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Posted on Tue, Jul 18, 2006 09:54

Is there any real way of getting over insecurity? I am so used to men lying about numerous subjects, that I tend to disbelieve all men now. I dont know what I can do about this because I dont want to ruin something that maybe a good thing for me. What should I do?

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Posted on Sun, Jul 23, 2006 23:14

Awww Will I like you too handsome... and yes you are right about those three major lies...and this is sad for me to admit, but growing up my life was so sheltered, call me the girl in the bubble so to speak...My family and I were/are always honest with one another, so I automatically assumed everyone was...boy oh boy was I wrong...leaving home and entering into the real world really burst my bubble...but even to this day I give everyone the benefit of the doubt trusting them until they prove me wrong...What makes me feel better though is that I am one that does take precautions and learned not to get too close until I find out more about them. Thank goodness I do wait or things could have of been much worse than just a slightly damaged ego.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 23, 2006 17:54

Cybil, I wanted to thank you for your compliment. That was very kind of you. I have read many of your blogs, and from what I can see and comprehend, you are indeed a very intelligent woman. God bless and be safe.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 23, 2006 17:52

Honestly Trey, I did notice the signs and that is what made me pull the carpet out from underneath them...I put them in the spotlight to be honest with me and tell me the truth...I am neither naieve or stupid..the signs are there, blunt and as big as anyone can see..but why the need for any man or woman to fib of their marital status? If they are having problems, shouldnt they be seeking counseling or talking to one another of trying to fix them? Why go to another man or woman to make them feel better or seek comfort? I just think its wrong for anyone to do this, and I dont understand why I attract the married ones...I am not looking for one night stands, I am looking for someone whom wants what I am looking for, and that is a sincere relationship. BTW Trey, I read your profile..you are hilarious, great sense of humor...take care of yourself hun...Peace


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Posted on Fri, Jul 21, 2006 13:29

Sepelo7, I understand what you are saying, but as I stated, those are just pics that I have here on my profile..many women have them, does that make them insecure? No I think not..they are actually very strong women...a cleavage shot is nothing to prey on at all...That picture was taken on accident..I just happened to like it so I kept it..only one that I have...and btw...I am proud of my cleavage :)


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Posted on Fri, Jul 21, 2006 06:39

Sunny Based upon our personality we all attract a certain type of person. This can be a positive or a negative thing. I attract strong willful men who rarely back down. This is usually a good thing but it can cause some serious issues in a long term relationship. I am merely pointing out to you that you (and all of us) project certain characteristics of yourself without knowing it. And as someone who doesnt know you, one of the reads I get on you is insecurity based upon a picture you post aimed at your cleavage. Now I am not attacking your insecurity. We all have our own issues. I am merely stating that men (and women) pick up on these small vibes and prey on them.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 20, 2006 17:59

I truly appreciate your advice Witchy, but the thing is, and I guess what I didnt clarify well enough, is the fact that I am more insecure because the men I meet tell me they are either divorced or separated...then I find out down the road that they lied about everything. Its getting depressing.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 20, 2006 17:50

It is pretty neat huh Hot? While in psychology classes we had to actually look up this type of artwork..have a collection of them...they are so interesting.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 20, 2006 17:49

september1998, Very true. A lot of what happens to us, especially when the same thing repeats itself over and over throughout our lives, happens because we put ourselves in that situation. We attract certain types or events due to what we believe to be true. Our subconscious will work hard on making our beliefs come true. We may not realize we are attracting what we don't want, but we are. And the sooner we learn to deal with this, the sooner we will be able to break the pattern. sunny1971, You could find a therapist to help you. Reading can help too. I would recommend some books if you want. Good luck!


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Posted on Thu, Jul 20, 2006 17:46

Bonnie I would love to chat with you hun, but unfortunately I am not a gold member either...I came on this site to see what it was like...tried so many different ones figured why not this one as well..to be truthful with you I just may become a gold member, so far the women on this site have been the nicest and most sincere on any other site I have been on...Huggers Bonnie and I will have to figure out a way that we could chat.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 20, 2006 17:44

LOL Alluring..you are the bomb girlie, you really are...True sweetheart


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Posted on Thu, Jul 20, 2006 17:42

Sepelo7, first of all my pictures on here have nothing to do with it...that is all they are..pictures on a website...the men I am referring to are men that I met on a typical day...the reason why for the insecurity is due to the men lying to me about their marital status...so I am not the one that needs therapy...just some friendly advice.

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Posted on Wed, Jul 19, 2006 22:04

PS posting obviously suggestive pictures of yourself are not going to attract the best quality of men either


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Posted on Wed, Jul 19, 2006 22:02

Therapy


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Posted on Wed, Jul 19, 2006 13:37

Insecurity? Yes, there are ways of getting over it. However, it will take time. As for men lying to you, well... Simply take what they say with a grain of salt. If it sounds to good, just mentally think to yourself "Ain't that some siht?" and smile politely. The truth will eventually show itself, so stick around a bit and see what comes up. But if you're truly unsure, then proceed with caution.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 19, 2006 03:04

Sorry if this is a duplicate,not sure if the other post went through. Yes hun, seek counseling, it WILL make you a stronger woman and it will also help you discover why you seem to be attracting the wrong men. Good Luck to you...Hugs


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Posted on Wed, Jul 19, 2006 02:42

Sunny what are you doing way back on page 3 of the blog board with only 2 views to it? COME ON DOWN lol.


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