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Posted on Sun, Nov 04, 2012 07:17

What makes a man attractive to a woman?

 

Forever classy asked the reverse question.  So I, and maybe we, would like to know.

 

Some observations; not in any order of importance.

 

 

1.    Being what women would consider attractive helps, but it is by no means a sufficient condition.

2.    Being able to make a woman laugh definitely helps.  It seems almost a sufficient condition. 

3.    Knowing how to dance and being willing to do it.  Women, far more than men seem to love this.

4.    The gift of blarney.  They know it is blarney.  You know it is blarney.  They love it anyhow.

5.    Being smooth and polished.  Women seem far more vulnerable to this than is good for them.    

6.    So many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.  Being able to easily and willingly dress up or down from jeans to a tux. 

7.    As in #6, so many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.  Must love to travel.

 

 

Any additions, corrections, and comments in general? 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Dec 18, 2012 07:08

-- Voyager – Few women date the homeless.  Thanks for the comment. 

 

 

 

-- mustlovebaseall – Nice “hearing” from you.  Thanks

 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Sun, Dec 16, 2012 07:10

Bingo!RE:"Let us face it.  What women find attractive is a man who when a bear is threatening the cave will go out and kill the d*mn bear; that or die trying.  Everything else is fluff." 

 

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Posted on Sat, Dec 15, 2012 16:31

Let us face it.  What women find attractive is a man who when a bear is threatening the cave will go out and kill the d*mn bear; that or die trying.  Everything else is fluff. 

 

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Dec 04, 2012 09:20

Quoting Jenkneee:

What makes a man attractive to me? 

 

 Among other qualities is that he accepts me as I am.


Yes, it is a bit off putting to be taken on as someone’s improvement project. 

 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Sun, Dec 02, 2012 10:56

What makes a man attractive to me? 

 

 Among other qualities is that he accepts me as I am.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 17, 2012 21:49

Quoting Voyager54:

~ In my life, I have noticed, that most woemn are seriously attracted to guys with dark hair, medium tans, open shirts with lots of gold chains and a diamond pinky ring...that, and guys that look like that and hang out in public gyms with greasy pecs and they also seem to be attracted to guys that shave themselves all over...very gay by the way.

I have found that no matter how much money I have and all the cool things I have , cannot compete with a slicked down, dark looking Italian or Greek type of guy. Hence...I golf. Fish.Party...I do all the things that most women hate, because hey...why should I waste my time with women that don't even know what cool really means.



Voyager...

Forget the money and the toys. Look for someone who appreciates the unique human being you are...who loves animals, enjoys golf, fishing, movies and partying...even if it's only a party for two. You have a lot going for you...look at yourself in the mirror and stop seeing dollar signs and cool 'toys' and see yourself as others see you. You have a lot more to offer than some muscle bound, greased up guy who can't pass a mirror without admiring himself and is too shallow to see beyond his own face. Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places. If you're going to portray a playboy, you're going to attract a lot of bimbos. Let the 'real' you shine through. ;-)



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Posted on Thu, Nov 15, 2012 07:56

Quoting easymantolove:

You do realize that my original comments are a joke, right?


Yes, I knew, else you would have been way out of character.

  

RMac



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Posted on Wed, Nov 14, 2012 13:33

MSN’s “Top Ten Traits Women Want in a Man”

 

 

 

First off they say that the one thing to get a women’s attention is money, but beyond that they listed, as ranked by a poll of 1000 women, the following:

 

 

 

1.       Faithfulness

 

2.       Dependability

 

3.       Kindness

 

4.       Sense of humor

 

5.       Intelligence

 

6.       Passion

 

7.       Listening

 

8.       Romancing

 

9.       Sense of style

 

10.   Handsome face

 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Wed, Nov 14, 2012 07:48

Hi Hope  --  I think I found 11 points in your list. If I had spilt it out into single traits even more.  Obviously one can’t argue with anyone’s preferences.  It is just how they see things.  Nobody is wrong, everybody is unique.    

 

Actually my first point was about an attractive appearance.  What you see before you know anything else about the person.  Over time that can be colored by many things, personality, bearing, posture, courtesy, respect, and so on and on.  Ultimately even by whether or not you like the person.  I should have stated that better.  Luckily, most people took it that way. 

 

To me, it seems women more than men desire someone who can make them laugh.  This is a bit more than a good sense of humor.  It is a way of saying things.  A quick wit.  An ability to defuse tense situations.  An ability to catch someone by surprise.  Some women like a bit of a sarcastic twist.  Others not so much. 

 

I have pondered what a good sense of humor, when requested on a profile, really means.  Best I can do is that it means a sense of humor they can appreciate.   

 

Thanks for your comments.

RMac



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Posted on Wed, Nov 14, 2012 03:37

Quoting rmac22:

easymantolove

 

Obviously wealth is an attractive feature.  I left out a lot of attractive features.  However, I do not think wealth alone is enough, but perhaps I should let the ladies address that.

 

You are it seems a reasonable and rational man.  Likely also charming.  The fact that ladies might find the combination attractive is not surprising. 

 

RMac



You do realize that my original comments are a joke, right?



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Posted on Tue, Nov 13, 2012 20:21

Quoting rmac22:

What makes a man attractive to a woman?

 

Forever classy asked the reverse question.  So I, and maybe we, would like to know.

 

Some observations; not in any order of importance.

 

 

1.    Being what women would consider attractive helps, but it is by no means a sufficient condition.

2.    Being able to make a woman laugh definitely helps.  It seems almost a sufficient condition. 

3.    Knowing how to dance and being willing to do it.  Women, far more than men seem to love this.

4.    The gift of blarney.  They know it is blarney.  You know it is blarney.  They love it anyhow.

5.    Being smooth and polished.  Women seem far more vulnerable to this than is good for them.    

6.    So many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.  Being able to easily and willingly dress up or down from jeans to a tux. 

7.    As in #6, so many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.  Must love to travel.

 

 

Any additions, corrections, and comments in general? 

 

 

RMac


Hi RMAC.... 

 

Finally a moment to hit here... ;)

 

Obviously, this is NOT referring to "looks" so I am skipping over that... I have met many "attractive" men merely by their personalities.. 

 

#2 is the only one I care about on your list... LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE.. and there is no human being that doesn't enjoy a sense of humor.. 

 

"Attraction" for me on this level has to do with how a man "carries" himself. 

 

CONFIDENT NOT COCKY (Arrogance is ALWAYS a turn off for me) 

 

SELF-AWARE (Men who know who they are and where they are going is important for me) 

 

GENTLEMEN (If I see ANY man open a door for ANYONE... I am automatically happy.. Ladies, I rarely open my own doors unless I am alone, so if men are not always opening doors for you.. pay attention to your own demeanor... and your "presentation" to the world. I am serious! Not every woman has the same appeal in appearance... BUT... if you exude an air about you that screams.. "I am a lady.." MEN RESPOND! Rarely am I ever shocked by men NOT being "gentlemen" to me... IT'S IN THEIR NATURE!!  ;)

 

KNOWING WINE... I am attracted to men who know their wines.

 

TAKE CHARGE MEN... A man who says, "I'm picking you up at 7 and have the night mapped out! Don't worry about a thing!" Or... the man who connects with the waiter immediately when he asks if your steak is good.. and you reply with, "It's a little over MR... " HE lets waiter know you are not happy. I have a strong personality yes, but I really don't desire to be in charge all the time... 

 

POISED MEN If you want to know what is a huge turn off men... it's how you might respond to something.. Mean to the waiter? Get road rage? Make fun of people at mall who are heavy or how they dress? Call women names? HUGE TURN OFF!! 

 

GENUINE KIND ASSERTIVE RESPONDING CONNECTING 

 

OH RMAC, I had to look up blarney as well.. I know what you mean...Blarney can be good as long as the man is SINCERE... I enjoy "suave" men... Being "smooth" is not a bad thing.. As long as a man is not phony!! ;)

 

 

 

 



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Posted on Tue, Nov 13, 2012 18:47

Quoting Voyager54:

~ In my life, I have noticed, that most woemn are seriously attracted to guys with dark hair, medium tans, open shirts with lots of gold chains and a diamond pinky ring...that, and guys that look like that and hang out in public gyms with greasy pecs and they also seem to be attracted to guys that shave themselves all over...very gay by the way.

I have found that no matter how much money I have and all the cool things I have , cannot compete with a slicked down, dark looking Italian or Greek type of guy. Hence...I golf. Fish.Party...I do all the things that most women hate, because hey...why should I waste my time with women that don't even know what cool really means.



V, it's very clear you are selling yourself short.  I, for one--and there are tons of women just like me who are 10, 20, 30 years younger than I am who feel the same way--am NOT attracted to those low cut open shirts you're talking about, or those gold chains and diamond pinky rings.

 

In fact, there's a horde of us out here of all ages who run from such things as fast as we can because such things represent the very last kind of ideals we want to be involved with. 

 

Some of us have actually been involved with the diamond encrusted pinkie ring types----

 

Disaster--unless a woman is looking for shallow, shallow, shallow. 

 

V. you're defnitely honing in on stereotypes.  Time to get REAL and let the stereotypes go.

 

JMHO



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Posted on Tue, Nov 13, 2012 07:51

Quoting Voyager54:

~ In my life, I have noticed, that most woemn are seriously attracted to guys with dark hair, medium tans, open shirts with lots of gold chains and a diamond pinky ring...that, and guys that look like that and hang out in public gyms with greasy pecs and they also seem to be attracted to guys that shave themselves all over...very gay by the way.

I have found that no matter how much money I have and all the cool things I have , cannot compete with a slicked down, dark looking Italian or Greek type of guy. Hence...I golf. Fish.Party...I do all the things that most women hate, because hey...why should I waste my time with women that don't even know what cool really means.



-- Voyager – I guess either I could compete with them or all the ladies I liked were really good at convincing me that they preferred my type.

RMac

 



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Posted on Mon, Nov 12, 2012 05:14

Quoting RMac...

  

"-- Windrider – I guess my “instinctive” take on “smooth and polished” is an expression common with the men from the area I come from and specifically my father.  Of such people he would say, “When you see him coming lock up your silver, hide your wife and daughters, and keep your hand on your wallet.” I do understand the differing takes here though.  I would probably try to describe such men differently. 

Maybe my take is in the realm of being, “Just a little too smooth and polished to be trusted.”  

Most of the successful rascals and scoundrels hide within the ranks of the “smooth and polished.”


 

Thanks for your comment.

RMac"

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ROFLMAO...Your father's definition describes men who make wonderful friends but lousy lovers and husbands. Never a dull moment but ya just can't trust 'em!



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Posted on Sun, Nov 11, 2012 07:10

Quoting lostinthe70s:

@ rmac,

You are right! It's been awhile since I read the book. Touch and affirmation would be the closest to what I'm talking about. Thank you..

Toodles..... :)



Gary Chapman's first booK, "The five love languages,” is a great book.  I am not so fond of all his subsequent books on the same theme. 

 

I agree that humor and intelligence are important. 

 

Thanks for your comments.

RMac

 



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Posted on Sun, Nov 11, 2012 06:40

Quoting Windrider735:

What's your take on being smooth and polished?

I realize for many it comes down to being well educated and stylish, but I've known men (and women, too) who were educated way beyond their intelligence and dressed in nothing but designer clothes, who were total pricks. I think it has more to do with being at ease in any setting, and being able to speak to everyone they meet on their own level. No one likes to be 'talked down to'.

As for dancing in the rain...I hope you realize clothes are optional! ;-)



-- Windrider – I guess my “instinctive” take on “smooth and polished” is an expression common with the men from the area I come from and specifically my father.  Of such people he would say, “When you see him coming lock up your silver, hide your wife and daughters, and keep your hand on your wallet.” I do understand the differing takes here though.  I would probably try to describe such men differently. 

 

Maybe my take is in the realm of being, “Just a little too smooth and polished to be trusted.”

 

Most of the successful rascals and scoundrels hide within the ranks of the “smooth and polished.”

 

Thanks for your comment.

RMac



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Posted on Sat, Nov 10, 2012 02:02

Quoting rmac22:

-- Windrider – I like your comments.  A little dancing in the rain is good thing.  Slow dancing with someone you love.  Ah yes.  Clearly the words “being smooth and polished” denotes different things to different people.  So far two different takes on them, both different from mine.   

 

Thanks,

RMac



What's your take on being smooth and polished?

I realize for many it comes down to being well educated and stylish, but I've known men (and women, too) who were educated way beyond their intelligence and dressed in nothing but designer clothes, who were total pricks. I think it has more to do with being at ease in any setting, and being able to speak to everyone they meet on their own level. No one likes to be 'talked down to'.

As for dancing in the rain...I hope you realize clothes are optional! ;-)



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Posted on Sat, Nov 10, 2012 00:38

@ rmac,

You are right! It's been awhile since I read the book. Touch and affirmation would be the closest to what I'm talking about. Thank you..

Toodles..... :)



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Posted on Fri, Nov 09, 2012 08:16

Quoting lostinthe70s:

A man who adores and respects me. The 5 love languages. Mine is "affection". I love to give it and receive it. Intelligence and humor is a must. Peace....

 


From the book they are:  Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Touch. 

 

Mine are:  tied for top Affirmation and Touch, tied for second place Gifts and Time, Acts of Service came in last.  Not that acts of service is not important, just way less critical than the others. 

 

I have been trying to figure out “affection,” where it fits.  Some combination of Affirmation and Touch?  Anyhow, I think affection and respect are pretty important for me too.

 

Thanks for your comment.

RMac



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