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Posted on Nov 19, 2015 at 01:41 PM

If you had to list only a few things you could never live without, what would they be, and why? One date site uses this question for their members in their profile, so I felt I would pose that question as a vessel for conversation. My response is something I feel strongly about, and being I was recently told how "hope" was a weak word, I felt this would be an excellent forum to explain why "hope" is actually the most POWERFUL word there is. When I am done, you will hold a clearer understanding of why my name on here is "HOPE" and why "Hope" is tatted on my ankle. 

 
People typically answer ..... God, kids, dog, job, cell phone, internet... Well, still waters often run deep in this little blonde brain because those things don't even touch the surface. I HAVE lived without God in my life as well as my children being away for long periods of time. I've lived without love and family at times, but I survived. Don't get me wrong. It wasn't easy, but we can live without almost everything IF we HAD to. 

But, I want to iterate something I find thought provoking. In my 48 years there is ONE THING I cannot live without and this is HOPE. (HOPE is my favorite word, by the way!)

I have known far too many friends who have buried their children. Sadly, friends of mine have placed their babies in the ground. Some at a very young age and others as adults. I cannot imagine any greater loss. In fact, my belief is God only allows the death of a child to happen to the strongest of people. If you have buried your child, my heart bleeds with yours. Know that as a Christian, I feel you are "special" to Him. He has placed you on the highest rolling deck, the same as when He sacrificed His son. But when that day came, and all the days since that excruciating pain anyone who has ever lost a child endures, what has kept them going? HOPE
 
On a personal level, I have never buried any of my 3 children, (Thank you God!) And some may call me crazy, (and I may have a twinge here and there) but I even have a pact with God. When a girlfriend buried her 23 year old daughter, I felt such intense pain for her despite having never met her daughter, that I made a pact with God then and there. It is my sort of wacky belief I guess, but I truly believe that I will NOT outlive ANY of my children. That keeps me going some days when I am sad and miss them. I know they are safe.  
 
I have been unemployed, home foreclosed on, lost everything I had several times, clothes included.... knocked down, kicked in the dirt, been in abusive relationships, I've even been basically homeless a couple of times in my life... 
 
But how did I press forward? 
 
One word..
HOPE

People who think about suicide, yet they don't go through with it. WHY? Are they scared? Well, perhaps. But I feel in my heart what keeps them moving forward is somewhere in the back of their mind, they still have HOPE! They have not given UP, so they don't give IN. But the individuals who are successful at taking their own lives? They did so because they lost ALL HOPE! :(
 
HOPE according to OXFORD is:
A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen
Did you catch that? Hope is a "feeling." Sadly, people who commit suicide lose the "feeling" that good things will happen in their future.That's why suicide and depression skip together while holding hands with the devil. 

I may not have the "typical answer" for this, but I am not your typical woman. My little blonde brain runs deep... 

So the ONLY thing I could never do without? HOPE
God comes and goes.. Sometimes I feel grounded to Him, other times not so much. Children grow up and move away. Our vehicles get totaled or our house may get foreclosed on... WE SURVIVE.... And WHY?  Because we hold on to that "feeling" things will get better. We hold on to HOPE. 

I guess that's why I still fill out profiles on date sites...
I haven't lost HOPE in my last first kiss....
 
And the word HOPE tatted on my ankle? It's above a little girl kneeling on a cloud with a lone tear rolling down her cheek. The little girl is praying... Because that is what praying does for me.. Praying brings me HOPE. 

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Posted on Dec 10, 2015 at 07:52 PM

Apricot seeds contain Cianide, so most people would not grind themup,and injest them for fear of the Cianide...Let's go back to the beginning. GOD gave ALL of the PLANTS in the Garden to ADAM(Mandkind) For a reason. That Cianide in RAW APRICOT SEEDS prevents Cancerous Cells from entering the Cells of the body. Once you understand the DNA of the body, you will understand what God gave us. These GMO's are prolific in our Culture...WHY? Every time you reorganize Nature, You change the Natural Order of GOD'S GARDEN. I heard that a company is  farming(secluding) GMO Salmon. If you look at the progress of the Canadian Farmed Salmon(Caged); you might ask yourself if you want to eat Diseased Salmon. That's what Caged Pacific Salmon is. Just say NO to Salmon Farming, and let the Salmon go from the ponds they spawn in to the 5 year journey in the Ocean. They come back to their spawning spots deep in the Ponds of America, and Alaska, unless you want to eat GMOSHIT!


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Posted on Dec 10, 2015 at 01:34 PM

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

DAK-

 

I am getting them frequently. Have been for over a year now... 

 

Neck and then to head. 

 

Read up on it and it may be as smple as grinding my teeth, which I do constanty.. 

 

Hope you feel better yourself!!! 

XO


** Princess & The Gang **

 

Dang !, ... All this talk about headaches and I almost missed it.  I have never had many.

But then again, my brain is in a place where the sun never shines.

 

Seriously though, most pains in the noggin are connected to the digestive system, apparently.

Your best bet would be a good high fibre vegetable diet for a while.  Then you could blow your brain out, and the headaches ought to disappear.

Well worth a try.  No need for aspirins and such.

 

See,... There is always ' hope '.

 

** Dr. Ken. **

P S .   No association with Dr. Phil.


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Posted on Dec 02, 2015 at 04:39 PM

O...K...

I had a sister who had a stroke in late 2012. I already knew that beyond her 12 meds she took, was the idea that when she felt this hypertention coming on, she should clear her mind of everything, and go to her space. Take 10 long breaths. Think about what was important to her at that time. I did talk her through these episodes by displaying to her, Critical Path Thinking. These are the edges of reality, and insanity of the brain. She has a lot to deal with.

 

i have not baby'd her. She is 56 years of age. This is not my first rodeo...

"I'm No Stranger To The Rain"...https://youtu.be/UlF2p1UPt8Y

I'm no stranger to the rain
I'm a friend of thunder
Friend, is it any wonder lightning strikes me
I've fought with the devil
Got down on his level
But I never gave in, so he gave up on me

I'm no stranger to the rain
I can spot bad weather
And I'm good at finding shelter in a downpour
I've been sacrificed by brothers
Crucified by lovers
But through it all I withstood the pain
I'm no stranger to the rain

But when I get that foggy feeling
When I'm feeling down
If I don't keep my head up, I may drown
But it's hard to keep believing
I'll even come out even
While the rain beats your hope in the ground
And tonight it's really coming down

I'm no stranger to the rain
But there'll always be tomorrow
And I'll beg, steal, or borrow a little sunshine
And I'll put this cloud behind me
That's how the Man designed me
To ride the wind and dance in a hurricane
I'm no stranger to the rain

Oh, no, I'm no stranger to the rain

I'm no stranger to the rain
I'm a friend of thunder
Friend, is it any wonder lightning strikes me
But I'll put this cloud behind me
That's how the Man designed me
To ride the wind and dance in a hurricane
I'm no stranger to the rain

Oh, no, I'm no stranger to the rain

 


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Posted on Nov 30, 2015 at 09:33 PM

"Heiress" is a powerful word which in turn leads me to hope...


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Posted on Nov 30, 2015 at 02:27 PM

I used to have episodic migraines.  That is a cluster of migraine headaches would happen, lasting up to a week or worse.  I would be taking medication frequently for a bit.  Learned to control them to an extent by keeping track of what was going on when I would get them.  


Stress management. 


Left the company I was working for and the headaches basically stopped.  Place was literally making me sick.  The places I worked subsequently had no such affect.  


Being appreciated is magic. 

 


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Posted on Nov 29, 2015 at 03:15 AM

 

****@HOPING****

 

I hope you are getting better now ...Thanks for trying to answer 

all the comments here ..

 

You have mentioned clearly that you have a  problem " TEETH GRINDING " ..I hope I can help you with my hint because we have that case sometimes here .. I will give you some view about it .. 

 

 BRUXISM - is the medical word for teeth grinding at night during sleep ..

 

   CAUSE :  ANXIETY , STRESS , and DENTAL PROBLEMS 

 

   SYMPTOMS :  Headache , blurring of vision , jaw muscle tension , shoulder muscle tension 

 

COMPLICATIONS IF NOT TREATED :  Damage of the teeth leading to loss of teeth due to chronic grinding , face deformation

 

TREATMENT :  GO AND CONSULT A DENTIST  - so he can repair teeth irregularities and give you a Plastic Jacket to protect the teeth at night ( to be put on at night only ) ..

 

Other DRS. can only help you symptomatically ,  like pain killer , prescribed massage and nothing more .. 

 


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Posted on Nov 28, 2015 at 08:35 PM

Quoting bepositive:

Myself , my son, and several friends have had a headache (off and on) for weeks.  I think it is sinuses but my doctor says it is a bug that is going around.   Headache, congestion, watery eyes, major fatigue..............I am on week 4.

I will try to keep the cooties to myself and hope you all feel better soon.  This weather SUCKS!!!

 

Hope, you should see a doctor if you have had them for a year.  There is a special guard you can get for teeth grinding.   Hugs



Hello My Crazy Peeps... 

 

Apologies for not responding to everyones post. I am finally productive and worked my tail off yesterday online and did much needed painting today. My body aches!!! I go from doing nothing but typing at a screen to suddenly becmng a contortionist in a 10 square feet bathroom! UGH!!! 

 

@ LEON-- I think you had a previous post with the Carpenters? ALWAYS LOVED THEM. Very sad to see Karen dwindle away the way she did. I sang one of her songs at my wedding for my ex and I to dance to. (We've only just begun.) How she could not see herslef as the beautiful young woman she was... *Sigh... 

 

Now I need a song to rid myself of headaches! Got rid of the husband, but the headache remains.. Heehee...   ;-)

 

@ BE+ and DAK and ROC-- YES, the grinding.. AWFUL... I had a mouth piece and I couldn't sleep in it. I would chew it. I am beginning to think I am part gerbil! David, they had me on that before. I may have some left. I think I will take it. THAKS FOR THE REMINDER..  HOLD ON! I'M TAKING IT  RIGHT NOW!!! BWAHAHAHAHA!!

 

Okay, I took half!!! Anxiety is something that comes and goes for me. I don't notice it, but you can always tell. LOOK AT MY HANDS. If I have chewed up the skin around my nails... BAD NEWS! 

 

David, I had a cardeologist I dated a while that put me on that. Says it is calming... not like valium, much milder and not addictive.. but I have taken for years off and on. I proabbaly need to get more. A couple of Drs. (I didn't date-- HA!) had me on ativan many years ago... through divorce.. WOW WAS I CRAZY! LOL And i have taken xanax and Valium before... but Xanax does not mix well with me. NOT SURE WHY???? The Busiphrone is much better. I HATE PILLS.. That's why I don't do well with vitamins.. I'd make an awful junkie.. I'd be like, "Naw.. can't take that pill. Better hit me with the needle... Naw.. can't hit me with the needle or let me smoke that stuff cuz my face will get ugly.. "

 

YEP! AWFUL JUNKIE! I prefer alcohol.. Then I just get drunk and stupid.. Think I am Superman!! HA! 

 

MISS MARY,

Hope all is going well. Sure wish you had a trip planned this way!

 

RMAC / FISHY--- 

Hope you gentlemen are doing well. MAC, I'm gong to send you that link via email. You can see what I do and we can compare pipes!  Fishy, did your email change? I wrote you the other day, hun.. Let me know!! 

 

 

Well everyone... I "hope" everyone had a great weekend and has found many things to feel grateful for.. 

 

I'm cutting tonight short and going to relax! 

 

HEY! WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR NEWBIE? 

DEBBIEMARIE--- Hope all is well your way, dear! ;-) 

 

 


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Posted on Nov 28, 2015 at 05:06 PM

Myself , my son, and several friends have had a headache (off and on) for weeks.  I think it is sinuses but my doctor says it is a bug that is going around.   Headache, congestion, watery eyes, major fatigue..............I am on week 4.

I will try to keep the cooties to myself and hope you all feel better soon.  This weather SUCKS!!!

 

Hope, you should see a doctor if you have had them for a year.  There is a special guard you can get for teeth grinding.   Hugs


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Posted on Nov 28, 2015 at 05:06 PM

 

iNTERMISSION...

No Worries...

Some Out of the box stuff...

OK...https://youtu.be/rpMlZwJm29w...

Good Whiskey Never Let's You Lose Your Place...HOOOooo...

You can take the Girl out of Texas, but you can't take Texas out of the girl... That also applies to any State that has a Bayou...

Jerry Jeff...

... https://youtu.be/-XH3OHKeNUs

 

 

Jerry Jeff Walker

 

At the start of each day
I dread what I face
And the race that is runnin' outside
I jump back in bed
And I cover my head

But that only blocks out the light


No my trouble's still there
You know it hangs in the air
I know things are comin' my way


There's things I must do
But I hide in my room
And I hope that it all goes away

Come on mama won't you come here quick
I feel like I'm going insane


I need the good lovin' grace
Of your sweet smilin' face

There'll be light in my life once again


Now I'm biting my lip
You know I'm losin' my grip
I feel like I'm slippin' away


She comes along
She'll be hummin' a song
Like sunlight she can brighten my day


Ain't it so good just to see her now
Walkin up the street


You know that she's comin to love you
And lovin' you, that's just what you need
To set you free

 

Yeah the good lovin' grace
Of her sweet smilin' face
Will put light in my life once again

(:LV1:)

 

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Posted on Nov 27, 2015 at 09:14 PM

Quoting Dakota35:

@Hoping, 

 

Maybe something is going around.  I had a horrible headache for a few days.  Didn't even make it out to see a friend that had come into town.  I blamed it on sinus.  Glad you are feeling better.



DAK-

 

I am getting them frequently. Have been for over a year now... 

 

Neck and then to head. 

 

Read up on it and it may be as smple as grinding my teeth, which I do constanty.. 

 

Hope you feel better yourself!!! 

XO


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Posted on Nov 27, 2015 at 09:12 PM

Quoting 3345roc:

Trying to figure out how much delay there is between the time I post this and the time it's visible.

 

If you can see this comment, click on "quote" and post the time you see it.



AND THE TIME IS NOW.... 

 

11:08 FRIDAY 11/27

 

 


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Posted on Nov 26, 2015 at 09:45 PM

Quoting DebbieMarie54:

Dakota,

 

I really appreciate your comments on anxiety/depression.  To be sure, depression is both a mental as well as physical condition.

 

When the black of cloud of depression is overheard, often times sufferers develop tunnel vision and  forget "this too shall pass."

 

There is very effective medicine on the market today if only people will avail themselves.



WELCOME DEBBIEMARIE....

 

I have suffered a serious headache the past couple of days and have not responded to this particular blog, but before I shut down for the night, I wanted to say HELLO to the Newbie.. ;-) 

 

DEBBIE, you are correct. Depression is a mental and physical issue. It is like a looming black cloud  that overtakes EVERYTHING when not treated properly. 

 

Sadly, many people mask their depression. The main mask chosen is often alcohol, which is actually a depressant. 

It's a vicious circle. 

 

There are medicines that can assist, but it depends on the individual. 

 

"HOPE" seems to be the best cure. 

 

Depressed people have HOPE. 

 

It is when ALL HOPE IS LOST that the tunnel overtakes them. 

 

Such a sad, vicious cycle. 

 

WE WELCOME YOU MISS DEBBIEMARIE and if you ever feel down or need some friends to chat with, we have some wonderful people here to meet! 

 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING WEEKEND!!!! ;-) 

 

DAK- MC - EVERYONE EXCELLENT THOUGHTS.. Thanks for the in depth explanatuon DAK and ROC

I will return when I feel better. 

 

XO

 

 

 


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Posted on Nov 24, 2015 at 04:44 PM

Dakota,

 

I really appreciate your comments on anxiety/depression.  To be sure, depression is both a mental as well as physical condition.

 

When the black of cloud of depression is overheard, often times sufferers develop tunnel vision and  forget "this too shall pass."

 

There is very effective medicine on the market today if only people will avail themselves.


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Posted on Nov 23, 2015 at 09:38 PM

  Hope has been a part of us sense the beginning of mankind. From the days of eating bugs to stay alive hoping for some meat to hunt to the days of slavery hoping for freedom.

 

  In everything we do we have hope in the back of our mind. Those that tired of eating bugs curled up and died. Those that kept eating bugs ended up eating steaks and roast. Our forefathers, they past the seed along to us. As with all things, sometimes the seed is not as strong in some as it is in others.


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Posted on Nov 23, 2015 at 01:58 PM

 

***@DAKOTA*** 

 

Dak , it's true , to commit suicide is not a selfish act , although it is painful for the family ..most of them blame themselves because they really don't know why it was done ..I have to support my friend and her family 3 times thats why I can say that those victims had lived normally and no signs of depression ..all of the survivors I talked to told me and my friend they fell down in a black hole and sink down continously ..It was a spark of a moment which they can't help themselves but to push through ..the depression came after surviving ...Would you believe me that 1 or 2 dys before we had a hilarious day with the husband of my friend then 2 dys. after he committed suicide ...we were left with many unanswered questions ...


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Posted on Nov 22, 2015 at 06:01 PM

Hope, I agree.  Sometimes it is all there is.  Sometimes it is the only thing we have to hang on to.  I am just repeating what you have been saying. 


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Posted on Nov 22, 2015 at 04:41 PM

Quoting Dakota35:

El Nino year.  Where have I been...Just fighting with life.  Just when you think you can grab a star, it disappears.  But "hope" keeps us hoping...maybe, just maybe, some day.



Awww.... Poor thing... 

 

Be sure to work out daily and take your vitamins. YOU ALWAYS FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU DO!!! 

 

Between the weather being all freaky, hot, cold, wet, dry.... 

 

crazy people, ISIS, poltics, elections etc...

 

IT'S DEPRESSING!

 

And THEN.. "50 Shades of Stupid" came out last night. I blogged on here and emailed and worked! 

BARELY SURVIVED! 

 

So what's up for Turkey day? Your mom cooking? 


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Posted on Nov 22, 2015 at 01:28 AM

 

***SHERWIN***

 

What do you exactly mean ??

 

In case of suicide nobody knows what to come ..There is a study that most of the victims don't say goodbye or left a letter of goodbye  ..no hints , no signs a. symptoms , no known problems ( but it could be they are keeping secrets )

 

If we know something about the concerned , it will just lead to speculation but its always painful for the family not to know the reason why ..


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Posted on Nov 21, 2015 at 09:47 PM

Quoting SBuydens1969:

It is far better to know something than to hope for it, in my opinion...

Sherwin



Hello SHERWIN-

 

Not sure we have had contact previously, but I recognize your picture. ;-) 

 

SHERWIN.....

 

"Knowing" and "hoping" are not even of the same fruit. 

 

THAT WAS THE POINT OF THE BLOG... 

 

People who commit suicide do not KNOW, nor do they THINK things will change.. 

 

There is NO assurance. 

 

And for those who need HOPE, 

that is all they have.. 

 

Sorry if you missed that. It was basically the entire point. 

 

Dig deeper, sweetie! ;) 


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