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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 12:06

Some years ago, an old wise lady told me the following;

 

"Successful sexlife in a relationship is only 10% of the relationship but a failing sexlife becomes 90% of the relationship"...

 

Is this the usual case..or what is...?

 

 

 

 

 

 

(...and how about the practice of one night stands? Is it true that it is a general recipe of failure if going for serious relationship from that?)


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Posted on Sat, Oct 13, 2012 11:00

V!!!!  You better quit teasing us!  One of these days, some honey may just come up there and have their way with you.....and no one....will hear your screams!!  :))  *wink*

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Thu, Oct 11, 2012 21:14

Quoting Curious2078:

Clearly--and no offense intended here, Diana--you're mother must be close to dead.

 

"Get over it?"  You've got to be kidding me.  How does anyone get "get over" the sex drive?  Even after the hormones have long gone to sleep the brain still weeps for sex.  Right up until the end. 

 

Unless, of course, some perverse/thoroughly old-fashioned, Puritanical ideal overrides basic instincts.  If that's the case, well, one can agree with "get over it."

 

Otherwise--KEEP HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Lololo....well Pat...at 88....well.....she's pretty old.   *wink*



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Posted on Sat, Oct 06, 2012 20:59

Quoting Diana3316:

World~

Lololol…..I’ve heard this before.  The way I heard it:  If the sex is good, it’s not the most important thing in a relationship; but if the sex is bad, it’s THE most important thing!

 

I do believe sex is the most powerful driver, influencing most choices and preferences.  (Some may remember the experiment with mice and electricity).

 

Having said that, let me just say that there are likely no constants on the importance of such things in different people’s lives, depending on the individual's stage in life and/or experiences. 

 

 My mother tells me to “Get over it!!”  She thinks that at my age, sex should not be very important.  She says that what is most important now….is to “be friends”.  In some respects, I guess she may be right. 

 

But I am still struggling with this one.  *Wink*  

 



Clearly--and no offense intended here, Diana--you're mother must be close to dead.

 

"Get over it?"  You've got to be kidding me.  How does anyone get "get over" the sex drive?  Even after the hormones have long gone to sleep the brain still weeps for sex.  Right up until the end. 

 

Unless, of course, some perverse/thoroughly old-fashioned, Puritanical ideal overrides basic instincts.  If that's the case, well, one can agree with "get over it."

 

Otherwise--KEEP HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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Posted on Thu, Oct 04, 2012 16:03

Hello Shadowme2012 and welcome in the newgroup as Im new aswell...yeah sure it sounds good enough this 10/90...but I have met a couple who have been together for some years and they say they dont have sex often but they LÖÖÖVE eachother soooo much that they dont care nor really miss it and having a lowpulsed sexlife is not any headache for them...I told them that then that means they have just grown into good friends but Im unsure about the Couple label...they seem so awkwardly comfortable...he is not putting any huge effort into grooming himself and we had to give her a spaday as birthday gift for her to treat herself..and they dont even have children..whats that about???



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Posted on Wed, Oct 03, 2012 13:27


I completely agree with the 10 %, 90% thought...and one night stands don't tend to leave any room for expansion.... If there  is huge sexual tension then that means its worth waiting for ... And it will be awesome when it happens after a little more getting to know each other has taken place




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Posted on Tue, Oct 02, 2012 19:07

I have heard that before. Not that I disagree. I think it is true. If everything is working -- then everything is working.  If either of the big two is broken -- then nothing is working. The big two are sex and communication.  The third of the big three is money, but not the amount so much as disagreements regarding use of it.  Divorce rates do go up during periods of high unemployment so obviously inadequate amounts of it does cause problems.

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Mon, Oct 01, 2012 12:58

Maybe thats what "eats" the unhealthy sexlife relation up :-)


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Posted on Mon, Oct 01, 2012 12:56

:-)


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Posted on Mon, Oct 01, 2012 12:55

:-)


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Posted on Sun, Sep 30, 2012 16:24

Hi WORLDMIND...

 

Oh yes.. I find that an "ABSOLUTE TRUTH" of a statement! And, as I notice your style, you appear to be one who likes to know the "WHY" behind what an individual feels.. I LIKE IT! :)

 

WHY do I feel this way? 

 

Unlike you, I have lived the "taudry, trashy" life-style from infidelity to one-nighters etc...

 

In my INFIDELITY, (Yes, as most oldies but goodies here know.. I cheated)...

 

Well through the years and much self-awareness, as well as, FOR ME.. "finding" Jesus.. (He was lost ya know!!! HaHa!) Well, WORLD I learned that SEX when in a relationship means little if other vital elements are missing... 

 

My ex and I had a very active sex life with one another... In 11 years together, we never went over a few days, even during pregnancy.. and after delivery.. NEVER WAITED... (DOES ANYONE REALLY WAIT?) 

 

So I know from my own experience of being someone who "ALLOWED THEMSELF TO BE LED ASTRAY"... that SEX is only a small portion of a relationship WHEN YOU ARE HAVING IT..

 

In so far as being a "Big Deal" if we didn't have it.. OH YES! If I am EVER in a relationship and there is not a fair amount to A LOT of action going down... HOUSTON.... WE GOT PROBLEMS!! I can't say I've had "that" issue in a truly meaningful relationship.. But TRUST ME ON THIS... I recall one time my ex and I went like 5 days and I was crying B/C I thought he didn't find me attractive since I had babies!!! He was really sweet to me.. (while laughing at me) But I thought it was the end of the world!! 



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Posted on Sun, Sep 30, 2012 11:14

Hoping (if I may call you that), Oh so that is a true statement according to you...interesting. Is it because otherwise you could just be friends...like sex and intimacy is the "differene" between just a friend and something more...?

Yes, that pink elephant in the room...:-))



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Posted on Sun, Sep 30, 2012 09:00

"Successful sex-life in a relationship is only 10% of the relationship but a failing sexlife becomes 90% of the relationship"

 

I agree to a certain degree...

 

And I will say this... there have been many a relationship that's started from a one night stand. Why would anyone judge two people for the choice they make in that time and moment?  That is equally as wrong as judging someone for not ever having had a one night stand.

 

And for the record, one night stands are one night stands because the sex wasn't good enough to get him to come back a second time... cause trust me, if the sex was that good, he'd be making plans for the 2nd date before he ever crawled out of bed.

Well....

 



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 21:37

World~

Lololol…..I’ve heard this before.  The way I heard it:  If the sex is good, it’s not the most important thing in a relationship; but if the sex is bad, it’s THE most important thing!

 

I do believe sex is the most powerful driver, influencing most choices and preferences.  (Some may remember the experiment with mice and electricity).

 

Having said that, let me just say that there are likely no constants on the importance of such things in different people’s lives, depending on the individual's stage in life and/or experiences. 

 

 My mother tells me to “Get over it!!”  She thinks that at my age, sex should not be very important.  She says that what is most important now….is to “be friends”.  In some respects, I guess she may be right. 

 

But I am still struggling with this one.  *Wink*  

 



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 17:01

Sure thing Francie :-)

 

As I said in my Fidelity2012 i have never had one night stands etc. so I dont know how it is to have sex with someone before serious feelings are involved..many men have tried their tricks to break my non-one-night-stands rul,  but im sure about my choice so no one could tempt me as I feel sex is the effect of love not the other way around...

 

And when being in a relationship sex was never an "issue", it was a complete pleasure...so I lack the experience in these kind of "sexissues"...but offcource if there is some slight disagreement that specific day, then sex is not the first thing on the mind...then comes the so called "making up sex" and it is amazing...

 

I just dont know or can even imagine how a relationship can be healthy with unhealthy sexlife or so....but also there are people covering up their lackings in the actual relationship with the only thing that seems to connect them..that is bodily pleasure sex sex...so it will be interesting to hear the feedback on this...



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 16:47

Worldmind,

Sex is important in a relationship, but the relationship should not be single-sex. (I think if you get to fall in love with a person ideally, share everything, the good and the bad moments (imagine how serious sex with someone who fills you completely from your beautiful smile)

 

Francie.-



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 16:37

Oh Francie you think? Interesting indeed. Why is that so you think?



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 16:33

 

Worldmind,

 

I think the old woman was very smart, I think the same.

 

Francie



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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2012 13:00

WORLD!! That is one of the most accurate statements I have ever read regarding relationships! 

SEX.. When you're having it.. 

it accounts for "little"....

But when you aren't... 

It counts for "The Lot!" 

Darn that pink elephant!!! ;) 



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