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RealtorLulu
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Posted on Wed, Jan 30, 2013 13:38


Ray and Hope;

 

I like this idea. I have posted half dozen comments here and there but feel a bit disgusted by the bickering among some of the participants. I agree with Hope, what a person says on a blog is their opinion and no one has to agree with it. It doesn't mean that they must start a fight. There are ways of expressing your side without becoming abusive.

When it comes to "winks" and being chosen as a "favorite", if you don't say anything to the person, it doesn't really mean much. Also, some of us are not paying members and cannot wink back with comments. If you wink and say something, then the person on the other end can reply. The same goes for emailing.

Ditto, for the Dog comes first. I love animals but when I have a special man in my life, that relationship comes first. It requires nurturing and putting an animal ahead of him is pure idiocy.

I also feel that there are phrases that become a part of us humans. There are some that will say "you know" every other word. It's annoying but we must understand that it is a habit, like smoking. You can't just stop.

Personally, I joined MM because I got tired of having much younger guys hitting on me. I also thought that I would meet men that had more intelligent things to say than "You're Hot." Now, I am here because of you guys. I really enjoy reading and sometimes adding my two cents to your blogs. It's like having good friends that I have never met. By the way, if you guys are ever planning to come to the Dallas area, please let me know. I'd love to show you around.

 

 

 

Lulu



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NGL2011
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Posted on Wed, Jan 30, 2013 11:23

Hope, you ask,

1) WHY **wink at a woman? What is a woman's response to be? I've had members wink and I just ignore it... I feel, FOR ME, I prefer a strong personality in a man, as I know I can be a handful.. it is what I mesh with best, so I NEED a man who is forward and take charge. I don't seek men out.. Just doesn't fit "me."

 

The wink, I don't use it much at all and if I do, it's usally because they/MM are showing someones Birthday, so I send them a Happy Birthday Wink. In my case when I do that, it doesn't mean anything other than, Happy Birthday,, doesn't mean anything else. Now my guess is, When someone might be more on the "shy" side, maybe they just send a wink as a way to gauge if there's interest or have you look at their profile. Now how should you respond,,if you might be interested "Wink" back and see if he runs with the ball,,, if not, no harm no foul. Not seeking out Men IMHO is a huge mistake on a lot of women's part. How about Mr.Wonderful never ran across your profile while he was doing a search ? and you saw his and thought,, hey he sounds really nice,,unless you wink or send a quick hello, you might never have an opportunity. Now lets say that happens,, you can go back you your old fashion ways and let him be the Pursuer,, if he doesn't,, he's not for you. Finally,,I also think it's a huge mistake when women have to have a certain type,, for example,, most men I know with the personality like your looking for,, are control freaks and very aggressive in all aspects of their lives. IMHO Never mistake laid back or passive as a sign of weakness !




2) When men write a woman, and women, please tell me if you get this too.. I either get a one sentence, "How are you?" or a flipping 2 page letter... What's wrong with a NORMAL paragraph addressing something a man finds we have in common. And seriously, some men just write to say, "Wow, you're HOT." Okay, how to respond. "WoW!

I would think that if a man is interested/serious about being here he would do a Normal paragraph, making a comment on your profile, maybe listing things in common, then maybe ask a question. My guess would be the scammers we hear about or the "Players" we hear about are the ones with a Pre-typed 2 page letter. (just a guess on my part) I know for sure you won't get that out of me. I'm not a good typer so writing 2 pages would take forever,, and frankly I don't have the attention span to write that much...LOL The "wow you hot" email,,I've done that before, just to compliment a woman on her pictures, However I've never wrote those words in one sentence ever !  LOL I might usually say something like, I just wanted to compliment you, you look beautiful in those photo's. That also doesn't mean though that I'm interested, when I write only that, and not say anything on her profile,,it's just that,, a compliment, nothing more.

Help me to understand, why would a women send someone money they have never met or aren't in a relationship with ?



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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2013 16:25

Hi RAY.... 

 

 

 

Well this was a shock and a pleasant surprise!! You know I enjoy "digging deeper" and understanding others, so this is perfect! ;) 

 

 

 

First, I wish to say I completely understand the DELETE button and have used it recently on 2 blogs. I just want people to get along and have dealt with much lately, so please allow me to say this and perhaps everyone can understand where the initial blogger is coming from... 

 

 

 

When someone posts a blog, there are several things I think is essential for them to understand as the poster.. and I have blogged for many years and seen many issues arise.. 

 

 

 

1) Not everyone will agree with what you post, so be prepared for this. As long as they approach their response in a respectful manner, their position should be welcomed, just as the bloggers should be.

 

 

 

WE ARE HERE TO LEARN... AND EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING THEY CAN OFFER... 

 

 

 

2) If people DO start feuding, I now recommend hitting DELETE. If you are a paid member, you can always write them and express WHY... 

 

 

 

3) We must always bear in mind, when we DO feud with someone, regardless of who we are or even what our position is... It places everyone in an ill position.. as well as shows the blogger and others disrespect. We have probably all held ill words at one time or another, but we should try to be more accepting of others thoughts.

 

 

 

4) We must all remember we aren't chatting on the phone or in person.. Writing is subject to how WE read it and 2 people may read the same thing entirely differently.. With no voice, often our words may differ than what we mean. 

 

 

 

Now for my thoughts.. YES. there are scammers.. BUT.... I've never had anyone ask me for anything on this site.. I do not respond to winks, nor do I hit men up, due to my personal feelings on this, so I don't have issues here.. I do grow tired of hearing about scammers though. I prefer to focus on the positive and just remind myself time to time there are people out here trying to scam, but my primary focus is to enjoy myself and make new friends.. and hey, if love comes my way... GREAT!! :)

 

 

 

I'm with you on the "dog" thing.. I love dogs and had some awesome ones over the years I was very attached to.. But to start off a profile saying a man (or woman) is taking a back seat.. to an animal? NO.. I expect it from children, but if a woman doesn't view a real live man in their bed as more of a commodity then a dog...  I truly lack understanding of their mind set.. 

 

 

 

Want to be honest? I think is most likely just a habit of saying it. We catch a phrase and for 6 months hold that phrase! I do not feel it means someone is "dishonest".. (as some psycologist say) ... I go through phrases myself, so it makes sense to me.. 

 

 

 

Generous? Men usually mean $$$$.. Women mean sex.. 

 

 

 

Now, what do I not understand? 

 

 

 

Hmm.... 

 

 

 

1) WHY **wink at a woman? What is a woman's response to be? I've had members wink and I just ignore it... I feel, FOR ME, I prefer a strong personality in a man, as I know I can be a handful.. it is what I mesh with best, so I NEED a man who is forward and take charge. I don't seek men out.. Just doesn't fit "me." 

 

 

 

2) When men write a woman, and women, please tell me if you get this too.. I either get a one sentence, "How are you?" or a flipping 2 page letter... What's wrong with a NORMAL paragraph addressing something a man finds we have in common. And seriously, some men just write to say, "Wow, you're HOT." Okay, how to respond. "WoW! Thanks?" 

 

 

 

ENLIGHTEN ME HERE!! 

 

 

 

Have a great night RAY! :) 

 

 

 




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