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Posted on Jun 24, 2014 at 06:18 PM

The Trouble With Online Dating

  

One of the “so called” experts on “picking up” women said, “Get her number and walk away.  Don’t chat her up, anything you say at that point won’t help you later get a date and may well be used against you.” 

  

“When you later ask her for a date, just ask her for the date, if she agrees save all the chit chat for when you actually meet.  Anything additional you say at that point won’t help you and may well work against you.  She does not know you yet; wait until you are face to face over coffee, drinks, or dinner for further conversation.” 

  

How does this apply to online dating – well -- what is the purpose of all the emails, chatting online, and the phone conversations?  It is to rule you out.  Find a reason not to actually meet.  Trouble is, you will be ruled out on limited and possibly misconstrued evidence.  

  

That may not actually be the perceived purpose, but that is how it works. 

  

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Posted on Aug 03, 2014 at 08:22 PM

pillowtalker,

  

I read about him some years back and thought his views would make an interesting blog topic.  I can’t reference him as this is all from memory, but numbers of his clones hold forth on the internet.  

  

Re his advice, well, one of the great things about anyone’s advice is that one is not compelled to take it. 

  

Thanks for your comments. 

 


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Posted on Aug 02, 2014 at 09:43 PM

Dating advice:

If you see a woman you actually like. Say something that is NOT about her body, sex, or some other stupid irrelevancy. Say something relevant to a mutual interest. We are both on dating websites...why?

Not every person on a dating website has the time of day to discuss your sexual whims nor would they trust to give you their number so you can "just walk away" like a buffoon and to say nothing more. That is absurdist hairbrained curbside nonsense. I hope you did not pay for that advice.

Women like:

Spontaneity, confidence, relevance (and randomness if it seems like an icebreaker I suppose). But the main thing women want, at least smart women, is stability in a man. There is a reason for that. A dumb, needy woman will not care for anything in particular but attention in any form.

If you are looking for game-playing type women whom you could wear down for mind games and sex, you should not even be on a dating website. You should be in a night club or on a street corner or a daytime coffee shop where people just hang out because they are bored and have no hobbies or interests.


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Posted on Jul 30, 2014 at 06:45 PM

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hi how r u friends :) looking for a women 



I wish you the best of luck. : - )

 


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Posted on Jul 13, 2014 at 09:25 PM

rmac, think Babe Magnets!

 

    After that avalanche rescue, hanging out with helicopters for training maybe [does the human ride for free?]

 

Lost kids in the woods, pack dogs, bear dogs, I could have a daycare next to an interstate with no fence. Once the dogs learn no kids beyond this point and I'll I'd have to do is sit while the money came in. I'm talking Bank rmac, no employees and all the money that entails. Hey, I was nipped a couple of times as a kid and turned out ok.

 

     In this day and age who would think anything about 3 beautiful dogs mingeling with people at a fair. They can be trained to Alert any way you want them to. If my dog alerts on you that means you have something Very Bad in your pack. Help is just a phone call away.

 

  As a highly intelligent dog they Must be given a challenge daily. That means setting up training courses, always changing them. Always throw something new into what they already know. And all that it cost is getting on your knees with them and say Good Dogs a few times and scratch them behind the ears a little.

 

     1983 I had a well trained dog by my side day and night for 1 1/2 years [a mutt]. Everyone loved her and we were just getting on a role. I went fishing for a couple of months. She, it turned out, was only highly trained with me. Being unruly and an escape artist got her put down at the pound.

 

 

       ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        BAD on ME

  

 

   The Rice Krispies in my bones say let the dust fall baby. Like these dogs I've longed all these years for I've gotta throw something new into what I already know.

 

 

    Remember this guy from my My Buddy and I blog. Sky is gone now but I understand what you mean about Border Collies. All he's really hoping for is us to learn how to talk dog  :-]


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Posted on Jul 13, 2014 at 11:45 AM

Fishy,

  

Your comment:

  

“So about dogs. When I do start letting dust settle on me 3 of these work dogs are on my list to keep me from getting a sore butt from setting on it to long. Belgian Shepherd  Groenendael, the only thing they need is a tender hand full of love to work their hearts out for you.”

  

I kind of like equally the Australian Blue, the Border Collie, and the English Shepard (not the English Sheepdog.).  The English Shepard has basically the same ancestors as the Collie, but has not been afflicted by the show dog syndrome.  Rugged and dependable.  Has considerable resemblance to a Collie.  Shorter broader nose and generally a more rugged appearance.   

  

When you are letting the dust settle on you what sorts of work will you have these dogs do? 

 


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Posted on Jul 13, 2014 at 01:16 AM

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Perhaps you need to bring a bag of treats along to keep the dog around....  Mine LOVES treats!!  LOL  :-)



Hi Linglit, I'd Love to be your dawg! It would be a treat just being with you.

 

  So about dogs. When I do start letting dust settle on me 3 of these work dogs are on my list to keep me from getting a sore butt from setting on it to long. Belgian Shepherd  Groenendael, the only thing they need is a tender hand full of love to work their hearts out for you.


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Posted on Jul 11, 2014 at 09:12 PM

Quoting author:

Perhaps you need to bring a bag of treats along to keep the dog around....  Mine LOVES treats!!  LOL  :-)



I know you were taking to fishy, but thanks for stopping by anyhow.   

 


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Posted on Jul 11, 2014 at 09:14 AM

Another idea is, maybe get a cat! Mine will walk around with me outside with no leash on. He will even jump in my cat to take rides with me.  LOL!!!  :-) 


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Posted on Jul 11, 2014 at 09:12 AM

Perhaps you need to bring a bag of treats along to keep the dog around....  Mine LOVES treats!!  LOL  :-)


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Posted on Jul 08, 2014 at 10:37 AM

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I do not believe that anybody actually has the balls to go on a date or even want to meet a person on this site.i've had a couple of emails that ,I thought were promising, then all of a sudden stop when I mentioned coffee.

maybe it's the word "coffee" , I don't know.

like you said emails/txt, everything is lost in translation! You can't get honesty & integrity over the phone.

I couldn't care less what car you guys drive, how much you make a year,or what possessions you have ,those things are irrelevant .when it comes to the vibe/connection when people meet!

unfortunatley, with you men with money you don't realize that these cut off emails you've over looked "the real one "that you've been searching for!


Well, I have met, in person, face to face, ladies from this site.  Does not require too much courage. 

  

Don’t think coffee should scare anyone.  Coffee in bed, pillow talk, maybe that might scare someone, I don’t know.

  

You are supporting my point you know.  You have to meet before anything can happen. 

  

Not all men on this site are seriously wealthy.  Some are.  Some ladies on this site are too. 

  

Thanks for your comments.  Wish you better luck in the future.

 


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Posted on Jul 08, 2014 at 07:09 AM

I do not believe that anybody actually has the balls to go on a date or even want to meet a person on this site.i've had a couple of emails that ,I thought were promising, then all of a sudden stop when I mentioned coffee.

maybe it's the word "coffee" , I don't know.

like you said emails/txt, everything is lost in translation! You can't get honesty & integrity over the phone.

I couldn't care less what car you guys drive, how much you make a year,or what possessions you have ,those things are irrelevant .when it comes to the vibe/connection when people meet!

unfortunatley, with you men with money you don't realize that these cut off emails you've over looked "the real one "that you've been searching for!


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Posted on Jul 07, 2014 at 08:43 AM

HA! RMAC

 

You may have a valid argument there! My son hasn't been in his teens for years, but I still might not want him acting w/ hormonal rage!! 

 

What I was saying to give you a heads up is that there has been a recent study out, you know, since we enjoy statistics so much.. 

 

Turns out---

 

Despite people complaining .....

Birthdays ARE good for you!! 

 

The people who have the most birthdays LIVE LONGER!!!

PROVEN FACT! ;) 


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Posted on Jul 06, 2014 at 02:57 PM

Hope, here is the deal.  You never tell a late-teenager/early-20s something male to be himself.  Society is seriously not ready for that.  He needs to present a gentler, tamer, more civilized version of himself.  For all of that, if a mid-teen/early-teen is dating, it is only more so.  The jails are too full now. 

  

What do you mean you have my latest statistics?  You possess secrets even I don’t know?

 

 

 


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Posted on Jul 05, 2014 at 10:26 PM

OH, ALMOST FORGOT... 

 

I HAVE YOUR LATEST STATISTIC!!!!! 

 

;~) 


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Posted on Jul 05, 2014 at 10:21 PM

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Hi Hope –

  

I still have a problem calling them researchers.  The clones don’t really pop in on the dating sites.  At least not to my knowledge.  They do pop up when you are trying to run down some fact or another on the internet.  The come on goes something like, “How to get the hot women you want in three easy steps.  She will be like putty in your hands.”   Maybe they don’t pop up for women.  Not at all sure why I would want putty in my hands, but curiosity is wonderful.  Their spiel is not.  It never ends.  They never do let out the secret.

  

The person I quoted had a little more credibility.  He demonstrated his prowess on TV.  He really could get a high percentage of random ladies phone numbers.  I quoted his comments.  Not from TV, from his later info on the internet.  Anyhow, I related his comments to online dating.  So I have to take the blame for that.  I still think it makes for an interesting blog though.

  

Not sure asking a woman is all that great an idea.  I grew up with lots of older sisters and one younger sister.  Wonderful in many ways.  However, my younger sister was the only one that did not give me advice on dating.  For the first years I was dating, things did not go well.  I was not doing all the things my sisters told me never to do.  When I started to let my raging hormones rage a little bit, things started working better. 

 



RMAC---

 

You always manage to put a smile on my face!!! 

 

NOT sure about NOT doing things your sisters NEVER told you NOT to do?? HMmmmm..... LoLoL... 

 

Is this WHO'S ON FIRST... IN DATING FORM???  ;)

 

I think it is all relatively simple., 

 

Pose who you are in REAL LIFE on the internet. 

 

No phony photos, put the date so the viewers can see how you age and what is most recent, convey who you are for real... don't say you enjoy certain activities if you don't! 

 

JUST BE REAL!!! 

 

Obviously, it differs for men and women. 

 

I, for one, would never be applicable for getting "hot guys" or "most numbers" in an hour, as I do not find women act lady-like or classy when throwing themself at a man.. I have never, and will never, ask a man for a date! 

 

And yes, I do receive emails and pop-ups, etc. on HOW TO KEEP A MAN, HOW TO MAKE HIM FALL IN LOVE, HOW TO MAKE A MAN COMMIT... 

 

HA! 

 

I say HOGWASH!!!!

 

IF a man falls for a woman, there is nothing that can stand in his way of getting to her... not even his best friend!!  MEN IN LOVE ARE CRAZY!!!    ;~) 

 

NOW,,,,,,

 

WHERE'S MY CRAZY MAN AT!!!!!! 

 

 


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Posted on Jul 05, 2014 at 06:39 PM

Hi Hope –

  

I still have a problem calling them researchers.  The clones don’t really pop in on the dating sites.  At least not to my knowledge.  They do pop up when you are trying to run down some fact or another on the internet.  The come on goes something like, “How to get the hot women you want in three easy steps.  She will be like putty in your hands.”   Maybe they don’t pop up for women.  Not at all sure why I would want putty in my hands, but curiosity is wonderful.  Their spiel is not.  It never ends.  They never do let out the secret.

  

The person I quoted had a little more credibility.  He demonstrated his prowess on TV.  He really could get a high percentage of random ladies phone numbers.  I quoted his comments.  Not from TV, from his later info on the internet.  Anyhow, I related his comments to online dating.  So I have to take the blame for that.  I still think it makes for an interesting blog though.

  

Not sure asking a woman is all that great an idea.  I grew up with lots of older sisters and one younger sister.  Wonderful in many ways.  However, my younger sister was the only one that did not give me advice on dating.  For the first years I was dating, things did not go well.  I was not doing all the things my sisters told me never to do.  When I started to let my raging hormones rage a little bit, things started working better. 

 


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Posted on Jul 05, 2014 at 09:11 AM

Quoting author:

  I once had a lady ask me how long had I been single.

 

   35 years I've been divorced I said, How did you know?

 

       No wife would let you walk out the door dressed like that she said.

 

 

  The new clothes stay home, the older ones go to the boat for fishing season. When their done for they clean the bilge.  [No, I haven't cleaned the bilge yet  :-]



FISHY---

 

 

YOU ARE ALWAYS CRACKING ME UP!!!!    ;) 

 

DAKOTA--- 

 

I know some dogs and monkeys that have this online dating thing down better than some people! ;) 


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Posted on Jul 05, 2014 at 09:09 AM

Hi RMAC---

 

Yes, I have even seen some of the self-proclaimed researchers pop in here for their "Words Of Wisdom and Research," as well.... 

 

Seems to me, if a man wants to know what works with a woman, it might be more prudent to ASK A WOMAN, NOT ANOTHER MAN! But hey, that's just me!!! ;) 

 

Personally, if people would use a little COMMON SENSE, it would go a long way in assisting them with dating...

 


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Posted on Jul 05, 2014 at 07:54 AM

Hi Hope,

  

I don’t think I would call this person a researcher.  He was a self-proclaimed expert on picking up women/getting dates with women who previously did not know him.   

  

I read about him some years back and thought his views would make an interesting blog topic.  I can’t reference him as this is all from memory, but numbers of his clones hold forth on the internet.  

  

Come back now and then.  Often.  It is fun having you around. 

 


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