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southernstarr2006
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Posted on Sat, Sep 02, 2006 22:01

Harry: You realise of course that we can never be friends. Sally: Why not? Harry: What I'm saying is... and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form, is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved. Harry: No you don't. Sally: Yes I do. Harry: No you don't. Sally: Yes I do. Harry: You only think you do. Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge? Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you. Sally: They do not. Harry: Do too. Sally: They do not. Harry: Do too. Sally: How do you know? Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman he finds attractive, he always wants to have sex with her. Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive. Harry: Nuh, you pretty much wanna nail'em too. Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you? Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story. Sally: Well I guess we're not going to be friends then. Harry: Guess not. Sally: That's too bad. You are the only person I knew in New York. Ok ladies and gentlemen..Can men and women who are attracted to one another ever be " Just Friends"...??? This is a question I am asking myself these days...I really would appreciate your thoughts..Thank you... Erica Anne@}------------

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Posted on Sun, Sep 10, 2006 12:45

yes, It also depends on the man, my ex we had these conversations about this and he alway said no, woman and men can not be friend and I alway was of the mind that yes we can have men friends, but like your harry says they want to have sex with you if they are being truthful. But push the sex issue to the back burner in able to stay friends. But since we broke, he still calls to see how i am , who I am with if I found anyone he seem not able to move on so, for him i can't be friends. Why keep hope alive. Now he wants to to be friends.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 10, 2006 09:43

Ok.it seems women can be a good friends without the physical being introduced..I wonder as Rstarr stated..sex and friends...I suppose this would be called friends with benefits...do most men feel this way? Erica Anne@}-------


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Posted on Sat, Sep 09, 2006 23:03

rstarr..so you are saying men can have casual sex with a woman and remain just friends?? Erica


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Posted on Sat, Sep 09, 2006 14:53

hey Morning Angel you are a cutie..I know I love being best friends with a guy...and I agree it can be great fun...the thing is ..their hearts begin to soften if you know what I mean...I hate it ..when this happens..and after each loss...I immediately open the door for another heart ache. (( Duh erica )) Thanks For Posting... Erica Anne


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 18:48

OK Logan..I understand what you are saying..but in my own experience I have found ...that when I am in this kind of friendship...I love it...I love having a guy as a friend..I make a great friend ..I don't cross the line. We are (friends) not friends with benefits..I can do this easily and be a happy camper..forever if wanted...but every time ..my good buddy as it were..goes and gets smitten on me..they began to fall for me..and this ruins it..I know it just a matter of time before the relationship ends...it just becomes too uncomfortable...its almost like a death at times and is very traumatic for me...I feel a little confused over this..because the old adage is Best friends make the best husbands wives and lovers....I wonder where does one draw the line especially if one is in a relationship. Is it healthy to have a friend of the opposite sex when in a relationship? Just thoughts... Erica Anne@}-------


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 17:49

I believe it's possible for men and women--even those that find each other attractive--to be "just friends," but usually it'll be certain circumstances like one or both of them is already in a relationship and too ethical to cheat, or they're good friends with the other person's partner, and so would never do anything to jeopardize THAT friendship either. And of course, there's that situation where one or both of them is gay. It's kind of awkward if one of them is MORE attracted to the other person than that person is to them, and neither one of them is seeing anybody (or the one who is becomes available), because then the other one might be forever wondering, "Hey, what about me?" I actually avoid friendships with men whom I don't find attractive for the very reason that they might develop some crush on me that I'll never return.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 06:50

Erica Anne I can honestly say Absolutely. I've had some incredible friends over the years that have been males that I've been attracted to. Perhaps in part I'm able to this due to the tomboy I was as a child. No idea actually. When I was in my late teens/early twenties my best friend was a Mel Gibson look alike at a time when Mel was still top in everyone's books. Of course I was attracted to him (and his older brother more so who had this cute lil mustache)who wouldn't have been? We were always together too, talked about everything under the sun and openly too. And set each other up on dates with our friends. But it was strictly just friends between us. After having had one friendship like that it's not been hard to follow suit over the years with various other men. Sometimes it seems like I have some of the best looking and most sought after men as my best friend. And in just being myself and relaxing into a friendship not only have I found some incredible friendships but over the years I've actually learned things I might not have had I gone past that friendship and into lovers. It's great fun. Leigh


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 04:37

amandarenee-loveee the "white spot" haha made me laugh Yes Erica Anne I am best friends with one of my ex bfs that happens to be the best relationship/love I ever had. And we truly are JUST friends. He is in the middle of getting engaged and we were talking last night and deciding if he should do it in Paris or where he lives. It can work. I am also casual friends with all the men I've ever seriously dated(one exception). Just depends on your personality I guess. I figure if they are the type of man you'd want to be with. . why not keep them around as friends. I've also been very lucky and never been in an abusive/truly "bad" relationship(with that 1 exception) so no harm in being friendly.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 00:31

I believe yes they can. I have a lot of male friends some I find sexually attractive some I don't but I'm still able to carry on an adult friendly relationship with them. But then again men are different then women. One of my best friends is a male we have never ever done anything sexual with each other or ever brought it up. He sees me as a little sister and of course I've never found him attractive so I guess your question is one of those questions that will never have a straight to the point answer.


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Posted on Sat, Sep 02, 2006 23:52

I dont find that many men attractive,,Im too damn picky..but I Do appreciate their beauty and brains. IF I am really attracted to a man,,forget HIS sex on the brain,,its MY sex on the brain that wouldnt want to be "just friends" Ide always be thinkng about how he kisses,,or makes love or ...gezz never mind,,iits getting hot in here


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Posted on Sat, Sep 02, 2006 23:24

MY FAVORITE MOVIE OF ALL!!!!!!TIMES!I asked that earlier, the guys said no, the gals said yes...So, again, I am curious with your entertaining approach.SO CUTE!!! THANK YOU!


Courtney :)

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