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Posted on Thu, Oct 11, 2012 11:14

“Rich Wives, Poor Husbands,” Atlantic Monthly, October 2012

 

This article is about Rich wives and their current or ex house husbands.   It does not paint a nice picture of the wives, but then that may just be my biased view.   I would like a number of you to read the article and comment on it.  Women especially, but everyone’s opinion is welcome.

 

To find the actual article try searching the internet using, “The Weaker Sex,” by Sandra Tsing Loh.  Among the many choices look for October 2012 Atlantic included in the description.    

 


I tried both Bing and Google.  Both work.

  

Searching on just Sandra Tsing Loh uncovers a wealth of articles only somewhat related to the subject.

 

RMac



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Posted on Sat, Oct 27, 2012 08:46

I have a case history, an actual family I knew.   Happy people, had fun together.  Did lots of activities involving the two boys and both parents.  Both parents worked just as was necessary for many.   Nothing exceptional, except maybe that everything was working so well.

Then the lady inherited money, lots of money.  Wealth more than a few notches above where they were.    

Within about a year, maybe two, he was an embarrassment to her.  Not classy enough.  Put all his stuff out for the trash, and started divorce proceedings.

Broke him completely, not just monetarily, but confidence and everything.  Not exactly like the article, but maybe related.  

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Oct 23, 2012 14:54

Diana and prettybaby – I have read sources that say that house husbands are more likely to cheat than men out in the working world.  The same sources say that the reverse is true for women.

 

Maybe men have an ego problem when in the role of being a house husband?

 

Don’t know.

 

RMac   



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Posted on Tue, Oct 23, 2012 14:44

Quoting DIONNAk:

All I can say is that, if I was wealthy I would definitely help my husband in the best way possible. Because if the tables should turn I would love him to do the same for me. And what would be the use to have so much wealth and no one to share it with. Money is not all that can't buy me happiness. love is everything because god is love.


  -- DIONNAK – Good for you.  Would that we we all could live up to that ideal.  Thanks for your comment. 

 

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Oct 23, 2012 14:43

Quoting delasanto1:

I agree with you. I just got divorced after being married for twenty one years. One of the first women i met was a woman who made more money than i did and most men. I didn't notice it at first but she had a conceited streak in her and was not sensative at all. I guess that 's what the business world produces. I would like to meet a wealthy woman of course but I would still have to be her number one priority. not money.

joe



 -- delasanto1 – I would expect to support / take care of my lady.   I would hope she would expect to support / take care of me, if necessary.  If she would not, I did a lousy job of judging her character.  Thanks for your comment. 

 

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Posted on Mon, Oct 22, 2012 19:50

All I can say is that, if I was wealthy I would definitely help my husband in the best way possible. Because if the tables should turn I would love him to do the same for me. And what would be the use to have so much wealth and no one to share it with. Money is not all that can't buy me happiness. love is everything because god is love.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 19, 2012 21:30

Quoting Voyager54:

~Rmac~...How are ya man?...Listen, executives are like a box of chocolates. Some richer than others.

I know some real pricks that are welathy and others that dress in Dickies and drive beater trucks. And some of those are women. Super wealthy. Super low key, off the grid types. Country living has it's benefits...one tends to be more grounded. hanging out in a city, especially if you're wealthy and suddenly, personalities change. It's an Alpha Omega thing.



--Voyager – I am mostly ok.  I know about country living, farming, and being grounded.  Dickies were never my thing.  More the Levis type.  I don’t live in the country now.  Women in Dickies – jarring notion.  I sort of like ladies to get all dollied up.  Shorts and a halter work too.  Just want them to look like a women.   No confusion.  

 

It is good to see you around again.

 

RMac



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Posted on Mon, Oct 15, 2012 12:01

Quoting rmac22:

Easymantolove – In the various groups/clubs I have participated in I have noticed that the women tend to go for the men who excel in whatever that group/club is involved in. I once joined a church group while in college because of all the pretty girls who were members. I could as well not have bothered. At “church” I was way down the totem pole. The girls may have been interested in my soul, but they certainly were not interested in me. There were other male students in that group much better at “church.”

 

A friend in the University band observed the same phenomenon. The girls in band went for the male students who excelled in “band.”

 

And then there were the grade point groupies.

 

Thanks for your comment.

 

RMac

 



What you're describing is the Alpha chasers... that's a known phenomenon documented 10's of 1000's of times in 10's of 1000's of ways.

 

I think Alpha chasing is very different from women who become successful and leave their spouses because they "feel they deserve better".   The women who behave this way have the same illness as men who dump their wives for someone 20 years younger.

 

When you have people like PB and Dianna who get tired of cheating mooches, that's perfectly understandable.

 

All in all, what we're seeing is an other example of growing pains as a result of womens rights... this too will take 30-40 years to work itself out just like men getting custody is just starting to happen.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 14, 2012 06:32

Diana and prettybaby

 

 

 

I am amazed that a house husband would even have much success cheating, though I am not denying that such things happen.  Still, I am amazed.  Women seem to be much more attracted to success than otherwise.

 

 

 

Maybe they misrepresented themselves.

 

 

 

Having said all that, I was a house husband for 3 ½ years.  I did all the usual stuff.  I took my little girl to her various activities.  One being an early morning swim team practice.  The various mothers and I stayed and watched our little girls swim.  A few of the mothers flirted with me outrageously.  Maybe that was just for fun, but maybe not.

 

 

 

Thanks for your comments.

 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Sun, Oct 14, 2012 06:30

Easymantolove – In the various groups/clubs I have participated in I have noticed that the women tend to go for the men who excel in whatever that group/club is involved in. I once joined a church group while in college because of all the pretty girls who were members. I could as well not have bothered. At “church” I was way down the totem pole. The girls may have been interested in my soul, but they certainly were not interested in me. There were other male students in that group much better at “church.”

 

A friend in the University band observed the same phenomenon. The girls in band went for the male students who excelled in “band.”

 

And then there were the grade point groupies.

 

Thanks for your comment.

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sat, Oct 13, 2012 11:20

prettybaby -- the article is in the magazine, Atlantic Monthly, October 2012, page 105.  This magazine can often be found in the magazine section of some  library systems. 

 

 

 

I agree that, that small set of women does not represent all women.  Maybe not even all rich women with poor house husbands.  Thanks for your comment.

 

 

 

RMac

 

 



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Posted on Sat, Oct 13, 2012 10:40

Can't find the artile RMAC.. Found a start of an article about women who earn more than their husbands.. But that was all I found? 

Who wrote the article? 



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Posted on Sat, Oct 13, 2012 08:46

Several years ago I met a woman on here who was a licensed international arms dealer and she made about $35 million a year... owned her own Gulfstream... the whole deal.  She had no problem in flying us to NY for dinner

 

She was also the most highly judgmental person I've ever met.  She had absolutely no respect for any man who earned less than she did.

 

I find it interesting that men generally don't care what their partners do for a living or how little or much they make.  As long as she is happy, not hurting herself, her man or her family all is well... while women just don't feel the same way.

 

Personally, I would think having a man who was a happy janitor would be far more appealing than having a miserable executive.



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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2012 07:26

WERE IS THE ARTICLE? I VE NOT READ THE ARTICLE BUT WHAT EVER MESSAGE IS IN THAT DOESN'T REPRESENT ALL WOMAN

I M NOT RICH BUT WHEN MY BF AND I WAS LIVING TOGETHER I SUPPORTED HIM FOR ALMOST A YEAR WHEN HE LOST HIS JOB AND I WAS GLAD THAT I WAS ABLE TO WORK HARD AND SUPPOURT THE BOTH OF US AND IT GIVES ME PLEASURE FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO SPENT MY MONEY OTHER THEN MYSELF. I WILL HAVE DONE IT ALL OVER AGAIN N NEVER REGRET IT BUT I CAUGHT HIS STUPID SELF IN BED WITH ANOTHER WOMAN .



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