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Posted on Jan 21, 2015 at 11:09 AM

I get asked constantly.... HOW can you STILL be single? It's easy for me.... For me, "love" isn't a choice, or a selection I make. It isn't something I can describe or make guesses at when it's going to happen. Loving, without choice, and without rhyme or reason, is the ONLY way I know how to love a man for a genuine partnership; and that kind of love, is rare. In fact, it is so uncommon, I may never experience it again. It's uncontrollable, happens suddenly, and leaves you twisted in knots. You become irrational, blinded, and in a blink of an eye, can lose all sense of direction. If you have never experienced this, it's difficult to explain. But once you've loved this way, it's difficult to accept love anyway else. It's like passion burst into flames.

I am NOT referring to "honeymoon love," where you blindly miss flaws, and he or she can do no wrong, and you get butterflies and weak in the knees. Most people experience "that" in love. But this is different. It is a love that abundantly sees the wrongs, yet the magnetic pull of chemistry drains every ounce of energy and exhaust you into complete submission to that individual. It is maddening, irresponsible, and totally inconvenient. And at the same time, it becomes irreplaceable. It is inconceivable to love any other way when you have reached this threshold of love.

As time dwindles, and age and wrinkles set in, might I give up on that unexplained, incredible, yet undeniable karmic pull that gravitates me to one lone unsuspecting man, just as shocked as I am, of my feelings? Who, hopefully is drawn to me with the same insatiable, emotional and physical draw romance and erotic industries make billions off of?

 

It's possible, I suppose. I don't know. I just, "know what I know." It's instant when two people connect and the bond tightens the more time spent together. It's a magnet to steel, a moth to a flame, a bee to pollen....

 

When dealing with such incredible forces, I can only say, even fireflies are only attracted to certain lights. It isn't just "any" love I yearn. Its a specific love, and its rare. The "pull" can be felt from across a crowded room, before ones even meet; and once the eyes gaze each other, and the first words are spoken, you are memorized, like a fly in a Venus fly trap, or an insect in a spider web. There is no escape, and it isn't by "choice."

 

As a Princess, children ask me if I know dragons really exist. (Well duh, of course children know I'm a Princess.. I tell them and induct them into my Kingdom.)

I share with them, "Of course dragons really exist. Not because I've actually seen them in front of me, but because I can feel the warmth of his fire, breathing down my neck."


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Posted on Feb 18, 2015 at 11:39 AM

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

Inspector Klusso!!

 

I have returned!! But only for a few moments in time.. 

 

Did nothing for Valentines and did not even celebrate Mardi Gras..

 

But yes, take me to dinner in Paris...  (and NO, not the one in Texas! LOL)  

 

Hope you are well SL.... ;)

 

 



***  Dear Hope  ***

 

Aaah !, there you are. Thanks for checking in.

 

We shall keep an eye out for your well being. 

 

 

**  S L  **   & Partner   **  I C  **


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Posted on Feb 17, 2015 at 06:33 PM

Quoting leonicvirgo:

Princess??? I Heard you were QUEEN, HOPNG4LUV !!! A Taurus, so, that rasp gruffy voice when angry? Am I mistaken? It's a Thankless Job, You Know! Everyone wanting someone, or something. "A little Earth to those caught in the vortex's of life"...GOOD LUCK!!! (:LV1:)



Hi LV... 

 

Not so certain of the rasp, gruffy voice when angry..  You would have to ask the ones I am yelling at! ;) 

 

Queen? No, not until I am married. THEN, I can be Queen Bee... LoL.. 

 

Yes, we have "pet names" around here.. Like our "Lovely Lady DI"

 

Even when she is being confronted, or is in disagreement, she tries to hold her composure as I remember of Lady DI.. A genuine "lady." (And she's kinda sexy, too!) 

 

So no need to worry.. I'm still "grounded!" 

 

Hope you are well...


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Posted on Feb 17, 2015 at 06:26 PM

Inspector Klusso!!

 

I have returned!! But only for a few moments in time.. 

 

Did nothing for Valentines and did not even celebrate Mardi Gras..

 

But yes, take me to dinner in Paris...  (and NO, not the one in Texas! LOL)  

 

Hope you are well SL.... ;)

 

 


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Posted on Feb 17, 2015 at 12:25 PM

Princess??? I Heard you were QUEEN, HOPNG4LUV !!! A Taurus, so, that rasp gruffy voice when angry? Am I mistaken? It's a Thankless Job, You Know! Everyone wanting someone, or something. "A little Earth to those caught in the vortex's of life"...GOOD LUCK!!! (:LV1:)


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Posted on Feb 14, 2015 at 05:17 PM

***  Dear Hope  ***

 

" Happy Valentine ".

 

Where are you dear ? ... Hope you have not run off into the forest or something !.

 

Hugs,

 

**  S L  **

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Feb 10, 2015 at 10:06 PM

Quoting 3345roc:

Cherish each moment you have with your mom.  My dad's been gone for 30 years and I still think about him every day.  I was too young and involved in my own life to ask him questions that I wished I had answers for today.  My mom's been gone for 23 years but she lived with me for the last few years of her life ... and we had those conversations.

 

God bless you and your mom.

 

MtnSunny... So sorry for your loss.



Thank you Roc.  I try to call Mother every day to check on her.  I am kinda panicing that time with run out for us if I don't hurry.  Some of my friends here in Dallas think I'm making a mistake moving to Florida, but I am ready to go mentally.  I think you provide sound advice and I will have those conversations with her. 

Warm wishes.


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Posted on Feb 10, 2015 at 01:11 AM

Quoting Diana3316:

Hello Pat, Hope and RMac,

 

Thank you so kindly for the gentle words of condolence.  I appreciate all my friends here on the blogs, no matter what kind of debates, laughs or trials we might share together.  Somehow in this crazy virtual world, we share a kindred that has sustained the test of time and tribulation.  Thank you!!

 

Admittedly I’m a bit depressed and am grateful to all of you for being here to share this time together.  As soon as I can, I guess I will pony up the $80 to buy an air compressor so I can get back to riding my bike.  I think that will help a lot to shake this funk off.

Warmest wishes. 

 



Diana, I've been reading here for the last few days and still don't know what to say. There is something special about mom.

 

  Best wishes to you and yours.


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Posted on Feb 09, 2015 at 10:25 PM

Quoting silverlion:

*** Dear Lady Di  ***

 

A back to back loss, must be hard to bear

 

Fot it is a loss, that is so rare

 

With you My Dear,  ... I shed a tear.

 

Sincerely,

 

**  S L **

 

 


Ahhh....thank you SL.  It is comforting to see you dear friend and to read your kind words. 

 

I'm profoundly saddened by the loss of my friend.  We used to work together and spent many evenings debating the condition of our condition over a fine bottle of wine.  *wink*

 

My father was very old and sick.  I know he would not have wanted any further action taken to prolong his life....but I miss him too.


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Posted on Feb 09, 2015 at 03:56 PM

Quoting Diana3316:

 So good to see you again Hope and to know you are still doing well.  Leave it to you to write a provocative, thought provoking blog.  Thank you for that.

 

The world lost another of our WWII vets recently.  My father passed on January 10….surrounded by his family, in the home and bed he knew.  His ashes will be buried in a Veteran’s Cemetery in Florida.  I am so lucky to have had him as my father!

 

One of my dearest friends suffered a massive stroke over the Christmas holiday and died.  We had just chatted on the phone in early December.  He invited me to go on a Panama Canal cruise for the holiday.  I said I would, but then reconsidered as I had already taken a lot of time off work in November visiting my parents.  He said he had trip insurance and would save the trip for later, but he went anyway.  I called him on January 16 to tell him about my father.  His sister answered his phone and told me the funeral had been that very day.  She told me he took the trip anyway and had the stroke while on the ship.  He was 65 and planning to retire next year.  The news was a devastating shock to me.  I try not to torture myself with thoughts of "what if".

 

The loss of a loved one is a painful experience and my heart goes out to you Mtnsunny.  It’s hard to pick up the pieces.  It almost seems like we are being disloyal to that person if we live in joy again without them.  But we know….in our heart.....that is what they would want us to do.

 

      ​        ​        ​        ​        ****************** 

 

  

“We cannot erase our past however hard we try.  Instead we must carry our past with us into the future.  We carry it with us but must look forward with hope.  We must look forward because to look back is to waste precious time.

 

Someone once said to me, “We should live as we have never lived.”  And….we must all take heed and live as we have never lived.  For we are all mortal.  We are all fragile….and all live under the shadow of death.”

 

      ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​  ~Sidney Chambers~



*** Dear Lady Di  ***

 

A back to back loss, must be hard to bear

 

Fot it is a loss, that is so rare

 

With you My Dear,  ... I shed a tear.

 

Sincerely,

 

**  S L **

 

 


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Posted on Feb 08, 2015 at 08:05 PM

Hello Pat, Hope and RMac,

 

Thank you so kindly for the gentle words of condolence.  I appreciate all my friends here on the blogs, no matter what kind of debates, laughs or trials we might share together.  Somehow in this crazy virtual world, we share a kindred that has sustained the test of time and tribulation.  Thank you!!

 

Admittedly I’m a bit depressed and am grateful to all of you for being here to share this time together.  As soon as I can, I guess I will pony up the $80 to buy an air compressor so I can get back to riding my bike.  I think that will help a lot to shake this funk off.

Warmest wishes. 

 


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Posted on Feb 06, 2015 at 03:58 PM

Quoting Diana3316:

Hi Hope,

Mother is hanging tough but in poor condition.  Her brain is good but I'm afraid her body will not hold out for much longer.  She's 90.  My house is up for sale and I will move as soon as sold.  Work has been crazy busy!  My company just bought out our largest competitor, so we will have over 200 clinics converting to our service in March.  It's nuts!!  I likely will not have a lot of time to be around much....so it will be up to you to keep the pot stirred!!  *wink*

Take good care.  :))



Diana, so sorry you are going through this rough time.  Thank God your mom's mind is in tact.  90 is a ripe old age indeed.  I pray your mom does not suffer at all. 

 

Best of luck to you in the next few weeks/months.  Even if you are far too liberal for me.  LOLOL.

 

All kidding aside, I wish you the best and easiest transition time during your mom's decline.  God bless.


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Posted on Feb 05, 2015 at 06:09 PM

 

Diana,

 

 

 

I am very sorry about your father.  I am not you and I did not know your father so I can’t say I understand, no one other than you can understand.  However, having been through it I know ir has to hurt.. 

 


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Posted on Jan 30, 2015 at 10:07 PM

Quoting Diana3316:

Hi Hope,

Mother is hanging tough but in poor condition.  Her brain is good but I'm afraid her body will not hold out for much longer.  She's 90.  My house is up for sale and I will move as soon as sold.  Work has been crazy busy!  My company just bought out our largest competitor, so we will have over 200 clinics converting to our service in March.  It's nuts!!  I likely will not have a lot of time to be around much....so it will be up to you to keep the pot stirred!!  *wink*

Take good care.  :))



DI- I am so sorry to hear of your mother's condition. I know you are remarkably strong, but what a heavy load you have been enduring! 

 

I hope you get what you want / need from the sale of your home. Change can be an awesome thing! ;) 

 

Your job sounds crazy insane!!!! That's a lot of clinics to be overtaking. Looks like more travel for you? 

 

Try to keep us posted when you can.. It's always nice when the gang gets back together for some catch up time!!

 

Where is SILVER and CURIOUS? I need to call WINDRIDER.. I am soooo horrible at keepng up!!!! 

 

As for stirring pots? It's about time someone came in and shook ole DAKOTA and a few others up.. Heehee~~

 

Take care of yourself and as always, wishing you the best!!! 

 

 


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Posted on Jan 30, 2015 at 05:26 PM

Hi Hope,

Mother is hanging tough but in poor condition.  Her brain is good but I'm afraid her body will not hold out for much longer.  She's 90.  My house is up for sale and I will move as soon as sold.  Work has been crazy busy!  My company just bought out our largest competitor, so we will have over 200 clinics converting to our service in March.  It's nuts!!  I likely will not have a lot of time to be around much....so it will be up to you to keep the pot stirred!!  *wink*

Take good care.  :))


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Posted on Jan 30, 2015 at 12:24 AM

Quoting fishyme:

   Regular job? Goodness NO. I must have been delusional to even speak of such jibberish. In the last 24 months I've been gone from home 18 months. My moose have been so forlorn not having me around that Today is the first time they have walked down the driveway..  I'm just licking my self imposed wounds, taxes are paid, live off the grid so no bills there, generator is running good whenever I need it to charge the house batteries.

 

  I Might put my skilled net mender add out to the cyber world, still have lots of canned foods but fresh is sounding tasty. Car and truck are running well, my name is not showing up in the obituaries so far, I've time to continue my research that ButterflyCherry started though it is getting harder to see [where is she?]. I've tonnes of wood to cut once my eyesight improves and lots of just guy stuff all over the place. Went through the blog blas for awhile and have only been getting back on recently.

 

  That's my end in a nut shell. What have you and Black Beauty been up to? They say a friend will bail you out of jail. A good friend will say "Damn, We screwed up"



Hey hey FISHY... 

 

Glad to see you are doing well... I lost this post in all the chaos. 

 

So the moose are finally talking to you again? 

 

BUTTERFLY CHERRY.. I havent heard from her since I left Atlanta.. I need to look her up!

We had some nice times in Atlanta... She even made me dinner!  ;~) 

 

As for me and BB... We are in Louisiana. I'm building websites on my own. Trying to figure out this crazy life of mine..

La is different for sure!  

 

Are you mending nets now? 

 

Hope all is going well, my dear!!! I must get to bed... It's almost 2:30 now... I've turned in to a pumpkins twice already!!! 

 

BE GOOD AND KEEP US POSTED!!! 


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Posted on Jan 30, 2015 at 12:13 AM

Quoting Diana3316:

 So good to see you again Hope and to know you are still doing well.  Leave it to you to write a provocative, thought provoking blog.  Thank you for that.

 

The world lost another of our WWII vets recently.  My father passed on January 10….surrounded by his family, in the home and bed he knew.  His ashes will be buried in a Veteran’s Cemetery in Florida.  I am so lucky to have had him as my father!

 

One of my dearest friends suffered a massive stroke over the Christmas holiday and died.  We had just chatted on the phone in early December.  He invited me to go on a Panama Canal cruise for the holiday.  I said I would, but then reconsidered as I had already taken a lot of time off work in November visiting my parents.  He said he had trip insurance and would save the trip for later, but he went anyway.  I called him on January 16 to tell him about my father.  His sister answered his phone and told me the funeral had been that very day.  She told me he took the trip anyway and had the stroke while on the ship.  He was 65 and planning to retire next year.  The news was a devastating shock to me.  I try not to torture myself with thoughts of "what if".

 

The loss of a loved one is a painful experience and my heart goes out to you Mtnsunny.  It’s hard to pick up the pieces.  It almost seems like we are being disloyal to that person if we live in joy again without them.  But we know….in our heart.....that is what they would want us to do.

 

      ​        ​        ​        ​        ****************** 

 

  

“We cannot erase our past however hard we try.  Instead we must carry our past with us into the future.  We carry it with us but must look forward with hope.  We must look forward because to look back is to waste precious time.

 

Someone once said to me, “We should live as we have never lived.”  And….we must all take heed and live as we have never lived.  For we are all mortal.  We are all fragile….and all live under the shadow of death.”

 

      ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​  ~Sidney Chambers~



OH DI----- 

 

How sad for you..... and so fresh....

I am glad to hear he was surrounded by everyone.. How is your mother? 

 

I had no idea he was a WWII Vet!!! Such an incredible time in history.... I would have enjoyed meeting him!!

 

Did I see previously, you have moved? To Florida? 

You are looking as lovely as ever.. ;) 

 

And your friend died days after... *Sigh... 

Hope your year gets better!!!!

 

I know I have been so tremendously scarce here, but the blogs have not been the same, when I check in... 

Now and again, I might post on one that catches my attention.  I am trying to check up more often now, as I enjoy catching up with the old gang.. I knew if Iposted a blog, I would be more apt to. ;)

 

So what is going on in our Lovely Lady Di's life now? 

Anything worth sharing? 

 

Love the Sidney Chambers quote! 

 

It's 2 am and I am headed to bed... 

KEEP IN TOUCH!

I'm certain to blog more since I have a reason now. 

It's been excellent to hear how everyone is doing..  ;~)

 

HAVE A GREAT DAY EVERYONE!!!!! 


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Posted on Jan 28, 2015 at 09:42 PM

 So good to see you again Hope and to know you are still doing well.  Leave it to you to write a provocative, thought provoking blog.  Thank you for that.

 

The world lost another of our WWII vets recently.  My father passed on January 10….surrounded by his family, in the home and bed he knew.  His ashes will be buried in a Veteran’s Cemetery in Florida.  I am so lucky to have had him as my father!

 

One of my dearest friends suffered a massive stroke over the Christmas holiday and died.  We had just chatted on the phone in early December.  He invited me to go on a Panama Canal cruise for the holiday.  I said I would, but then reconsidered as I had already taken a lot of time off work in November visiting my parents.  He said he had trip insurance and would save the trip for later, but he went anyway.  I called him on January 16 to tell him about my father.  His sister answered his phone and told me the funeral had been that very day.  She told me he took the trip anyway and had the stroke while on the ship.  He was 65 and planning to retire next year.  The news was a devastating shock to me.  I try not to torture myself with thoughts of "what if".

 

The loss of a loved one is a painful experience and my heart goes out to you Mtnsunny.  It’s hard to pick up the pieces.  It almost seems like we are being disloyal to that person if we live in joy again without them.  But we know….in our heart.....that is what they would want us to do.

 

      ​        ​        ​        ​        ****************** 

 

  

“We cannot erase our past however hard we try.  Instead we must carry our past with us into the future.  We carry it with us but must look forward with hope.  We must look forward because to look back is to waste precious time.

 

Someone once said to me, “We should live as we have never lived.”  And….we must all take heed and live as we have never lived.  For we are all mortal.  We are all fragile….and all live under the shadow of death.”

 

      ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​  ~Sidney Chambers~


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Posted on Jan 27, 2015 at 09:43 AM

 

Mtnsunny, if I knew the words to make your father’s death an easier burden to carry I would certainly say them.  I don’t.  I can only say I am sorry. 

 


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Posted on Jan 26, 2015 at 02:15 PM

Quoting 3345roc:

I wonder whether those who served during the Korean or Vietnamese wars will be similarly revered, hugged and fawned over in the future by gorgeous young women.  Certainly something to look forward to.  

 

I can tell you that I was warned not to wear my uniform by some buddies who preceded me back to the States.  Seems some war protesters deemed it appropriate to spit on the military.



ROC---- 

 

Sad.... 

Extremely sad, indeed... 

 

Of course I was too young to witness the awful mindset our military came back to, but it makes me sad. 

 

Military follows orders... Doesn't mean they agree with them. They do their job to the best of their abiity. (hopefully)

WHO agrees with everything your boss tells you to do? 

 

And I believe that was a time of draft, where many enlisted HAD NO CHOICE... and were STILL spit on.... 

 

How disheartening.... 

 

I applaud all our vets and their loved ones.. 

 

War is never easy.. One would think we could at least make it bearable and welcoming coming home.. 

 

I am always amazed at meeting 90-something year olds, so when you get that old, I'll come hug you.. I'm just afraid I will have at least 2 more wrinkles by then!!! ;~) 

 


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