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Posted on Mar 08, 2016 at 12:29 PM

You have met the one.  He (she) really is the one.  Causes your toes to curl, spine to tingle, nose to itch, or whatever  signals inside you that you might happen to have.  Now there is a big problem he (she) violates three to seven of the twenty plus items you have on your wish list.  No kidding, I have counted them, twenty plus is pretty realistic.  Are you going to sigh sadly and let him (her) get away?  Or, are you going to proceed with a prolonged long term relationship to explore further whatever combination of compromise and live with it might work for you?

 

Now we could get into a big discussion on whether 3 to 7 and 20 plus is fair, realistic, whatever.  Don’t care. 

 

The point is there is for everyone some set of numbers and the question remains.  What are you going to do?

 

I don’t think anyone is ever going to find that perfect everything.  If you think you have you likely don’t know them well enough yet. 

 


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Posted on Sep 20, 2016 at 05:14 AM

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I wish



Me too.  Thanks for the comment.  


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Posted on Sep 19, 2016 at 04:02 PM

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Posted on Sep 14, 2016 at 05:42 PM

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According to Dr. Phil in his book Smart Love, he says that if the person has 80% of the critieria you wanted, that is about as good as it gets. 

 

That being said, in my opinion many people have "criteria" that is non-sensical or unreasonable. For example, "she must rock climb." or "he must make X amount of money." When you reach a certain level of wisdom and maturity, you realize that it is the internal qualities that make a person right for you or not. True, certain internal values are reflected on a more observable level. For example, a person who is grossly overweight and smokes clearly doesn't value their health. 

 

I believe it was Dr. Phil who recommended to have two lists with no more than 10 items on each: Must-Have and Will Not Tolerate.

 

Good luck everyone!! 

 

Love comes to those who believe!



I have read that any more than 3 absolute requirements will leave one single.  That most should be negotiable preferences.  That is, they can be traded off against other desirable traits.  Al little more of this and a little less of that is still ok.  

 

Non-negotiables tend to be absolutes.  Most don't need articulating.  A lady hardly needs to articulate that she won't tolerate persons who have violent tendencies towards women, for example.

 

Of course, I can’t argue with Dr. Phil.

 

 

Thanks for your comments.  


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Posted on Sep 11, 2016 at 01:26 PM

According to Dr. Phil in his book Smart Love, he says that if the person has 80% of the critieria you wanted, that is about as good as it gets. 

 

That being said, in my opinion many people have "criteria" that is non-sensical or unreasonable. For example, "she must rock climb." or "he must make X amount of money." When you reach a certain level of wisdom and maturity, you realize that it is the internal qualities that make a person right for you or not. True, certain internal values are reflected on a more observable level. For example, a person who is grossly overweight and smokes clearly doesn't value their health. 

 

I believe it was Dr. Phil who recommended to have two lists with no more than 10 items on each: Must-Have and Will Not Tolerate.

 

Good luck everyone!! 

 

Love comes to those who believe!


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Posted on Jul 05, 2016 at 12:17 AM

@ Ellsworth_Davis

  

I gave you the opportunity to reread my opening remarks and recover from your mistakes.  You choose not to do so.  . 

  

I counted a few peoples list of requirements from their profiles which is where those numbers came from.  At no time did I claim them for mine. 

  

Neither did I say I had met a lady who lit my fire and was worried about her violating some of my requirements.  .

  

I was setting up a situation and asking for comments from the members.  Many of them are my friends.  I was asking them how they would proceed to resolve such a situation.

  

So, I was setting up a hypothetical situation for the other members discussion on how they would resolve that situation were they caught in it. 

  

A number of people did do exactly that. 

  

Somehow they had no problem understanding what I had written.   

  

Be assured.  If I met a lady who lit my fire I would not be setting up hypothetical blog subjects. 

 


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Posted on Jul 04, 2016 at 11:46 PM

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Dear Hoping4Love2000

 

Pretty interesting criteria. Especially like #2.

 

Criteria 2 is NO SEX CHANGE... IE: A woman turned to a man can look as manly as the next, but I don't wish to be involved in that. Others may not care. It's just too complicated for me. And this is NOT the same as bi-sexual. So you don't want to end up on the scrap heap like Caitie Jenner's old bag?

 

Really, a woman turned into a man via hormones and surgery can look, feel and perform in a with all the masculinity as a naturally fueled testorone loaded man can?  How do you know for sure?

Love the roll with Jesus comment. No Jewish or Muslim Men in your future?

 

This speaks volumes:  "After I left, my ex had 2 homes foreclosed on, a car and a motorcylce taken away."

It is always about the cash, ain't it?

 

I know guys that have not had a 'drink' in 20 years++ and you would exclude some of the most spiritually developed thoughtful gentlemen around?

 

And: Can't lean too far left. We won't get along. I am highly opinionated and we would clash. 

- Highly opinonated, huh? I never woulda guessed. 

 

Hey, don't mind that you are "Done with babies."  Can you have a baby safely at your age?  What if he has a child under the age of 5 or 10 years?  - Sorry, but you don't strike me as 'prime breeding' material.

 

And men of younger age ( 38 ) hit you up. This is an exclamation point as to the desperation of American men.

 

As for the rest of your Top 13 noted above, you have basically excluded 95% of the world's men to one degree or another.  But who wants to spend time with a narcissistic, self-centered, ego-maniacal man who might not kneel at your feet day and night?

 

I know you drop to your knees in church -  ........... how about the bedroom?

 

Sounds like you want a cute puppy and I am sure you might have more than one.

 

No I did not read rmacs blog, (I do have moment's of boredom which lends itself to curiousity, but not to that extent), so if he has had the love of his life already, cloning is only in sci-fi movies featuring actors like Johnny Depp.

 

I hope rmac finds a woman he can keep company with and stops seeking 'the perfect mate.'

 

And honestly I hope you find you're 'Rolling with Jesus' man too.

 

Most are the biggest creeps out there, the media and internet is consumed with stories about bible clutching men who are porno-freak-a-zoids, murders-in-the-name, have two, even three families in different states, keep mistresses by the handful, have had serial wives and divorces, are horrific cheaters, usually are absolute liars, and selfish to the nth degree. Somehow they are always seen in a repentful light - and trying so hard to be 'good' men.

 

I truly enjoyed your commentary.

 

xo - Ellsworth

  


As for the rest of your Top 13 noted above, you have basically excluded 95% of the world's men to one degree or another.  But who wants to spend time with a narcissistic, self-centered, ego-maniacal man who might not kneel at your feet day and night?

 

I know you drop to your knees in church -  ........... how about the bedroom?

 

Sounds like you want a cute puppy and I am sure you might have more than one.

 

 

95% of men are excluded because I am not attracted to many men. Then you couple that with personality differences, chemistry, intelligence, etc.. .well...

 

 

IE: The fact you mentioned to a woman you have never met and know nothing about being "on my knees." WHAT A NASTY MAN. Should you have a daughter I hope no man ever speaks to her that way because it is quite possibly one of the nastiest filth I have witnessed on the blogs here. 

 

FYI since you seem to think you are all-knowing. I do not go to church. Not big on organized religion. Jesus is what I believe, but I am not a big "Jesus roller" and do not believe in Bible thumpers. I just know that in my first marriage I was agnostic as was he, and since then I have found Jesus and feel holding the same belief will strengthen my marriage, esp for the storms. 

 

I now see you are trying to insult a man you just stated was how many years your senior? You need to be schooled in manners, son. Buy a CL to go in front of that ASS... 

 

And your final issues with men who believe in Jesus? People are people. Some good, some bad, REGARDLESS THEIR BELIEF SYSTEM. You may wish to take it down a notch. You won't catch anything but bitter with that attitude. 

 

I think most men are good, as I do women, too. I'm just not attracted to most men. I must have chemistry and attraction and then a connection on multiple levels. But the one thing I would never do? Regardless how attracted to a man I might be--- if I ever met a man that spoke to a woman as ungentlemanly as you have when you are just coming to the blogs and know no one.... well, honey. No amount of money or good looks could cover that stench.

 

Class dismissed...  

 
 

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Posted on Jul 04, 2016 at 11:43 PM

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Dear Hoping4Love2000

 

Pretty interesting criteria. Especially like #2.

 

Criteria 2 is NO SEX CHANGE... IE: A woman turned to a man can look as manly as the next, but I don't wish to be involved in that. Others may not care. It's just too complicated for me. And this is NOT the same as bi-sexual. So you don't want to end up on the scrap heap like Caitie Jenner's old bag?

 

Really, a woman turned into a man via hormones and surgery can look, feel and perform in a with all the masculinity as a naturally fueled testorone loaded man can?  How do you know for sure?

Love the roll with Jesus comment. No Jewish or Muslim Men in your future?

 

This speaks volumes:  "After I left, my ex had 2 homes foreclosed on, a car and a motorcylce taken away."

It is always about the cash, ain't it?

 

I know guys that have not had a 'drink' in 20 years++ and you would exclude some of the most spiritually developed thoughtful gentlemen around?

 

And: Can't lean too far left. We won't get along. I am highly opinionated and we would clash. 

- Highly opinonated, huh? I never woulda guessed. 

 

Hey, don't mind that you are "Done with babies."  Can you have a baby safely at your age?  What if he has a child under the age of 5 or 10 years?  - Sorry, but you don't strike me as 'prime breeding' material.

 

And men of younger age ( 38 ) hit you up. This is an exclamation point as to the desperation of American men.

 

As for the rest of your Top 13 noted above, you have basically excluded 95% of the world's men to one degree or another.  But who wants to spend time with a narcissistic, self-centered, ego-maniacal man who might not kneel at your feet day and night?

 

I know you drop to your knees in church -  ........... how about the bedroom?

 

Sounds like you want a cute puppy and I am sure you might have more than one.

 

No I did not read rmacs blog, (I do have moment's of boredom which lends itself to curiousity, but not to that extent), so if he has had the love of his life already, cloning is only in sci-fi movies featuring actors like Johnny Depp.

 

I hope rmac finds a woman he can keep company with and stops seeking 'the perfect mate.'

 

And honestly I hope you find you're 'Rolling with Jesus' man too.

 

Most are the biggest creeps out there, the media and internet is consumed with stories about bible clutching men who are porno-freak-a-zoids, murders-in-the-name, have two, even three families in different states, keep mistresses by the handful, have had serial wives and divorces, are horrific cheaters, usually are absolute liars, and selfish to the nth degree. Somehow they are always seen in a repentful light - and trying so hard to be 'good' men.

 

I truly enjoyed your commentary.

 

xo - Ellsworth

  



ELLSWORTH- 

 

Pretty interesting criteria. Especially like #2.

 

Criteria 2 is NO SEX CHANGE... IE: A woman turned to a man can look as manly as the next, but I don't wish to be involved in that. Others may not care. It's just too complicated for me. And this is NOT the same as bi-sexual. So you don't want to end up on the scrap heap like Caitie Jenner's old bag?

 

Really, a woman turned into a man via hormones and surgery can look, feel and perform in a with all the masculinity as a naturally fueled testorone loaded man can?  How do you know for sure?

 

Should you be okay with dating a man that turned into a woman, having sex and marrying him/her, then that is certainly your prerogative. However, I do not want  to date a woman who became a man, no. I have known people like this and from my experience, they are highly emotional, confused, and it is a lot to deal with.. so no thank you. I am not into drama and while I can support their decision to change, I can also choose not to date them. It's more than I care to deal with as I approach the last phases of my life.

 

Love the roll with Jesus comment. No Jewish or Muslim Men in your future?

 

I absolutely will not consider dating anyone that does not roll with Jesus, no. I happen to like some Jewish thought concepts and adore Mitch Albom, but no.... Jesus is where I reside and in my belief, I am to find a man of the same yolk. And Muslim... clearly you know little of the Koran should you consider a Muslim. Not all are bad.... kind of like not all Catholics believe birth control is bad. BUT HELL NO!!! In the end, what you are saying is that you would be with someone like Jenner who was once a man. Good for you. That's your choice. Not mine. I would prefer to be alone. 

 

This speaks volumes:  "After I left, my ex-had 2 homes foreclosed on, a car and a motorcylce taken away."

It is always about the cash, ain't it?

 

Yes, it DOES speak VOLUMES. It shows that I am not willing to get with a man who makes poor choices with finances. I lost my retirement no thanks to my ex and his poor decision making. He had my home foreclosed right out from under me years after we divorced. I lost everything we both worked hard for. I also saw him lose another home he purchased after divorce as well as a bike and a car. NO THANK YOU. You clearly hold comprehension issues in reading since you failed to see the part where I stated I would prefer to live in a run down old shack that was paid for than to EVER worry over losing a home again. You clearly need some schooling in reading comprehension. I will make allowances for you since I am a professional writer. I will try to use smaller sentences and type s-l-o-w-e-r. 

 

I know guys that have not had a 'drink' in 20 years++ and you would exclude some of the most spiritually developed thoughtful gentlemen around?

 

I gave my reasons. I like to drink. Recovered alcoholics do not usually care to be around wine all the time and it is a staple in my home. Recovered alcoholics also do not usually eat food cooked in wine or vodka etc.. I am a cook, and must have cooking in my life... so no. It would just be stupid for me to seek a recovered alcoholic. I also experience that half the recovered alkies moved to something else like pot-- gave up one thing for another.. OR some of them are "dry drunks."I'd rather avoid the issues that could arise. The fact I cook all the time and use alcohol is the biggest issue. I've also known people who were chained to AA after 20 years.. No thank you. I do not want anything like that to control my life. I don't want to be on vacation and my mate must find a meeting. 

 

As for the comments regarding politics... I do not care to argue with a man during the last years of my life. That would be stupid to find someone I know I would clash with. I love animals, but I wear fur and I eat steak. Should a man belong to PETA he would not be a good match for me. Should a man be too far to the left, we would not have much in common. I also could hold issues with a man who is too far to the right if he is nasty about it. I believe in gay rights, so if a man is a gay basher, it won't sit well, so now you have #14?  

 

Hey, don't mind that you are "Done with babies."  Can you have a baby safely at your age?  What if he has a child under the age of 5 or 10 years?  - Sorry, but you don't strike me as 'prime breeding' material.

 

I'm sorry, was there to be an insult in there I cared about? 

#1) People think I am about 38 when we meet. 

#2) Safely have a baby? I do not know. I am done. I don't think men or women are being smart having children in their late 40's and above. Even men in their mid to late 40's show signs of risk to have children.

Being done having babies is not the same as meeting a man with younger children. However, I might prefer to travel now than raise children, so that would depend on the connection. 

#3) "prime breeding" material? Not certain why you felt a need to try and insult my age, but I am the one who stated... YES, I am NOT prime breeding age, so NO--- Duh/ Where's your thumb? Not a smart idea for me to date men who want or may want children in the future. Sorry your lack of comprehension forced you to reiterate what I already stated. You must go around with a migraine with your brain being forced to operate in overdrive on simple words and comprehension.

You do not appear to comprehend verbiage well. 

 

And men of younger age ( 38 ) hit you up. This is an exclamation point as to the desperation of American men.

 

Actually dear... I look better at my age than most 25 or 30-year-olds, so no.., it isn't desperation. It appears you are desperately trying to insult me and I am laughing at you because despite the fact you "claim" to only be a few years ahead of me... you look far older than I do. This creates issues for me as most men around my age look older than I do. And the fact you only have 1 picture and you can't see how your body looks, I am guessing you are in the 3/4 percentile and are pretty heavy. While I  can't deny I have added a few pounds on me... I am now a size 6 versus a 3. I still turn heads at my age and probably will for years to come. People are unhealthy these days and 3/4 of the US is FAT. I call it as it is. You appear to have a chip that needs to be knocked off. WELCOME TO MY LAIR... HAHA

 

As for the rest of your Top 13 noted above, you have basically excluded 95% of the world's men to one degree or another.  But who wants to spend time with a narcissistic, self-centered, ego-maniacal man who might not kneel at your feet day and night?

 

I know you drop to your knees in church -  ........... how about the bedroom?

 

Sounds like you want a cute puppy and I am sure you might have more than one.

 

 

95% of men are excluded because I am not attracted to many men. Then you couple that with personality differences, chemistry, intelligence, etc.. .well...

 

 

IE: The fact you mentioned to a woman you have never met and know nothing about being "on my knees." WHAT A NASTY MAN. Should you have a daughter I hope no man ever speaks to her that way because it is quite possibly one of the nastiest filth I have witnessed on the blogs here. 

 

FYI since you seem to think you are all-knowing. I do not go to church. Not big on organized religion. Jesus is what I believe, but I am not a big "Jesus roller" and do not believe in Bible t


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Posted on Jul 03, 2016 at 11:33 AM

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@rmac22

Dude, you got me by about 23 years. I almost can't believe what I am reading. You are age 78 and you got a "list" of 20 - 25 requirements, must-haves, lets be kind and call them 'preferencs.' Okay with you? And you are sweating over what seems to be 5 traits, habits, qualities, (maybe something about her looks?), that she does not posess even though she makes your toes curl and you consider her 'the One.'

Honestly, I don't know why I am even writing this response.

This is the shallowest nonsense I have ever read.

Get a grip man, you are 78 years old - nothing guarantees you will be here tomorrow, next month or next year.

I understand there are 'deal breakers,' you know, things like; she used to be a hooker, she has had 9 children, she is a raging alcoholic, she is on a 5 different psyche meds, and she wants won't sign a pre-nup.

I am not even sure the 'She used to be a hooker' should be a deal breaker.

My advice: Grab that woman that lights your fire and get youself 'happy' before you are dead. 

Or you can always have your 'list' chisled on the back of your tombstone.

GL - Bro. 

 



Hello peeps! 

 

Just popped in to take a breather from work and noted our man RMAC's old blog was up at the top, so decided to check it out. 

 

WELCOME ELLSWORTH... 

 

I suppose it is all in how one views the glass, as I read RMAC'S blog entirely different. I read more the "What if they aren't the "perfect" criteria, WHERE DO WE DRAW THE LINE AND DECIDE TO OPEN OURSELVES UP FOR THINGS WE MAY HOLD ISSUE WITH?" 

 

As for the amount of criteria one desires? 

 

That depends on the scope you use to view as well... 

 

IE: My first criteria is that he must be a man. Is that unreasonable to consider a criteria? Not in my book, especially now with all the bi-sexuals and gays marrying and later changing their mind. I can be friends with a bi-sexual man, but would never date one. 

 

Criteria 2 is NO SEX CHANGE... IE: A woman turned to a man can look as manly as the next, but I don't wish to be involved in that. Others may not care. It's just too complicated for me. And this is NOT the same as bi-sexual.

 

Criteria 3: IS DONE HAVING BABIES. (I am almost 50 and many younger men ask me out. No more babies.)

 

Criteria 4: If he is younger than 38 and has no children, he is a NO NO. WHY? Because he has 10 years to change his mind and I will be pushing 60 if he does.. Children are a blessing and I would never wish to be part of a reason for a man not to have a child. 

 

Criteria 5: Must roll with Jesus. It is a deal breaker. I have nothing against what other people require, but my belief in God is paramount. 

 

Criteria 6: No recovered alcoholics. WHY? Cooking is a big part of my life when I am with someone and I not only enjoy wine, but I cook with it all the time. I would never wish to tempt anyone back to that hell hole and the risk simply isn't worth it for me. Do I have recovered alcoholics as friends? Sure.. But not interested in that type of lifestyle.

 

Criteria 7: No dates with men who have domestic violence in their past. 

 

Criteria 8: No men who are severely in debt. WHY? I live within my means and have little, but I do not care to take on a man's debt. It shows poor decision making and I don't want the added stress. I would prefer to live in an old shack that os paid for than to worry every month if something nice will be taken away. After I left, my ex had 2 homes foreclosed on, a car and a motorcylce taken away. I made the financial decisions when we were together and he had an R1 credit rating. I don't want a man who makes poor decisions. 

 

Criteria 9-12: No liars, cheaters, selfish men, narcissistic behaviors. 

 

Criteria 13: Can't lean too far left. We won't get along. I am highly opinionated and we would clash. 

 

Anyway, you should get the idea now. It isn't that difficult to find 20 -25 reasons to have issues. 

I am not even going over the physical, emotional or intellectual criteria. 

 

What I found RMAC was asking is------

 

What issues do I accept from my list? Do I say .. "Well, he isn't in debt, but he hits me sometimes.. Well, that's okay." (or vice-versa) 

 

THAT was what I saw the point at being. 

 

Anyway.. 

 

RMAC--- Sorry if you might find this newbie to be a little course. I never understand why people do not take the time to know others before chiming in. Perhaps then he might know you lost the love of your life years ago and should you not find another that can measure up, I wouldn't settle either. You keep playing with those grandbabies and enjoy your last years. For some reason, some seem to think dying without someone at your side is a bad thing.. (and perhaps fpr some, it is)

 

But little do they know.. the best thing you ever had... well she is waiting ahead for you. YOU ALREADY MET THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE .. All the rest is just the gravy! 

 

Love you sugar! 

Your MM princess! LoL

 

 


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Posted on Jul 02, 2016 at 08:23 AM

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@rmac22

Dude, you got me by about 23 years. I almost can't believe what I am reading. You are age 78 and you got a "list" of 20 - 25 requirements, must-haves, lets be kind and call them 'preferencs.' Okay with you? And you are sweating over what seems to be 5 traits, habits, qualities, (maybe something about her looks?), that she does not posess even though she makes your toes curl and you consider her 'the One.'

Honestly, I don't know why I am even writing this response.

This is the shallowest nonsense I have ever read.

Get a grip man, you are 78 years old - nothing guarantees you will be here tomorrow, next month or next year.

I undesrtand is your 'deal breakers' are she used to be a hooker, she has had 9 children, she is a raging alcoholic, she is on a 5 different psyche meds, and she wants won't sign a pre-nup. I am not even sure the 'used to be a hooker' should be a deal breaker.

My advice: Grab that woman that lights your fire and get youself 'happy' before you are dead. 

Or you can always have your 'list' chisled on the back of your tombstone.

GL - Bro. 

 



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Bravo !, ...  Bravo !, ... You are way too funny, Bud.  We ought to do a stand-up gig together.

I just love that, " chiseled on the back of your tombstone ", line.  What a cracker, ...  Eeeeee Hah !.

 

I tried to follow this topic, but all that ' nit picking ' list, and some getting booted off the site during the course of it, did not help the continuity one bit.

 

" Welcome to The Boards "   We sure can use a breath of ' solid ' fresh air on here.

 

**  S L  **


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Posted on Jul 01, 2016 at 02:02 PM

 

@ Ellsworth_Davis

 

 

 

I don’t think you really understood the opening comment. 

 

 

 

Thanks for the advice. 

 


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Posted on Apr 12, 2016 at 10:25 AM

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Don't get me wrong here. Sometimes, the Chemistry comes together with a random meet. Of Course, with RMac at the age he is at(No offence intended). he would suffer from a woman that would strip him of his asset's, and dignity. There is a protectiveness of the HEART, and Lifestyle as we get older. It's still all in that Chemistry List. At this age, we just want to enjoy our labor's, and have someone around that compliments, without complicating life.

 

This stream of thought will be more prevelent as the Baby Boomers Assume Prominance with the Voting Public. Don't look for that Diamond in the 30's-40's, Mac. There are many matches off site of this one.

 

I still think that matches could be made 25-500 miles from an individual. Think about the true matches(Generally) that work, and the things on that LIST you hold so dearly. REAListicalLY, LISTS hamper what could be. as opposed to what REALLY is. Any Comment's?



I appreciate your concern.


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Posted on Apr 11, 2016 at 12:50 PM

Don't get me wrong here. Sometimes, the Chemistry comes together with a random meet. Of Course, with RMac at the age he is at(No offence intended). he would suffer from a woman that would strip him of his asset's, and dignity. There is a protectiveness of the HEART, and Lifestyle as we get older. It's still all in that Chemistry List. At this age, we just want to enjoy our labor's, and have someone around that compliments, without complicating life.

 

This stream of thought will be more prevelent as the Baby Boomers Assume Prominance with the Voting Public. Don't look for that Diamond in the 30's-40's, Mac. There are many matches off site of this one.

 

I still think that matches could be made 25-500 miles from an individual. Think about the true matches(Generally) that work, and the things on that LIST you hold so dearly. REAListicalLY, LISTS hamper what could be. as opposed to what REALLY is. Any Comment's?


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Posted on Apr 09, 2016 at 01:55 PM

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Thanx RMAC for acknowledging that men have a wish list also. I will be 60 in August, and realize what my former years have taught me. At this age, my match should be within a 5-8 year split, either way, but whatever age, She must be intelligent with the path of her life, and be 50-85% refined with her course in life. I have talked about Chemistry since I have been bloging here. I still think that it takes 2-5 years to know someone enough to trust them with your heart( The Heart has a link to the Brain). As far as the LIST most people have, I suggest that one has to give to get. This means, each partener has to give up 15-25% of their list to have real Chemistry in their life. This involves a working trust in the relationship.

 

I've said on other blogs that people should stay within their astrological sign( Fire,Earth,Air,Water) to be compatable. I have noticed the same Leo traits in my life. 

 

What we are talking about here is ingredients to a successful match. Many people have a regiment with exercize, so 60 may be 45-50 with matches( That pushes the envelope of keeping up).

 

I would think at this point that people should reveal their LIST. (:LV1:)


I thought everyone knew men have a list too.  The list may be unspoken and unwritten, but we all have preferences. 

  

Over time some of those preferences become deal breakers.  Too many deal breakers and no one in the world will be acceptable. 

  

Thanks for your comment. 

 


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Posted on Apr 08, 2016 at 01:31 PM

Thanx RMAC for acknowledging that men have a wish list also. I will be 60 in August, and realize what my former years have taught me. At this age, my match should be within a 5-8 year split, either way, but whatever age, She must be intelligent with the path of her life, and be 50-85% refined with her course in life. I have talked about Chemistry since I have been bloging here. I still think that it takes 2-5 years to know someone enough to trust them with your heart( The Heart has a link to the Brain). As far as the LIST most people have, I suggest that one has to give to get. This means, each partener has to give up 15-25% of their list to have real Chemistry in their life. This involves a working trust in the relationship.

 

I've said on other blogs that people should stay within their astrological sign( Fire,Earth,Air,Water) to be compatable. I have noticed the same Leo traits in my life. 

 

What we are talking about here is ingredients to a successful match. Many people have a regiment with exercize, so 60 may be 45-50 with matches( That pushes the envelope of keeping up).

 

I would think at this point that people should reveal their LIST. (:LV1:)


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Posted on Mar 30, 2016 at 07:40 AM

Ok guys..... You are about to ruin this for all of us. If people have conflicts or don't like each other on the blogs, then please just avoid/ignore communications. This happens to all of us.  But don't make the blogs such a pain in the a$$ for MM, that they end up taking them down all together. 

 

it's no secret I find it totally repugnant when people use the block feature or report to MM. I have been blocked and occasionally had blog authors remove my comments. When this happens, I stay away from them!  There is no need to keep poking the mad dog until you get bit!!!!  

 

And just because you don't like communicating with a member, doesn't mean others don't.  Please don't try to get people kicked off the site, because it hurts the rest of us too.

 

THANK YOU!!!

 

 


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Posted on Mar 29, 2016 at 06:00 PM

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Good day all.

 

Sorry I did not read all comments, so I might repeat someone.

 

 

 

Simple example with food. I hate onion and don’t eat meet. If I see plate with delicious look meet and onion inside. Would I try it? No? Or if yes, I will try to take away onion and meet which is annoying. She/ he does not match criteria but you like him or her? Here is conclusion. I would check only major things I could never accept. Other points I would ignore because most of them is just result of spoiled wishes.



Thanks for your comments. 

 

What do you mean by, "Other points I would ignore because most of them is just result of spoiled wishes."


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Posted on Mar 25, 2016 at 09:26 AM

 Quoting funtimes Quoting fairycurls

  

Quoting fairycurls:

Are you talking about "testing" if a man/woman loves you or not, or if he/she wants to con you or not? There's a (huge) difference.  

 

 

I am withdrawing my question as its not the right question to ask...
"testing" is probably not a very romantic or appropriate word in any kind of relationship

 

Let me think about how to phrase what I was trying to ask while I am enjoying the beaches of FL :) thanks

 

 

Roc just jumped in on your interaction with fairycurls. 

 


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Posted on Mar 24, 2016 at 08:45 PM

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Well, I can't tell if you agree or disagree.  But seems like some nice folks up in that area of the world.  I like nice people.  You know, those women have Viking blood.  And they will have Viking babies.  That's cool, don't you think?  Yes, I know I'm a idiot and trouble maker.  I mean some people might not be Viking friendly. :-)



Then I am a Viking.  I hope that is cool. 


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Posted on Mar 23, 2016 at 06:31 AM

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Of course not, too busy adding up the pluses and minuses.  : - )

  

I trust you know that I was referring to the requirements people put in their profile. 

 



Ahhh! OK



Carpe diem
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