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Posted on Sun, Aug 27, 2006 08:47

In fact, I am damn sure of it. I don't see what makes one think that just because of a few simple dates that it gives one the right to demand sex of any form. I don't think that anyone should have to feel obligated to sexual relations after date three or date seven. What kind of dumb ass limit is that anyway? Come on, who *really believes if you ask for the same thing seven or ten times in a row, shoving objects in someone's face that you'll get what you want and think you deserve? Oh, hell naw? Patience is key, and finesse opens the door- not force or sounding like a lame, broken record. I'm sure for those of you who are wise can read between these lines. Have an auspicious day everyone.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 23:30

BlueEyesBeDazzled- Some will never get that... Quite a pity, too. Mariana2005: Unfortunately, I'm not a member either. But um... leave me a comment sometime, since your profile is hidden. I'm sure we could work something out :) September: I think he's just an ass in general. I'm ignoring him now. Perhaps he'll just go away...


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Posted on Thu, Aug 31, 2006 18:11

No never meant MAYBE! I cant believe Some! anyways, I agree with you 100% we should be respected on all levels and how many dinners out does not in title you to sex at the end of the date...Really, though if I'm not "feeling it " in any way, I try and cut it off....Then there is no mis understanding...Men have a hard time( well at least the ones I have dated) understanding that when you go out it does not mean we want sex at the end of the date. if you go out with a guy more then a few times he feel a sense of "entitlement"


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Posted on Thu, Aug 31, 2006 17:45

Allthebest- Yes, provincial thoughts are quite the hindrance for some individuals. It's quite the pity. SV- This wasn't about merely getting "hit on..." I don't care about flirting or getting hit on- I don't bitch about such inconsequential things. I was referring to something else entirely. I'm guessing you didn't pick up on that... gmm567- You said "Ask any skilled player who's bagged 100 of you." Emphasis on the "of you" part. Were you just referring to women in general? Perhaps next time you should be more specific. It wasn't seven dates, and yes, he was full aware on what I *wasn't planning on doing, not that it mattered (to him). I'm not judging everyone- just saying that for me personally, no, I'm not gonna screw everyone I happen to go out with. I'm talking about me, and yes, I'm full aware that I do not speak for everyone, even though I'm sure that some would agree. And no, you genius you, I'm *not ignorant. Quite the gentleman.


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Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 22:12

guitargirl40- LOL, yea, comprehension just flies out of the window... And I appreciate your insight, and you're probably right. gmm567- You are absolutely... wrong. About me, anyway. I'm not going to speak for everyone, but for every decent woman out there, not the whoring ones you've seemingly come across, they say what they mean and mean what they say, and if they're not interested in something, and they say they're not interested, then guess what? They aren't. And trust when I say he absolutely did not "bag" me you ignorant jackass.


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Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 19:09

I had to laugh when I read your blog as I would think most every woman has had a similar experience at one point or another. . . I guess even if the guy you are dating is a native English speaker, his comprehension of the language sort of fades away when the testosterone levels reach a certain point, huh? I guess what I find really obnoxious about your date (if I can be permitted to project a bit from my own ancient experience in this regard . . . as I havent dated since I was 21) is that this kind of guy is probably the same type who will complain to his friends about his girlfriend never really listens to him or only will hear what she wants to hear, or she is 'always playing games' blah, blah, blah . . . Go figure!


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Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 18:32

BTW, everyone- this isn't me male bashing or whatever, I was just venting.


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Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 18:29

EliteTraveler- I get your position, really. But what I was referring to was not repeatedly being asked on a date, but something very specific, near physical, and completely absurd. "Parts" were out and about... There was no mistaking his agenda. And I certainly hope that chivalry and respect isn't dead.


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Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 15:45

scarlet, From a mans perspective and with no authority to speak for everyone; your point is legit and well taken... While in the military and during my present job, I've had the occasion to review/act on sexual harassment complaints. Men and women agree that sexual coercion and sexual propositions constitute sexual harassment, however, they do not necessarily agree that repeated requests for dates after refusal do. Therefore, a woman may perceive that sexual harassment has occurred after a number of the latter types of social-sexual behaviors have taken place, whereas a man may be less inclined to do so. For example, men may interpret repeated requests for dates as flattery, whereas women may perceive it as something that may escalate to harassment. If you were to take a poll, a large majority of men would not recognize sexual harassment if it hit them in the face. Ask a number of men if they have been harassed, and nine out of ten, will say, "No, but I'd like to be." (LOL)...just as important, depending on your social circle you might get the same response from woman. Chivalry is not dead, nor is respect ~ there are a few of us that understand "No means NO" PS Please don't put me on the men-bashing list for my comments :-D

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Posted on Tue, Aug 29, 2006 15:06

livelyclassylady- "When and if it happens," love the way you worded that. CDinCo- Chemistry (to me) should be like the most important aspect, or at least, in the top three for the components of a relationship.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 29, 2006 10:03

I do, so picture yourself with the ladies standing on each side of you in a long line with our arms locked together with each other.... HELL YEAH! Thanks for the reminder. It's not about the math, it's about the CHEMISTRY!!!


Courtney :)

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Posted on Tue, Aug 29, 2006 07:46

Bonnie- it's totally cool to make light of this. Sometimes, we have to laugh at things in order to stay sane. Let's just say I attempt to laugh as often as humanyly possible ;)


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Posted on Mon, Aug 28, 2006 23:04

sepelo7- Gosh, I'm speechless... If ya did, awesomeness :) geniek- Nice to know I've got support from a tall lady like myself :D NativeNewYorker- Always a pleasure to hear from you. Unfortunately, not everyone shares the same views as you and me.


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Posted on Mon, Aug 28, 2006 20:10

i may leave mariana for you . . .


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