YOU supposed to be keeping an eye on your little brothers that day? : )Great story - thanks Yup Sepelo, you're probably right. Folks can bash all they want but actually, in this and as in many things, no one is as hard on me as I tend to be. . . . I still remember VIVIDLY how AWFUL I felt that day (and it was almost 11 years ago).


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Posted on Thu, Sep 07, 2006 05:25

Wow. . . .congrats for having the courage to post this. You might take a bit of bashing. I dont have kids but I was out shopping with some girlfriends one day, and around 5pm one of my friends started freaking out. Seemed she'd been so wrapped up with shopping she'd forgotten her 6 yr old kid at school. So we sped over to the school, she's crying the whole time, and an officer stops us and shes too hysterical and focused on getting there to explain why she was speeding. So, I talked to the cop, and he let us go. We get to the school and they had already called the ex husband to pick him up, which was worse cause now we had to deal with him and listen to him yell at her. Bad experience, but made me realize that even the best parents can be TOTAL screw ups at times.


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Posted on Thu, Sep 07, 2006 01:25

As a parent... one that went through post-partum depression and depression caused by other things well after that... I have had many moments. However, I've reconciled my past. My son and I have a great relationship. I will tell you this though... Currently, my son doesn't live with me; he's with his dad. It took/is taking a great deal for me to accept that I'm not being selfish for allowing my child to live with his other parent. Prior to this summer I was at a severely low point in my life and I didn't feel as though I was doing my child justice. I took care of all of his physical needs, but I was emotionally unavailable to him... well not really, but I felt like I could've been "more." I knew that I just needed time to get myself together. I really felt worse for a while, but I can see that my son is happy where he is and a boy needs his father. I'm okay with my decision now. I'm comfortable in knowing that everything that I've instilled in him will stay with him. I'm proud of my son... so that means that I've done some things right!! Being a parent is stressful... so as far as the universe goes... I think it's giving me an early, much needed break from being a full-time parent. I think I've earned it...


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