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EliteTraveler
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Posted on Tue, Aug 01, 2006 16:55

I may be severely limiting my possibilities by posting this here but I'm sure there are a few guys out there with the same circumstance...and what better place to get advice. I have plenty of good parenting skills (I think) and attempt to set a good example. I even taught a few years during my second career. My kids have mostly resided outside of the US attending International Schools. They are well mannered and exhibit expected behaviors for their age (10 & 12 - girl & boy). We have a good life - I think (smile). I can always use and are willing to accept advice from all credible sources. I don't want to make them the subject of my blog but instead solicit your your thoughts, experiences, and/or advice concerning being a single dad. Comments from men & woman are welcomed.

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Posted on Thu, Aug 31, 2006 14:26

I dont know your religious affiliation...or spiritual background...but I think children need to be given the resources to seek out spiritual guidance. To have a foundation laid for them. I also feel that children need to be taught the value of money (early)Even if they have endless resource growing up, they need to learn to save....so very important...I did not adequately provide my children with the proper tools in theses areas. BOTH of my children as young adults have terrible skills at "saving" also, I think that listening more to your children (really listening is SO important) Pick your battles and really...dont sweat the Small things...Give your children freedom to make choices. teach each responsibility toward helping out with the household and the community. I was always a stay at home mom...I did everything for my children (I loved being a mom and I took parenting them very seriously)....but you dont always realize how you enable them when they are little.(2)things I have always said to my children... Character is not defined by the money you make..The way you conduct yourself reflects on me as your mom.(I was a single parent)Now,they are 24 & 19


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Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 06:10

As a single parent myself, the best advise I can give, is to pray, read a lot, and invest as much time as you can with your children while they (and you) are still young. I would try to think about the things that meant a lot to me while I was growing up, and discovered that I remembered/cherished the simple things, like fishing with my father, walking on the beach in the early mornings discussing life, and spending time in pray as a family. I would recommend Stormie Omartian's bestselling book for parents; she shares wisdom for the journey of parenthood. Stormie looks back at the trials and joys of parenting and the power found in praying for her kids, and shares how parents can pray for their children???s * safety * character * adolescence * peer pressure * school experiences * friends * relationship with God Hope this helps :-)


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Posted on Wed, Aug 09, 2006 22:38

Single parenting....definately not something I would have ever imagined experiencing! But even on its worst days the pleasures my daughter brings when she learns something new or the innocent blind trust she puts into strangers reminds me on a daily basis that the world can be a better place. I dont know if I have advice concerning the areas of your parenting skills you might be questioning, but some simple rules I live by are as follows: Always treat my daughter with love and respect. Remember that no matter how young or old your child you should always listen to his/her perspective completely before responding so that the advice/decisions you make are fully informed. Lead by example. Kids are sponges they strive to emulate their parents actions out of love. Let them fail occasionally to teach them that in life adversity is just a stumbling block and they can always get up dust themselves off try again and be the best at whatever they want to achieve. So that is my two cents! Hopefully it helps.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 13:16

My thoughts...the picture of the three of you speaks volumes as does your SUBJECT for a BLOG on a Match Site... You are a dedicated parent...they are yur number one priority...what advice could you need...other than... Keep up the good work...they are our future... Marie


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 01:31

Elite Whatever works for you. Nothing wrong with what youre doing I guess :D


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Posted on Thu, Aug 03, 2006 12:13

Hi sepelo7, Thanks for chiming in. Others may have the same question so your thoughts are valid. There are a lot of guides; books, magazines, other published articles (all from strangers) that I could possibly run out to purchase or spend the time researching. There's no magic wand and I'm never above learning something new. In this forum, assuming I have a better educated audience (I know some will argue), I would hope and expect those that have experience in the subject matter would be willing to share. It's up to me to filter and use the "make sense" meter to determine whether the information can be useful. Besides that, I'm discovering potential friends with commonalities. Does this pass your make sense meter? (smile).


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Posted on Thu, Aug 03, 2006 11:46

hmm i am not sure what kind of advice you are looking for. Besides if your kids are doing well why look for advice from people you do not know. I would prefer to get advice from someone I have observed as a parent.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 03, 2006 10:49

Trey321, Glad to hear your comments and thank you for sharing. Congratulations on your successes. I have an older daughter with two grandchildren but I'm sure that I could profit from your experience. I've been faced with what could have been awkward situations by not having someone to soften the blow but through a lot of hugs; honest, meaningful discussions and quality family time, we've survived. Your point is well taken -Thanks


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Posted on Thu, Aug 03, 2006 08:47

Thank you livelyclassylady, Your comments are appreciated & I agree whole-heartily. I haven't experienced any serious disciplinary problems nor challenges on structure or authority. A tutor helps out on occasion in areas not normally covered by their normal curriculum. I even learn a bit here & there.


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